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May be better to focus some of that energy on meeting new people, getting skilled at it so whenever something happens you got the upper hand and might enjoy practicing your new skill, getting to know beautiful people

"I didn't have time."

I've thought of this a lot since you posted it. I can believe "I didn't have time" is legit a couple times, but eventually I have to take the hint.

But I've met a couple people fairly recently that insist there is interest when I should have been able to see there is not. I don't get the whole expressing interest when there is none. It amounts to teasing and has caused me a lot of distress. I think I've been a pity project. I appreciate the concern. As harmful as the (probably unintentional) teasing has been, the attention shows some compassion. I really appreciate it, but it has been thoroughly disruptive and confusing and the rejection is way worse when I've invested hope into the friendship.

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This song does nothing for me.

LOL. Thanks for listening.

I deal with the same confusion everyday. The Japanese call it "kuuki yomenai" = "can't read the air"/doesn't get the subtle hints. It's considered a hallmark of autism/Asperger's here.

Anyway, I'm glad you remembered my post. Just be careful not to overthink it.

i have to admit there is a generation gap here, i am just too GD old. but the song did speak to me personally. otherwise, since i am retired and have no other demands on my time, i would gladly give you time out of my day for whatever kind of sharing you thought of at the time. if this comes across as creepy, i apologize in advance.

Thanks, not creepy, and thanks for listening.

I had in mind that there must be something autistic people could do for each other to relieve some of the loneliness. The particular request I made, listen to a song I like and tell me what you think of it, comes from the simplest of things people have failed to do for me. Based on a shared interest, I offer up a youtube video I think they might enjoy, and...they don't watch it. They didn't take me seriously enough to give me six minutes of their time. They could have made me feel like I was part of their life, with a six minute investment of their time, and they decided it wasn't worth six minutes. "Did you watch the video?" "I didn't have time."

just between you and me [I?], many folks seem to be preoccupied twits. just kidding about the 2nd word

I watched the video. Okay,i skipped through bunch of it. Not my thing. I don't see you reply to people here much. You cant wait for response, you have to engage people. If people don't notice you, or find you interesting, even to argue with.... I don't know what else to say... Not everybody is going to be interested in What I, you, blabby or whoever else here has to say...all the time....people are busy....or not so busy, as the case may be, preoccupied.

it doesn't cost anybody anything, no coin whatsoever, to be slightly kinder to posters here.

One thing I acknowledged somewhere in this thread is that there's a piece missing when you invite general strangers to participate in this kind of request. A limitation in the whole setup. It's that, unlike with a person I know a bit, I have no reason to believe anyone will like the video I chose. Probably not a productive request. It was just what I thought of, at the time, a year ago.

Actually, I considered that. It was less than a six minute investment, because it doesn't take six minutes to determine you don't like it. It only takes six minutes if you don't hate it and watch the whole thing.

for this old-timer, it was not something that on its surface would normally have invited my attention, it took prompting for me to give it a chance.

I'm not exactly young, either. And here's the thing. In my search of the most popular youtube music videos, I almost certainly found this band's most popular song. 2.4 billion views. I'm sure I saw it, and didn't think enough of it to even remember seeing it.

But I met a big fan of the band, and I thought enough of them to give their music a listen, and I really liked it. I became a fan, and that 2.4B view song was one of the first that I came to really like.

If someone important to you says it's good, you pay more attention. That's what's missing in my life. Someone who thinks highly enough of me that they'll listen, more than just skipping through, to something I value. I don't have that, and it is a miserable existence.

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Truth.

For that matter, to be slightly kinder to any random person they encounter anywhere. I get it that people have their own lives and crap going on, but really, how hard is it to be a decent human being? *shrugs*

In general, I'm not a person who needs a lot of human interaction. Too much of it messes me up. But I have noticed that a lot of people feel alone, even when surrounded by others. I wonder why it is that all of those people don't just be there for each other. I know I'm missing some obvious thing here and that it cannot be that simple, but it doesn't seem a bad start, imho.

As to the song...
I did listen to the song. I know a guy who got into that band a few years back. Someone told him that he came across like a fan of twenty one pilots. He'd never heard much of them before, so he found some of their songs/videos and really listened. He became an instant fan and has shared a few of their songs with me here and there. It's not my style, but I get the appeal. They do have a unique approach and can be lyrically intelligent, if memory serves me correctly.

^^^THIS

Yeah, that's the point. I was that person to somebody. Took their taste in music seriously enough to listen, and became a fan. They were flattered and delighted, and I found a new joy.

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I watched the complete video, amazing energy and performance. I enjoyed it very much, even the first minute. The crowd made the performance as every member seem to be part of the song, to be in the moment of the song, I'm envious of their experience and the memory they have to ruminate. I would not seek the bands other music as the techno beat just grinds on my senses but can see why other people enjoy it. I'm a one and done kinda guy. I also like being a member of your experiment.