My mother is threatening to leave

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I'm feeling sorry for you for the fact you feel so bad.

I think your mother is really manipulating you. I don't know whether she will actually leave, but if I were you, I would have peace with it. She obviously wants to control you, and this just goes too far. She morally doesn't have the right to force her religion upon you, you have the right to choose what to believe. The pressure she forces upon you is unfair and she should act like a mother and support and respect her children. I can imagine it is very hurtful to hear she doesn't accept her children any more as her children. She wants to manipulate you. Don't let her, she only causes trouble.

How old are you? Is it possible to live on your own? Even if your mother would stay, the pressure in the house will be very high and I think there will be a lot of stress. So not an ideal situation.

I wish you good luck with everything, the position you're in must be very nasty, since it has all to do with your closest family, which is an important thing.

Thanks,

She's not trying to manupilate me, she thinks she'll go to hell for my "sin". There's this hadith in Sunni Islam which says that if a child commits a sin, the parent will answer for it during the last judgement.

I actually keep shifting homes. I live with my dad half the time, with my mom the other half. My dad is quite lenient, he doesn't mind slightly, in fact, he's interested in the Baha'i faith as of now. ^^

I think it's sad that differences of opinion regarding religion can even break family bonds.

While I don't think anyone's love for any other being is ever truly unconditional, the bond between a mother and a child should be as close as it can be.

From what you post on here Khan_Sama you are wise beyond your 19 years (if a little pro-religion for my tastes ). From what I read about you, your mother should be proud that you're her child.

I suppose it comes down to... is she bluffing? If not then I guess it is a case of what is more important to you, your mother or your religion?

Logically speaking, if you have a mother that would deny you the fundamental right to chose your religion (whichever or none) then perhaps the answer to the above should be your religion.

Though perhaps her ultimatum is the only way she knows how to protect you from the potential punishment carried by your choice. Which would lead me to believe she only has your best interests at heart.

It's a tough, if not impossible crossroads in your life, I don't envy you. If you wish to keep both you will have to become more manipulative and deceitful which you may or may not be capable of.

Salam Alaykom