The world is not designed for aspies

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Where did I say the advice wasn't valid? I was merely questioning the way it was delivered. And I'm not the only one who questioned it.

Understand how focus works.
While most aspies are great at holding and maintaining it, most are just as bad at letting it go and redirecting it.


The not ignoring louder thoughts about overthinking about other people is one of those issues.
Just like how one doesn't let go of obsessions. Only difference is the reward system.


How to let go of thoughts that does nothing but misery?

One is to acknowledge it and that it is there to exists.
Avoiding or denying or be obsessive about the thoughts only made it more persistent.

So... Let it pass.
Don't comment in your mind about said thoughts or react -- it'll just let it. Just watch it and let it pass.

And while you watch... You may question it. In reflection.

The 'if I did X, then Y' or 'I'm XYZ' thoughts... Example: "I don't fit in" comes to mind. Or, say, "I'm clumsy and I broke something expensive".
Then the mind generates solutions, assumptions, etc. More chatter.

As it established weird rules and apparently excuses... Rules that just don't allow "Just do it"
As it gives excuses and so-called conditional solutions -- Ask 'then what?' Yes, talking to yourself is very permissible.


Your mind will come up with excuses. It's not your fault -- not directly and consciously.

It's a form of echo.

Based on certain beliefs -- even if those beliefs appeared to run on logic.
In actuality, it's based on memories and subjective experiences as references.

Many are actually run by fear. Fear generates them, fuels them...
Most beliefs either to do with not allowing happiness or is too obsessed with the idea of happiness.

To be able to ignore it (correctly) would mean it won't able to live off your mental energies.

And, less likely to fall in slopes where the thoughts are generated.
But beware that those slopes don't go away. Not really. The mind will keep bringing it up without realizing, you're at it again.



It doesn't have to be parsed nicely ehem -- politely.
Annoyance is a very familiar state of mine.

At the moment, I'm not annoyed.
By shortcomings or someone's helplessness... Or at least threatened with the idea that I may not able to save this person.

I just let it spill. And answer because, why not??

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The world is not "designed" for me.

I have to make my own way in a world not "designed" for me.

I'm not going to give up just because I'm not in an ideal situation.

I didn't do great----but I did okay through adapting to the world which wasn't "designed" for me.