I am going to commit suicide. I have to do it

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thats ok I am sorry too I know your going though a rough patch, I tend to go a little overboard

I feel sh***y today. Sex is constantly on my mind, and I feel I am missing out. Everyone at uni seems to be having sex. There's girls I know who have 1,000 + friends on facebook. There hot and are probably getting banged all the time. This seems to be what people live for, and I'm struggling to learn just how to approach a girl and go beyond the stage of just being acquantances with a girl, or at worse driving them off completely. I've scared alot of people off and this makes me feel real depressed. I don't do it on purpose, just people don't know what to make of me. Am I focusing too much on sex?

Why do I tihkn like this. Will I ever feel better?

I understand the tendency to make up your mind immediately that you want to be close to someone/not close to someone, but I think most people are not this way. That's probably why your repeated attempts to facebook friend are having poor results - you know you want to be closer friends with her (or more), but she's still uncertain. To you it seems like mixed messages because you probably aren't in the habit of being friendly to people you may not actually want to be close with, but a lot of people do do that. Just back off of the facebook part of things at least for a while, and she'll get curious as to why you've stopped and probably be more open with you. I know, it seems like playing games, but that's just how many people operate. If you don't like it or can't deal with it then you're probably better off trying to find another girl.

Also, I want to say that I myself swore that if I did not have a kiss by age 22, I would kill myself, and that if I had not had a relationship by age 25, I would kill myself. I missed both deadlines, honestly. First kiss at 23 and first boyfriend-like-guy at 26. It caused me a great deal of pain throughout university and beyond, particularly because it seemed so ridiculously easy for other people and yet none of them seemed to appreciate what they had. I was convinced that I would die alone (and hell, I still may, as I think we tend to forget that most relationships don't last forever). I am glad, however, that I did not follow through with my promise to myself, because ultimately I had many experiences I wouldn't trade for the world (and not all related with relationships). I believed my situation couldn't possibly get better, but it did.

(Also, just an aside, I recommend trying NOT to unfriend people on the spur of the moment. I used to do that, and I always regretted it. Plus it makes you look like a crazy drama queen when you unfriend then immediately ask to be friends again)

I know people are trying to cheer the dude up, but saying stuff like "there's more important things than sex", or "you don't need sex" is obviously BS. Loneliness and frustrated sex drives aren't gonna be replaced by anything else.

That being said, yes obsessing over it does partly make the pain worse. But for the most part, it's not an attitude thing. They are real desires you have to fulfill. You'll have to seek some professional help or coaching for that, there's only so much a forum can do to help.

Don't worry about sex as much. Just use porn as a church for now. Try starting a relationship by looking for the shy girl. Typically they are probably easier for someone with AS to talk to and probably friendly.

Since you reached out and told us about it that means you really don't want to die and that it's really a stupid idea, I can tell you really want to live, somethings good going to happen.

Please only serious comments. Im not in the mood for stuff like that. I don't have any motivation whatsoever. I don't feel like going to class, I can't do my essays, I just eat and feel terrible. I'm not getting better; I'm getting worse. I need help.

I have been in your situation and guess what? Relationships solves sh#t and makes things worse. Look at you! paranoid,suicidal,jealous,stalking and this will be multiplied by 10x when/if she dumps you. Peace comes from within; there are those who have everything and feel nothing. But i can b***h all day you will still continue because it's something you have to experience to "get". Goodluck and by the way she's playing you and when she's done she will throw you away to go to the next plaything. Happy days!!