Being treated unfairly

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13 Feb 2021, 4:51 pm

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I know I was slightly neurotic and having anxiety when she looked at me like that. But I can’t help it because I find her intimidating. I always have. I was also PMSing then and can act a bit nuts during that time of the month. The pastor has a habit of just standing there not saying anything sometimes when she hands out lunch. I always get nervous when she just stands there not saying anything because I have autism and suck at conversation. I get nervous when anyone stands there looking at me not saying anything and it’s an uncomfortable silence. Then I have trouble acting normal because they’re making me nervous. So yeah. I hope it’s her that’s the problem but I’m open to the fact she might have noticed something about me that isn’t right. But no one else is acting this way towards me, not even my psychiatrist or the people giving me medication. They’ve been saying I’m doing pretty good. So I don’t know. Time will tell. We’ll see how things go.

she sounds like the type of person who could bring you down.

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13 Feb 2021, 4:52 pm

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She might have some past trauma herself from a patient or even any other person who was a psych patient.

I would honestly avoid her as much as you can.

I hope I am not imposing. Take my advice how you choose to.

If you are in a cold place, stay warm.

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13 Feb 2021, 4:56 pm

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What I am going to say is this, you can choose to take it how you will.

Also, I would keeping in mind, everyone has the capacity to be overwhelming to someone.

Also, life is not fair at times, it’s sad but true.

Again, you can choose to take this how you will. It’s sad she is being cold but people have a choice on how they react to their environment and people in it.

I hope things look up soon.

I always had a problem with life not being fair. I’m not good at being an adult. But I’m getting better than I used to be. Thank you for being blunt. You’re right, it’s just reality.

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13 Feb 2021, 5:33 pm

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CollegeGirlAnon wrote:

I always had a problem with life not being fair. I’m not good at being an adult. But I’m getting better than I used to be. Thank you for being blunt. You’re right, it’s just reality.

I am glad you are getting better!!

This woman and you probably just are not going to mix well.

And with COVID-19 there is more anxiety then normal, so keep that in mind too!!

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14 Feb 2021, 8:15 pm

I’m not sure how I’m going to tell this to the people giving me my medication. I used to talk about how I loved going to the soup kitchen. I hope they will be understanding and not think I’m the one with the problem. I need people on my side.

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14 Feb 2021, 9:54 pm

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You don’t have to tell them much, or anything you don’t want to actually.

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14 Feb 2021, 10:03 pm

I know but they are going to notice I’m down about something and ask why.

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14 Feb 2021, 10:40 pm

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I know but they are going to notice I’m down about something and ask why.

Then tell them why, but also tell them you are looking into other places to go.

Do you get food there or volunteer there?

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14 Feb 2021, 11:34 pm

I get food from there. I could go to the food bank instead I guess. And save more money to feed myself. I've been wanting to learn to cook.

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14 Feb 2021, 11:47 pm

Sarahsmith wrote:

I get food from there. I could go to the food bank instead I guess. And save more money to feed myself. I've been wanting to learn to cook.

Hope that learning to cook , comes in handy ! Good luck and good wishes

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15 Feb 2021, 12:35 am

Sarahsmith wrote:

I get food from there. I could go to the food bank instead I guess. And save more money to feed myself. I've been wanting to learn to cook.

Go to the food bank. Use this as an opportunity to learn how to cook for yourself even if that is taxing.

Trust me, I know cooking can be taxing.

And I have been on tons of psych meds myself since childhood. I can’t advise you per say, but I know they can suck.

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16 Feb 2021, 4:11 pm

Well, thought I try talking to the pastor today. Didn’t work. She was on the phone when I went there today anyway, and it was pouring out rain. Her expression was very serious. I had some time to think about this. It’s not just her. It’s me. I have been suffering from neurosis and extreme anxiety lately. And so I wasn’t even aware I was experiencing it until she drew attention to it. But she isn’t treating me like a friend anymore, just a mentally ill patient. At least she’s treating me like I can’t help it, which I can’t. I don’t want to go back there anymore at all. I can tell she will always treat me like this from now on. I’m talking to my psychiatrist. I don’t think the medication I’m on has ever worked very well. I want something better. You guys were very supportive. So thank you for that.

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05 Mar 2021, 12:42 pm

Update: Went to the soup kitchen today. Either I truly am crazy and read too much into things or the pastor is crazy or we’re both crazy. There were lots of people around and I thought omg. Is she going to embarrass me in front of all these people by acting like nurse ratchet? You know, cold and clinical and mean like last time. She wasn’t today. She was the complete opposite. She was like, hi good to see you again!! She was her natural sweet self like she had been in the past. I told her that I had been talking to them at mental health. (I did not say it was because of her.) she said that was wonderful news. She said good that you’re trying, your stronger than you think. You always have been.

I then left the soup kitchen totally confused. Last time I was there she basically snapped at me and treated me like a mental patient. She had a cold unfriendly look to her like she had it in for me or something. Today she was treating me like a friend again. And it’s not like I went to the mental hospital to change myself or anything... I can’t tell if she’s nuts or it’s me thats crazy or both. But anyway she’s back to her old self. I hope it’s not just because there were other people around.... I still won’t be going there often. She kind of scares me now. I have always been a intimidated by her. I don’t think I’m just imagining things by how I was being treated before. This person might not be good for my mental health.

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05 Mar 2021, 12:55 pm

Sarahsmith wrote:

What I would try to remember is that other people often have their own issues and they might not always be able to be extremely nice and happy all the time.

Expecting that out of someone is not going to end well for anyone.

She is a person as well. She is allowed to have bad days.

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05 Mar 2021, 1:10 pm

Yeah I guess. And that place would be very stressful to work at. In a way, she is still very much a nurse.

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05 Mar 2021, 1:14 pm

I agree. It's quite possible this person was having a bad day.

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