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Do you accept yourself?
10. I keep the gods on their toes. One slip up, and I'll have their jobs. 8%  8%  [ 3 ]
9. Sweet-smelling breezes demure with shame when my body crosses their paths. 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
8. I'm really smart -- like Stephen Hawking, but hot. 5%  5%  [ 2 ]
7. I'm always at ease in public. If anything, it's THEY who should be nervous. 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
6. I like myself, and everyone else. If I'm insulted by someone, it barely phases me before I'm over it. 18%  18%  [ 7 ]
5. I'm okay, I guess. A few people think so. 35%  35%  [ 14 ]
4. I'm sad a lot, and I should be sad for being me. 8%  8%  [ 3 ]
3. I have the right to exist, but I consider myself lucky if life offers me anything more. 13%  13%  [ 5 ]
2. I am worth slightly more than the spittle hurled at me. 3%  3%  [ 1 ]
1. I am worth the few pounds of raw chemicals my body consists in. Please, look away! Look away! 13%  13%  [ 5 ]
Total votes : 40

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08 Jan 2009, 2:58 pm

Ragtime wrote:
For example, if you still care what strangers think of you when they see you in public, then that is a degree to which you do not accept yourself.


I disagree in part. If you care what people think of you when nothing is at stake, then that does typically reflect how you view yourself. However, there are few social interactions in which there is truly nothing at stake.

In most social interactions, at least one person is trying to achieve something or gain something. What is to be gained ranges from friendship to sex to a better job or an increased social network that could lead to more job options and higher income. All social contacts serve a purpose. The more people you know, the more people you have to call when you need help moving or need someone to walk your dog when you're sick, etc. This may seem a bit harsh, but it is an inevitable aspect of our associations with other people.



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08 Jan 2009, 3:55 pm

I accept myself without any reservations. I'll never be anyone else. I have many difficulties, but I confront them stoically. 8)


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08 Jan 2009, 5:37 pm

release_the_bats wrote:
Ragtime wrote:
For example, if you still care what strangers think of you when they see you in public, then that is a degree to which you do not accept yourself.


I disagree in part. If you care what people think of you when nothing is at stake, then that does typically reflect how you view yourself. However, there are few social interactions in which there is truly nothing at stake.


Well, if that's true, it's over my head to pick up on as the Aspie that I am. I'm talking about being in public amongst strangers who have no power over you -- or no more power over you than you do over them.

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In most social interactions, at least one person is trying to achieve something or gain something.
What is to be gained ranges from friendship to sex to a better job or an increased social network that could lead to more job options and higher income. All social contacts serve a purpose. The more people you know, the more people you have to call when you need help moving or need someone to walk your dog when you're sick, etc. This may seem a bit harsh, but it is an inevitable aspect of our associations with other people.


Ok, but you're not talking about just being in public, which is what I mean. I'm saying I'm becoming more like the main female character in the "Mozart and the Whale" film, in my boldness to be me, and not hide my personality from everyone out of some sense of misplaced and unhealthy shame.

Oh, and I'm a 5.5 on my poll scale. Ever the optimist for the future, I voted number 6. :)


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09 Jan 2009, 12:28 pm

Accepting oneself is easy, but gaining the acceptance of others is what's difficult.



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10 Jan 2009, 2:38 pm

If I was worth anything, I'd have meaningful friends and relationships that weren't forced upon me through birth.



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10 Jan 2009, 3:25 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
Accepting oneself is easy, but gaining the acceptance of others is what's difficult.
Before I saw that I was thinking "Yes but no one else does.".



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10 Jan 2009, 4:32 pm

I picked 3.

I think that I am a good person at heart, trying to help other people, etc. However, my entire self-worth is based on how much I am accepted by other people... That was part of empathy being drilled into my head with my parents, and is now an OCD-ish guard against narcissism...