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You get to an age where it isn't an issue.
Well, for some of us.

I don't know OP's age, but I've noticed that some folks are 'meh' about birthdays after a certain age, and generally assume everyone else is also. Food for thought.

My age is in my signature. And it's nothing to do with age, as all people of different ages that use Facebook get lots of birthday wishes from Facebook users of all different ages.

It's not so much being wished a happy birthday to brighten up my birthday, it's the principle of it. It's like people get a notification saying "it's Joe90's birthday..." and they go "meh, it's only Joe90, can't be bothered with her any more" but then they go on to wish their other friends a happy birthday.

What's good for the goose is good for the gander, that's what I always say. It's a matter of politeness to acknowledge a friend on their birthday and with the technology of Facebook invented to keep in touch and stuff there's no excuse to ignore people, especially if they don't ignore you (unless you hardly use Facebook but I'm talking about people who DO). The example of the woman in my OP seemed like she had 'forgotten' on purpose until my cousin reminded her. Even my cousin said that.

My next birthday is my 62nd. I still have no problem celebrating my birthday.

Welcome to my world.

for whatever it is worth to you, if you were in my feed i certainly would have recognized your birthday, but i don't know who you are on FB. i am "ivan washington" there.

Birthdays can be so massively triggering for a lot of people. I always have a hard time on mine. In my case, I never had a party or cake as a child due to a neglectful upbringing (dysfunctional environment, mental health in the family) so I'm extra sensitive to who remembers and acknowledges my birthday now. One year I had no cards at all and it was devastating. I felt so lonely on one birthday a few years ago that I felt a terrible longing to join a couple of random people's conversation in the street (I didn't).

It sounds like birthdays bring up a lot for you due to your feelings about yourself being autistic and the loss of your mum and you wish people would acknowledge you and help you feel better about yourself. I know it's awful to feel forgotten on your birthday of all days. But people not remembering doesn't reflect badly on you. I'm terrible at remembering birthdays. It doesn't mean you're not worthy of being remembered. Something I've learnt over the years is to try and feel good about myself foremost so I'm not constantly seeking it externally. It's good to get acknowledgment from others, of course it is, but it sounds like you hate yourself and your struggle is wanting others to rectify that, which they can't sadly. I think that if you can get in a better place with who you are, you'll start to feel better about your life and everything else. But it's a long hard road.

Like the sergeant-radio man on Hogan’s Heroes, Blabby?

Well I don't want to add people just for the purpose of getting wished a happy birthday by more people, as like I said it's only the principle not the actual fact. But yes I'm sure you would wish me a happy birthday.

i didn't know his last name was washington.

For most of the show's run, that Sergeant was played by Ivan Dixon. In the last year, though, he was played by Kermit Washington. His last name on the show was Kinchloe.

^^^ah so i looked him up and his first name was Ken, the Kermit guy was a basketball player with a foul temper. him [Ken] and robert clary [corporal louis lebeau]] are the last two surviving members of the Hogan's Heroe's cast.

Lol….yep…Kenneth Washington

i can't count the number of times i've goofed on folks' names.

Can you please not discuss an unrelated topic in my thread.