I have AS, but I don't look like it. I really hate it.

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Do you think this is such a big problem?
yes 39%  39%  [ 39 ]
no 61%  61%  [ 62 ]
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27 Nov 2008, 10:15 pm

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I seriously want an abusive and alcoholic love partner who will beat me, and for looking the way I do, I should be raped everyday.... As I said I am massochistic and LOVE being treated like crap, no kidding.


Being masochistic isn't that unusual and if that gives you sexual pleasure, then having good looks means you should have no problem finding men who will rape you every day. And it's never hard to find a man who will treat you like crap.

None of that, however, has anything to do with AS.



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27 Nov 2008, 10:19 pm

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i think the interesting thing with being pretty and having AS is...that more people approach me and try to have random conversations...this is all good and well when i'm drunk and not feeling socially anxious...but in normal situations it may freak people out: beauty = confidence and not the apparent social defecit/shyness i have, the two don't quite match up...lol x


In my experience, if you are hot and also lack social skills, NT men think you're stupid and an easy target. Like low-hanging fruit that they luckily came across. They do condescending things to get you and then when they fail they are enraged. Their perception that because a woman is socially naive she is stupid or a slut, is something that some men cannot be untaught. In reality the NT men who behaved this way were none of them worth my time. Including my professor, who also struck out with me because he was treating me like a ret*d sex object.

I saw another post on this website that said that Asperger people are lightning rods for a**holes, and people who were jerks revealed themselves to Aspergers because they think they are dealing with stupid people and can get away with it. That's certainly true for attractive Asperger women. As you get older you realize how much of your time is spent dealing with NT jerks who think you are easy sexual prey because you lack social skills. Every NT sexually desperate loser and creepy old man in the vicinity comes out of the woodwork to try to get a piece of the socially ret*d hot woman.

This girl with her "I'm so pretty I deserved to be raped" thread will have plenty of opportunity to learn that.


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27 Nov 2008, 10:44 pm

Post your picture.



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27 Nov 2008, 11:21 pm

This is the issue of having an "invisble" disability. You don't look how NTs believe someone who is "ret*d" should look, they can't comprehend that, so they act as if you're lying or putting yourself down with labeling yourself as an Aspie. I don't really know what would be a good way to go about this, perhaps saying "I do have Asperger's why do you feel there is something wrong with that?" Although I'm sure that will get you little more than the typical NT reaction, to a situation they are incapable of knowing how to react to. Deer in the headlight eyes, and looking around like a scared little child who needs mommy.



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28 Nov 2008, 5:24 pm

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This is the issue of having an "invisble" disability. You don't look how NTs believe someone who is "ret*d" should look, they can't comprehend that, so they act as if you're lying or putting yourself down with labeling yourself as an Aspie. I don't really know what would be a good way to go about this, perhaps saying "I do have Asperger's why do you feel there is something wrong with that?" Although I'm sure that will get you little more than the typical NT reaction, to a situation they are incapable of knowing how to react to. Deer in the headlight eyes, and looking around like a scared little child who needs mommy.


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28 Nov 2008, 5:38 pm

Hi! It's me again. I am sorry to learn that you don't feel any better.

All of us read the anger in your writing. I only wish that I could understand what you would like someone to say to you. From the posts that I have read on your topic people have tried several tactics and none of them have worked.

The way you write about your intentions to become a prostitute and take drugs reads like a threat.

Would you, please, instead of letting us know how you want to destroy your appearance just let us know how we can help you feel better?

Thanks. irene



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28 Nov 2008, 5:52 pm

irene wrote:
Hi! It's me again. I am sorry to learn that you don't feel any better.

All of us read the anger in your writing. I only wish that I could understand what you would like someone to say to you. From the posts that I have read on your topic people have tried several tactics and none of them have worked.

The way you write about your intentions to become a prostitute and take drugs reads like a threat.

Would you, please, instead of letting us know how you want to destroy your appearance just let us know how we can help you feel better?

Thanks. irene


I'm starting to think she may have already been preyed on sexually, and is suffering.

It is very tough being a hot Asperger female. While most men are nice to hot women, and most men are nice in general, being an Aspie hottie means that one person in 25 who has some pathology is drawn to you. I think the rate of being targeted for harassment and mean gossip goes way up when the socially vulnerable female is hot. And in addition to that one in 25 men who will try to take advantage of a sexy, socially vulnerable woman, there are mean girls, who are jealous, who attack, too.

Without social defense skills a hot Aspie woman runs a gauntlet in life. Even great men everyone admires and thinks is so wonderful, can turn around in private and reveal themselves to be sexually desperate opportunists. If a woman is a sexy Aspie, you can end up spending a lot of you head time in cognitive dissonance, saying "Did he just do that?" and "No one will believe me."


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19 Feb 2009, 11:55 pm

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Fickle_Pickle wrote:
Sorry, I just had to bump this again, as this problem keeps arising. I do NOT know what makes me happy. Watching chipmunk videos does, but that would have to be ALOT of them to make me happy, but then being That Freaky Chipmunk Girl would ruin me even more.
I do have some imaginary friends in my head (due to me not supposed to be having any friends for being overlyjudgemental and black-and-white thinking) and guess what? A few of them are chipmunks!
Anyways, I also hate looking young as well and trying the best possible ways to ruin my beautiful, youthful looks. 3 years of prostitution will ruin that, as I will get addicted to various drugs, but I can't wait a moment longer.
I'm still trying to find practial accessories to distract people from my face, like many huge piercings or glasses.


STFU and get over yourself, mary.
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Hmm... how do I respond to that BS?
NEVER!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !


And you probably look plain... and old, which I am uber jealous of. As for the rest of you a**holes, continue telling me to "get over myself" because I am WAY BELOW myself for rock-bottom self-esteem, it won't do ANYTHING but just add to your own over-inflated egos.

GTFO of my thread if you are going to waste my time although you are from the real world as you show it by being bitter and spiteful.

I seriously want an abusive and alcoholic love partner who will beat me, and for looking the way I do, I should be raped everyday.

And thank you for making me cry again. :cry: Care to do it once more?

As I said I am massochistic and LOVE being treated like crap, no kidding.

The point you are missing: there is no reason an Aspie should look like me! It's just politically incorrect and I do not deserve it! And I specifically said that I do not get joy out of looking good, there is no point in looking good if you are MISERABLE! You're saying I should be HAPPY! Well, I'm NOT!! ! OKAY?! !


So you are a self proclaimed masochist who wants to be ugly, treated like crap and raped .....and you get all defensive and whiny and tell someone to leave your thread when they answer your train wreck babbling with a frank suggestion?? (snickers). You are probably the most absurd person I have ever encountered. You dont want to be treated like crap. You can't even handle it when people are honest with you.

BTW, has it occured to you that it might be possible that YOU have hurt someone else's feelings by your comments about Aspies deserving to be ugly and mistreated and raped?

Also, if beauty is really the only thing you value in yourself and others (seems apparent through your veiled bragging and insults ) then that's pretty sad. I don't like or respect a person just because they are good looking. If you are genuinly trying to earn people's disrespect, then you're doing a pretty darn good job. Don't get offended, it's what you want isn't it? No, I don't think so. You just want sympathy and attention. But you don't get that by bragging about yourself, insulting everyone else, and then making melodramatic claims about how you feel that clearly conflict with how you really feel. Your not the only one with self esteem issues, so quit bragging, quit whining, and especially quit telling Aspies that they deserve to be ugly prostitute rape victims! :evil:


I'm actually glad that people are blunt with me (It was not a frank suggestion, I took it as a petty insult, by the way, is NOT any of my options, :x I am not some callous clod, altough I wish I was). It makes me hurt, which I LOVE, it's also what I deserve!(P.S. I am telling the truth, I just got frustrated because I'm the one that's jealous. Jealous of honest people because I had to spend most of my years as a people-pleaser with absolutely zero hope of breaking free from it.) Hey, my 16-year-old brother pounds me and leaves ugly bruises all the time and gives me such lip. And I don't mean aspies should be prostitutes, I mean just ME because I'm NT looking and have no opinion of my own most of the time (all the less attractive aspies seem more assertive and happy with who they are), and FYI, I'm disrespected ALL the time, so it wouldn't be new.

And thank you, I AM psycho! :twisted: No one wants to believe me but I think I may have some other mental illness. I'm probably melodramatic from Histrionic Personality Disorder. So no, the "quit whining" option is unavailible.


I seriously need to be locked up and drugged for the rest of my life.


But thanks to the results of this thread, I have taken an intrest in being a camwhore. :D

One person said I should do something that makes me happy, I am only brought true joy by ONE thing. ;)

Don't forget, there's also a thread I created somewhere about how doing drugs (or steroids) might solve this, since they are numbing (and change your personality), because I can't get real proffesional help because it's expensive and my parents have already spent a fortune on other treatments for me that fail. I'm fiercley glad that someone has called me insane, 'cause my mean siblings say I'm just a hypochondriac.

Little do they know what revenge I seek on them and what plan I will execute. :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:



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20 Feb 2009, 12:18 am

Aspies aren't even people anyways.


I keed! I keed! :lol:



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20 Feb 2009, 12:23 am

It's ok, I don't want to downgrade the way I look. I just want to be NT! :cry: :cry: :cry: Desperatley!

NT!! !!


JUST. PLAIN. NT.



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20 Feb 2009, 2:18 am

The way one looks has -nothing- to do with whether they are on the spectrum or not. While there are some physical characteristics that appear to have anecdotal significance, none of these exhibit in even a majority of those affected, making them relatively moot. Perhaps those on the spectrum are not perceived the same way, often because each person's understanding of grooming, fashion, and comfort vary so very greatly. If you're uncomfortable being attractive... it isn't the most common complaint, but it's not rare either - some people don't like the attention they receive for their looks, something they don't have a lot of control over. However, the overall impression of what you write indicates that there are some greater issues at hand... your comment that no aspie should look like you makes absolutely no sense, and the two are completely unrelated. If you're unhappy with your self-image, there are a lot of options in terms of expression to alter the effect on others.

If you want to express yourself with less antagonistic responses, I suggest moving your post and/or discussion to the Haven. Outside of there, you are likely to take some licks from those who find your situation to be enviable, or even mock it, in comparison to their own experiences. Given your taste for masochism, however, you might find this arena more appropriate.


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20 Feb 2009, 2:46 am

Ok, so how do I get this thread moved?



20 Feb 2009, 2:59 am

Ask the mods.



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20 Feb 2009, 3:05 am

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Ok, so how do I get this thread moved?


Contact Lau, SinsBoldly, MrMark or Quatermass (though I believe the trip may still be ongoing), and they can move the thread for you. The Wrongplanet.Net discussion forum supplies many of the answers you may seek.


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20 Feb 2009, 3:08 am

May I add that I want so badly, I'd sell my soul to be NT!! !



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20 Feb 2009, 3:44 am

Fickle_Pickle wrote:
May I add that I want so badly, I'd sell my soul to be NT!! !

Sometimes I wish I was more sociable and was more like an NT, but you just got to be proud of who you are. Sometimes having AS can be a good thing. Look for your strengths in it.