Can someone explain why people want to have children?

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I want kids because the Bible says to be fruitful and multiply, and I might burn in hell if I say I don't want kids.

Also, I need verification that a prospective partner isn't asexual.

Love.

The reason I wanted children (which I always have) is love. They give pure, unconditional love, and so do you in return.

Yes, they cost money, but so what? I can think of nothing more worthy to spend my money on.
They bring me joy, they make me smile, and I'm one of those people who feels I was "made to be a mother".

If you will, having children has always been my "special interest".
I LIKE doing things for them. I LIKE explaining how the world works. I LIKE sharing my knowledge and affection with them.

Do they appreciate me? Not unless I tell them to. It's not their job to big up my ego or comfort me or make me happy. They're just kids. They'll be kids and they're perfect as they are.

Why do I want kids? Because, in addition to all the rest, when I die I KNOW I will have done something good. I will have loved two people who will then go on to love others.

That depends, according to one translations it sais be fruitfull and fill the earth,aka multiply, or be fruitful and replenish teh earth. It seems people are way to interested in the former and way uninterested in the latter

IMO you can do that when you have sex/ make love. Same result.

I said I don't want to have children. I never said I don't want to have sex, totally different thing.

OMG What??? Your kidding, right?

I don't think so, God herds people like cattle. "Have sex, be fruitful and multiply!".

From observation:
The same reason why all beings reproduce, they exist because the ones that didn't aren't around any more. The ones left over in each generation are the ones more likely to reproduce. There are instincts. People like to make love, they have specifically developed nervous systems and genital organs formed over eons just to convince them to make more of themselves.

But in direct response to KenM, let's face it, what is going to be better or more like you than a child after you're dead? I mean if you're a die-hard hedonist then I can't argue with you, but otherwise it makes sense to spend all that money and time on such an endevour. Regardless of whether you are respected by the child, after you're gone they'll still be there, and that's what's left of you. Unless you're thinking about revolutionizing the world in some area, to be universally respected forever, in which case you go on ahead.

I hate to be blunt but overpopulation is a bold fat myth that has even in the past been used to cover for racist eugenic campaigns. Does anyone think New York City is overpopulated or too dense? As it turns out, all 6 billion people in the world could fit into the state of Texas and the population density would be lower than NYC. Some friends after I told them that even checked this on a calculator using numbers from wikipedia and it was verified.

Imagine a tiny rock of an island with no real natural resources that is near a landmass. Suppose that the population density is over 6,000 people per square mile. It doesn't have a long history or rich culture, this island was only settled about 60 years ago. You'd probably think that such a place would be a very poor third world developing country. But today Hong Kong is among the richest places in the entire world.
A bigger reason for poverty and hardship is corrupt governments, not too many people. India is a country with many natural resources, a long history and is a democracy with free elections, freedom of religion and speech. It also has a large population though it is not nearly as dense as Hong Kong. By all conventional wisdom, India should be a developed country with a good standard of living. Yet is is very poor.
About 10 years ago, John Stossel did a special for ABC 20/20 called Is America Number One? It's a long video but I think the part where he compared India to Hong Kong from 2:30-7:30 and 9:30-14:25 are most significant.
Wrongplanet won't let me post the link just yet but you can find the whole 40 minute show in one segment on youtube.

As for the idea that we are using up far more resources than we did in the past, that may be true but we also have more capacity to use resources with modern technology. Today, with only 2% of Americans making a living on farming, the US grows more food than ever on fewer land. The world actually overproduces food but oppressive governments like India make it impossible to get it to those people. And some of those very poor countries like Niger only have about 9 people per square mile. Overpopulation does not hold any water when it is examined against facts.

I have a brother 7 years younger than me. My mother is out working most of the day. They are both NT.
Though I can't say I totally understand the emotional variables between those two, I can say from my point of view that I enjoy looking after him and watching his reactions to my help, support and/or teasing. Partly because I simply find it interesting how a human being evolves during childhood, partly because it reminds me of myself at that age and I don't want him to experience what I did, even though the chances are slim, him being NT, or at least not showing any sign of being on the AS.
I see him as a friend who tries his best to understand me, so I am trying the same.

And yes, I plan on having children one day, if the time and circumstances are right. At the very least, it's a romantic wish of mine.

No, it doesn't say anywhere.

In 1.Cor. 7 Paul writes that it is a calling to some to stay unmarried (and hence not get children). If it was true you went to hell for not wanting children, he wouldn't have written that.

Jesus also speaks about some people not marrying for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven, Matt. 19.

I will make this brief. I have two sons. They have made my life feel complete. I am glad to have children.

Did I mention how my sister's old Church males taught how men have to be married, or else? Yeah... whatever

People have children because they lack purpose or think they are doing the universe a favor by bringing more victims in this world. If you really think about it you shouldn't procreate at all and save your unborn child the pointless suffering and all the s**t that goes with it. It's selfish to have children and morally wrong.

Coz small kids are too cute and adorable and cuddly

Its the passing of genetic code for survival of the bloodline/species . . . thats the reason at its core. Children are the application of varied strengths and weaknesses of the parents (Darwinian theories). Nowadays, since we have more control over our reproductive urges, children become a choice rather than a necessity . . . well, still a necessity, but there can be longer debate about whether or not to have them on an individual basis. As my parents have said, "Its the stupid people that reproduce most often and the smart ones that dont reproduce enough." Oddly, the "stupid people" can have the odd "shining star" born to them. Heh, if you think about it, if everyone on the world were born smart, our planet would become the Academy of Projectors. That aside, there are 6 billion people on the planet, so not everyone needs to provide a genetic code for future generations. I see children as a last attempt at leaving a legacy if all your other attempts have failed . . . course, seeing as how im not involved with anyone at the moment, that's probably not going to be in my future as well ><. Aw well, that's evolution for you . . . survival of the fittest is still the primary factor.

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I find them disgusting, foul and irritating. I wouldn't even touch one let alone cuddle it...