13 Mar 2011, 10:04 am
13 Mar 2011, 6:52 pm
hale_bopp wrote:
I can join the broke club 
Your in IT WTF ?
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13 Mar 2011, 8:08 pm
Grisha wrote:
I've said it elsewhere, but I'll say it here too - I wrote this in an (apparently) misguided effort to be helpful - I am mortified by the thought that it may have inadvertently hurt someone instead - I am truly sorry and I won't mention the subject again... 
now sir, you are making me feel guilty, i did not intend for anybody to feel they couldn't express themselves, especially when they are expressing themselves from their heart. don't feel rejected or sorry, you keep right on doing it, you have wisdom to offer. but be aware that some kinds of personal wisdom cannot be readily assimilated by some other people, as it is too different from their accumulated life experience. this is to be expected. we are all in different grades of earth school, maybe you are in a higher grade. higher grades can [by and large] only relate to other higher grades. i hope this ramble made sense.
13 Mar 2011, 8:17 pm
auntblabby wrote:
Grisha wrote:
I've said it elsewhere, but I'll say it here too - I wrote this in an (apparently) misguided effort to be helpful - I am mortified by the thought that it may have inadvertently hurt someone instead - I am truly sorry and I won't mention the subject again...
now sir, you are making me feel guilty, i did not intend for anybody to feel they couldn't express themselves, especially when they are expressing themselves from their heart. don't feel rejected or sorry, you keep right on doing it, you have wisdom to offer. but be aware that some kinds of personal wisdom cannot be readily assimilated by some other people, as it is too different from their accumulated life experience. this is to be expected. we are all in different grades of earth school, maybe you are in a higher grade. higher grades can [by and large] only relate to other higher grades. i hope this ramble made sense.
I understand (I think
)
I certainly don't think of myself as being "higher" than anyone, I was just trying to show that it can be done, the way that people are always pleading that Aspie guys can be in relationships because "I know this Aspie guy who's married" etc...
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13 Mar 2011, 8:28 pm
14 Mar 2011, 11:21 am
14 Mar 2011, 11:28 am
jackbus01 wrote:
Gee, that easy. Why didn't I think of that. <sarcasm> 
Also, just because you can do it doesn't mean everyone can.
Also, just because you can do it doesn't mean everyone can.
Do see how that might be a self fulfilling prophesy?
That kind of attitude drives me crazy; and I have had it on occasion too but it doesn't last.
The change in my attitude and my life started when I stopped blaming others for my problems and instead accept that whatever is going on in my life is my responsibility to accept, change, or eliminate.
That doesn't mean to beat yourself up about thing but to actively work to make changes in your life to make things better. I realize many people don't get to that point but I my girlfriend drowned in her pool when I was 17; it shattered me as a person and in the process I had to evaluate everything about myself. I hope that others don't have to have such grave circumstances to finally have such an epiphany.
If you can't get your shot in your job start a business.
The economy sucks right now but this is a terrific time to start something.
You have no idea what you're capable of.
14 Mar 2011, 2:45 pm
14 Mar 2011, 2:57 pm
League_Girl wrote:
I don't ever want to go paycheck to paycheck. That's why I get mad at my husband if I think he is trying to add more bills and I tell him if we do this or that, we have to cancel other things like cable or Netflex or Gamefly or Children International so we won't have more bills. Now we have signed up for Blockbuster and it's free for a month and he said we'll cancel it if we don't like it and if we like it, we'll get rid of GameFly and it's be cheaper. I liked that idea. But I still have those games to play before sending them back before April 5th. I also told him if we get a house we would have to cancel those other things so we won't go paycheck to paycheck because we can't get rid of water sewer or trash.
You are wise! Live below your means and only then will you get ahead. It is the monthly expenses that kill you over time. Keep in mind you'll probably need 5-20% down for a new house now so start saving!
I'll never go back to Blockbuster; every time I have signed up for one of their great 'deals' they jack up the rate after 6 months or so... I'll stick with the redbox for movies since if times are tight I can skip it
14 Mar 2011, 6:45 pm
jackbus01 wrote:
All of the following suck (and blow):
1. Being broke
2. People thinking that you're broke solely because you can't manage your money
3. Sappy success stories where "if you just did this and that" you would succeed. If it were that easy we would all be doing it.
4. Living paycheck-to-paycheck
5. Realizing that you are not getting younger (cliche but true)
6. Fighting anhedonic depression
7. Sometimes life in general
Yes, I know I'm a killjoy (and on the haven forum!) but whatever--I'm a lost cause anyway.
As a side note: anyone think it is interesting that "sucks" and "blows" can be either antonyms or synonyms depending on word usage.
1. Being broke
2. People thinking that you're broke solely because you can't manage your money
3. Sappy success stories where "if you just did this and that" you would succeed. If it were that easy we would all be doing it.
4. Living paycheck-to-paycheck
5. Realizing that you are not getting younger (cliche but true)
6. Fighting anhedonic depression
7. Sometimes life in general
Yes, I know I'm a killjoy (and on the haven forum!) but whatever--I'm a lost cause anyway.
As a side note: anyone think it is interesting that "sucks" and "blows" can be either antonyms or synonyms depending on word usage.
Actually # 3 I'm having flash backs of the stupidest TV show in living history " 7th Heaven"
Theirs rolled gold tea party conservatism in that TV show such as the one where the mother says:
good hard working Americans if need be work 2 3 or 4 minimum wages jobs to get ahead.
Well I'm sorry , Mother doesn't always know best. Sensible people work 1 job and one only, when are people supposed to sleep ? and much of your minimum wage income would be lost in commuting costs.....
I think the clever Germans have got it right they have not "Mc Jobed "their economies like the Americans and to a lesser extent the Australian and British. Real full time jobs with a real wage.
And if it means a slightly higher unemployment rate (1 - 2 % higher) in good times so be it.
Actually the Germans are doing better than almost any one these days and have a relatively low unemployment to boot....
Oh Aron Spelling is taking the P*** on Americans yeah, surely ?
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14 Mar 2011, 8:27 pm
aussiebloke wrote:
good hard working Americans if need be work 2 3 or 4 minimum wages jobs to get ahead.
another way of saying "get rich or die trying." when i was working in an army hospital, one of the civilian employees was found dead behind the wheel of his car still parked in the employee lot, for at least a week- he literally worked himself to death with 3 jobs, 2 full-time/1 part time, and he was not missed at any of those jobs sufficient for somebody to try to look for him- after all, he was just a "disposable worker." but americans still just can't seem to get enough of that horatio alger-flavored koolaid.
14 Mar 2011, 9:25 pm
^^^^^^^
One of the reasons I'm so fond of the French with their quell horror 35 hour work week, * earlier retirement longer holidays etc etc etc...
I wonder if Americans will ever get it I know the conservatives like to belittle the French (yes they have high unemployment) though they've got some things going for them, for the last 50 years their per capita income has remained unchanged (even in bad times) at approx 75 % of the US level and if we where to count the real GDP like unaccounted production in the home (the French are big on home veggie patches) it narrows the gap even further.
I think the French prefer living than going for the McMansion with the truck cars parked in their driveway, not a bad way to be actually.....
* actually I like to watch the French news and they where asking Japanese people what they thought of the Frenches 35 hour week , they where LOL and couldn't believe it , how can they afford to live they would ask . A real riot actually
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14 Mar 2011, 10:07 pm
Esther wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
it is a relative thing, in that when i see somebody who did what you described yourself doing, that is so far above my life experience/capability that i just can't comprehend it. it reminds me of when i was a little kid, before i could read [i didn't learn how to read until i was past kindergarten] i saw an open book on a table, and i remember seeing the word "just" on one of the pages, and that word was so mysterious and magical, and i marveled that my 4-years-older sister could effortlessly read this word and effortlessly just toss-off what it was and what it meant when i asked her, "what's that word"? so when you described your entreprenurial actions, that was a "just" moment for me, in that things entreprenurial have long been beyond my cognitive grasp.
Thanks for this, auntblabby.
you're quite welcome sunshine
14 Mar 2011, 10:49 pm
