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07 Dec 2020, 5:06 pm

I send my condolences. There's no "right way" or "wrong way" to grieve.

If somebody tries to tell you there is a "right" or a "wrong" way, just ignore that somebody.

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07 Dec 2020, 5:21 pm

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07 Dec 2020, 5:44 pm

I am sorry for your loss.

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07 Dec 2020, 7:33 pm

I’m so sorry for your loss, the grief that feels unbearable. As others have pointed out, grief is a journey only you can take and only you can see the next step. I will hold you in the light. May you find some comfort in your memories.

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07 Dec 2020, 7:45 pm

My heart goes out to you Xfilesgeek. Do what ever you need to , to get through this point in time in your life.

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08 Dec 2020, 12:07 am

(((Hugs)))

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08 Dec 2020, 1:20 am

I'm so sorry.

Its okay to feel sad or not. There's not right or wrong way.

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09 Dec 2020, 12:28 am

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11 Dec 2020, 9:21 am

XFilesGeek wrote:

My mother passed away on December 3rd. She was the person I loved most in the world. I feel like sh_t.

In the past couple of days, I've packed-up her things and got rid of most of her clothes. Some people might think I'm a ghoul for that, but I needed something practical to focus on. I don't know. Maybe I'm doing this "grief" thing wrong, but I'm completely alone. My closest family is 1,000 miles away. At least I still have my dog.

Tomorrow I go to the funeral home to make final arrangements. I know my mother wouldn't want me to be sad, and I'm trying hard to stay positive, but I guess I'm still too much of a base animal to transcend my negative emotions.

*Sigh* Thanks for listening. I just needed to vent.

Condolences XFG. So sorry for your loss.

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11 Dec 2020, 9:52 am

Sorry to hear this, I wish you the best.

I think you are in actual shock right now still which is why you got rid of her stuff - make sure you're not making a rash decision by throwing everything away, you might look back in the future and wish you still had something of hers. Keep stuff like photographs, you might end up regretting throwing stuff like that away.

You will learn how to cope with it and it will get easier over time. Most important of all you are allowed to be mad, upset, and cry your absolute heart out, don't bottle any of these emotions up inside you, let it out and mourn.

Take care.

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11 Dec 2020, 1:00 pm

Mourning is a natural part of life. ... unfortunate , sad but it still happens, part of the process.

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11 Dec 2020, 2:06 pm

So truly sorry, XFG. At least she didn't experience more prolonged suffering and can now be at peace. Doing something practical such as sorting her stuff is fine and helps to process the grief.

Hugs to you! I'm sure your dog is a source of comfort to you and an emotional support for you at this time.

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