auntblabby wrote:
sly279 wrote:
but how would that help me find love? also I afriad of putting myself out there as being different.
because it would put you in the presence of people more similar to yourself, people on your wavelength. that is fully half of it, finding people that we see eye to eye with in the first place, people who are "different" just like WE are different! it took me 5+ decades to find my tribe, you have the chance to outperform me in that, if you start searching for an aspie meetup group ASAP. granted, mine is in the next county from me, an hour drive for me as there is no public transit where I live. you might have better luck in this regard.
I've met few other aspies and besides both having the same disorder we weren't on the same wavelength. it's truly a spectrum.
but in mean time everyone else would know I'm the R word(as they say it) and avoid me. just as the internet can make it way more easier to find people it makes it way more worse to be discriminated against. anything you post with you name can be spread all over the world for everyone to see. I just want to be seen as normal. while I don't think there's anything wrong with aspies it's not how the majority of the world thinks. different is wrong to them,, they single it out zone in and target it. so I don't want the world knowing I'm a aspie. just as most people don't want their disorders being public knowledge. seems like making a group on meet up with your name as a founder or member linked to your facebook page would be very clearly labeling yourself. I live in fear of people finding out I'm a aspie or a gun owner, or that I like mlp or video games. that I'm not some football loving normal guy.
public transportation is super slow and irritating.
I already know of one group of guy autistics that meet up at a church every week or two weeks, but its super hard to get to and back from being where it is and at night. and besides what good would come from meeting with what is likely bunch of 40 year old autistic guys.
tried going to another social gathering for autistics and it was all guys and no one even greeted me.
not even their nt organizers. everyone was at their own full tables talking to each other. I was just a lonely outsider looking in because I wasn't there when the group started many years ago. though really suppose its to be expected from a bunch of people with a social disorder which is why I thought there'd been someone in charge of greeting and introducing people. mean if I wanted a just throw me to the pack of dogs stuff I could go to any club/bar/concert.
sorry. I'm not trying to be mean just upset