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I used to live with a fiery Italian guy. He was alright deep down as a person but waay to fiery to live with. I'm not the sort of person that does drama outside work

I too am sorry to hear you're not having the greatest time lately.

After the helpfullness you showed me just last week, i would ask you to stop considering yourself a loser, especially as your help and advice really helped me out when i needed it.

You have SO much going for you, dont let others make you think less of yourself.

Thanks for those who have been kind to me. I had a major meltdown over the weekend and don't deserve kindness for some of the things I say. I was in tears pretty much the whole time. I'm trying to piece my life together and become someone to be proud of.

Sorry, but I think you're completely wrong. I think you've made a very good impression at WP. People like you and value your participation in the site. We need you here.

AS and depression impair your ability to recognize other people's feelings. You may think you're a terrible person, but most others don't see you that way.

It's stressful to live with any kind of roommate who's not a true friend. I hope you find an opportunity to live alone in peace.

Chronic depression is a really difficult medical problem. My wife has been depressed for pretty much her whole life. She saw therapists several times with little impact. There were many cycles of getting better and worse. Sometimes circumstances were better and sometimes they were worse, but essentially she always saw death as a logical conclusion to any setback. Until she recently began taking SSRIs. They haven't made her a different person, but they have cut the tension from her moods.

My Dad is a psychiatrist and familiar with every kind of treatment from therapy to pills to electric shock. His opinion is that the SSRI meds are by far the most effective. That's not to say they always work and you can review WP comments for different experiences. But they sometimes work very well.

Anyway, I hope you consider that you might simply be wrong. You are a good person, but you may sometimes have misperceptions. If you haven't tried therapy and medication then please give it a chance.

*hugs* Hale!

hey.. we need a hug emoticon

OH MY GOD, YES.
Okay, i'll calm down now.

Hey, sometimes we get what we don't deserve. Sometimes its good and sometimes it's bad. It all goes with the ebb and flow of life. this time you're getting kindness whether you deserve it or not. So enjoy it

I just blew another job interview, god I really am useless. I hate phone interviews. I could have done it better but no, I blew it.

I hate aspergers. Why is it so damn hard to talk on a phone?

I know the feeling, I'm not too good on the phone myself. Especially for interviews. It doesn't make you useless, however.

I have potential to do well but no one can see it because i'm so nervous and bad with words and terrible socially. I hate it. I am ready to scream today, I just don't learn, I never learn, I keep repeating the same mistakes over and over.

I know how you feel there. You need to find an employer that's optimistic and has a good eye, which is hard. I probably fail nearly every interview myself. It's usually eye contact or my tone that kills it.

And you'll learn. It's just hard because of the asperger's. :\

You'll get it eventually, you just gotta keep trying.

Thanks.

I'm off to do some cold calling (eek) this afternoon. I don't see that as much easier than a phone interview, but at least it IS easier.

Good luck!

Wish I could do more than that to help. D:

Phone interviews suck, for anyone.

I earnt my crust (up until moving to the country) in IT, and used to do a lot of phone support. I got used to it and actually give really good phone, basically because computers and technology are my aspie obsession. I have had calls that lasted hours for large corporate clients and im 100% comfy and unfreaked. But take me out of my comfort zone and im tragic, get me in real life face to face and im sometimes lucky to give you full sentences. Case in point, on the rare occasion ive been at my favourite quiet pub reading a book and some random girl has started to have a conversation or chat me up, ill give very short, sometimes one word answers and, obviously not helping myself, alienate them.

The worst experiences ive had are with phone interviews, they must have thought i needed help to tie my shoelaces!
Seriously ive had them and then spent the next 6 hours or even a day replaying them in my head and obsessing over them only to do the same thing next time. In the end i had to learn not to overthink and just try better next time.

So you're not alone.

But think about your strengths, theres NO WAY i could do what you do and sit in front of a camera and talk and then show myself by uploading the videos to youtube. For me that takes some balls, and you got em. you're obviously comfortable with yourself doing that and you seem very confident, you just need a way to transfer the same confidence into other areas, like phone contact.

I believe you can do it.

Damn, now i HAVE to go and watch that cat clip of yours AGAIN

Last edited by aspyoz on 21 Feb 2011, 7:31 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Yeah, she was really cute in that.

(If you don't mind me saying Hale_Bopp. D: )

Theres only one rule about Hale_Bopp worship, its like fight club

Im sure if she had a dollar for each of us that thinks shes the s**t she'd be rich by now