NT's just don't understand

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The people on that forum do have a point. It isn't going to be easy to relate to anyone but your family if you only have one topic you like to talk about.

But the suggestion that aspies should be forced to cut back on their obsession unconditionally just because a psychologist thinks it's "weird" is demeaning. I don't think these people realize how much our interests give us the comfort and emotional grounding necessary to even tolerate the rest of our lives. Taking away an obsession is a good way to make an aspie completely unmotivated to do anything in life. Broadening a very narrow topic of interest through related subjects is a much better approach.

I also agree with the point that NT's have their own obsessions that they spend way too much time talking about IMO. It just so happens that being obsessed with a televised sports team is not considered "weird" because our culture has arbitrarily decided that sports is the one socially acceptable obsession. But that doesn't change the fact that NT's constantly bore me to death with their damned sports talk.

Taking obsessions away from an aspie doesn't do any good because it's still in their head. You can't take their obsessive thoughts. They can just keep thinking about their obsessions in their head and there is nothing the parents can do about it.


My mother took away Home Alone, Jurassic Park, took my movie novel on 101 Dalmatians, and tried taking my Dalmatian stories. She did take my story one time but I ended up writing another in my other notebook. She may have taken my obsessions but I still kept thinking about them in my head all the time. Then she stopped when I was 12. Now she is trying to tell me to get out of the house and do other things than staying home and doing Benny & Joon. She's like back to her old self just like she used to tell me in 5th grade to read another book and stop reading 101 Dalmatians. Then one day she took it when I was about 12. Then I found it in the desk along with my notebook I was writing a story in.

Wow.. I'm sorry that they don't understand you. I do as I have my own couple of obsessions. I am obsessed with anything zombie and will buy or eat anything zombie up. But my true obsession is the alien movies/comics. I have tons of their comics I drew them in school I had dreams about them, I've watched every movie about 100 times and watched them with commentary at least 20 times. I can tell you where scenes where shot the name of the studio the directors etc etc...

It's just something I can't help.. It's not like there's a switch I turn off and I'm like hey I need to stop talking about this. Anyways if it makes you happy keep it up.

[quote="marshall"]The people on that forum do have a point. It isn't going to be easy to relate to anyone but your family if you only have one topic you like to talk about.

But the suggestion that aspies should be forced to cut back on their obsession unconditionally just because a psychologist thinks it's "weird" is demeaning. I don't think these people realize how much our interests give us the comfort and emotional grounding necessary to even tolerate the rest of our lives. Taking away an obsession is a good way to make an aspie completely unmotivated to do anything in life. Broadening a very narrow topic of interest through related subjects is a much better approach.

I also agree with the point that NT's have their own obsessions that they spend way too much time talking about IMO. It just so happens that being obsessed with a televised sports team is not considered "weird" because our culture has arbitrarily decided that sports is the one socially acceptable obsession. But that doesn't change the fact that NT's constantly bore me to death with their damned sports talk.[/quote

good point.

just do what makes u happy.