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04 May 2022, 3:57 am

ironpony wrote:

But I wonder, is it not healthy for her to be this way since my other gfs in the past were trying to talk sense into me or so they thought?  Thank you for any opinions on this!  I really appreciate it!


Girlfriends helping their boyfriends is totally unnatural.
Run fast.
Run far. <joke> :mrgreen:

She sounds great. What is the problem? :scratch:



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04 May 2022, 4:01 am

cyberdad wrote:
She supports you. Isn't that a good thing?

Ironpony based on other threads about your g/f she sounds damn near perfect.


I think he is boasting again. 8O

His girlfriend is young, beautiful, and very supportive.
We get it.
ironpony is "Living the Dream". 8)



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04 May 2022, 4:02 am

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Thank you for the compliment, I guess I am just not use to it! In the past, if a gf thought I was doing something foolish, they would try to talk some sense into me. So I guess I am just not use to it.


Never seen a girl who is so into her partner and wants to share/help out so much. It's like saying I won the lottery and I don't know whether I should spend the money.


We are on the same wavelength, cyberdude. 8)



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04 May 2022, 4:07 am

cyberdad wrote:
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It's high risk but I am not sure how else to try to get in.

The question is whether your girlfriend understands the risks as well as the (less likely) potential rewards.


She is an adult, you can;t assume she hasn't considered the risk. When you love somebody you are wiling to share risks whether they be personal, financial or physical


Wait!
He has a young, beautiful, supportive woman who *also* loves him?
I think I'll shoot myself now. :skull:



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12 May 2022, 1:38 am

Sorry I don't mean to make it sound like I am boasting. I really don't. It's just all my other loved ones act like I am in over my head, so I wonder if my gf supporting me may be unhealthy for me if I am in over my head.



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12 May 2022, 5:15 pm

ironpony wrote:
Sorry I don't mean to make it sound like I am boasting. I really don't. It's just all my other loved ones act like I am in over my head, so I wonder if my gf supporting me may be unhealthy for me if I am in over my head.


If I recall there was a 60-70 page thread about how much you disagree with your g/f personal political views. From what I gathered she was otherwise perfect.

My conclusion is you may be having imposter syndrome, This often happens to people when they find their lives are too perfect and they subconsciously don't feel they deserve their good fortune. I am worried you are trying to convince yourself there is something you found about your "angelic" g/f that would justify ending the relationship and you are putting this out there (on this forum) to see if somebody agrees with your paranoia.



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13 May 2022, 2:49 am

Oh maybe. Perhaps this is the case in my subconscious without knowing it. Maybe I am just nervous of things going wrong. I was thinking more of the filmmaking aspect though and really anxious about the project. Unless I am just nervous about things going wrong and just putting up defenses in my subconscious likely.