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10 Mar 2011, 8:36 pm

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Yep, 2 posters (maybe more?) have harrased her in the thread here in the haven. I can agree with her decision and she surely would be missed.

One guy said it was funny that the psycho ex of hers was killing animals and doing something else. I think she left after he refused to apologize. I have a couple others I'm worried about too, that seem to have left. Erisad hasn't logged on in a while, and she was under huge amounts of stress. She's talked of suicide before, so I really hope she's ok.

Like I said before I too have considered leaving here. I was expecting this place to be all kumbaya seeing as how we are a comunity with a disorder we share but its mostly creeps and senseless arguing.

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10 Mar 2011, 9:11 pm

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Agreed. Although I have met some great people here, emlion being one of them. It sucks that some of the people who make this place enjoyable are leaving. :cry:

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10 Mar 2011, 10:23 pm

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Yep, 2 posters (maybe more?) have harrased her in the thread here in the haven. I can agree with her decision and she surely would be missed.

It wasn't funny to me, and then I read the comment, and I realized that the wording was sort of funny. I think that's what the person was saying, is that the way she worded it was funny. Remember, autism. Most people aren't clear, autism or no, but people on the spectrum typically aren't the best at communication.

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10 Mar 2011, 11:59 pm

Look, I don't like the cliquishness i sometimes see (I think most of us aspies get a bit revolted by it if we're really honest), and yeah, sometimes I get irritated when somebody else gets tons of replies to their woes because they're "popular" and I get like four, or six (then I remind myself that I never was popular and there's no reason to expect to start in my 40s), but shoot, nobody deserves to have something like what she went through LAUGHED AT. THAT is the bottom line. That was UNCALLED FOR. So is harassment in PMs. I don't really care who it is, it's just not right. It's just not okay.

I hope emlion comes back soon and that the idiots involved apologize.

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11 Mar 2011, 12:12 am

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This kind of behaviour is just indictative of the mysoginy that permiates this forum. I hate to say it but it appears if you are an attractive young women then for gods sake please avoid an aspie forum. This is increasingly more and more the case to me that young women and adolesecents on the autistic spectrum are possible the most marginalised majority of our entire population.

I come across women on the spectrum all the time in my career. They actually are by far the most overwhelming population of people on the autistic spectrum I am involved with due to a lack of support, understanding and service provision for them. None of them have a nice thing to say about this forum. None of them who have briefly ventured here have felt welcomed or comfortable when lurking and reading the kind of attitudes that are conveyed on here on a daily basis.

I think it is a crying shame that other aspies are a force of exclusion and prejudice for such people who also require help and support or somewhere to go to feel a sense of self validation.

The individual who posts on here as Emilion we all have opinions of good or bad. I don't relate to her posts myself, but I respect her presence and entitlement to be on this forum and to feel somewhere that she can express herself without scorn or hostility.

I intensly dislike the way some of you choose to intentionally attack someone who is in the recovery of an experiance of brutal dehumanisation. Yes, this is the internet, it could all very well be a made up fabrication and an attention seeking story. I think that is irrelevant of the point some of you have chosen to still take the opportunity to attack this person, this VULNERABLE person which is such a fundamental act of cowardice.

It should not and cannot be tolerated for the long term health of a community such as this. Regardless of our personal opinions and feelings towards each other that we judge from text on a screen I think it would benefit some of you to be remined that there are other god damn human beings behind those usernames you are used to seeing on here.

This was very well said.

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11 Mar 2011, 12:16 am

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Do you defend your friends? Obviously you don't get it. Everybody who values a friend will defend that friend. I stick up for anybody on this forum that I notice is being mistreated. emlion is also one of the people I and many others greatly value. There are a lot of reasons why I like her, and 'because shes popular' is not one of them. Her detractors here are just little people with high school mentality. Grow up guys

I'm not little, I'm 9 feet tall, but more to the point, no, of course I don't get it, that's all part of being autistic. I don't know anything about friends.

Plenty of autistics have friends and get it.

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11 Mar 2011, 9:31 am

But are they also 9ft tall? Maybe it's an altitude issue. :wink:

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11 Mar 2011, 9:42 am

i did not trust what emlion said much.
she seemed to play people like violins. she was definitely the boss of most peoples minds, but she is gone now according to her.

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11 Mar 2011, 9:59 am

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i did not trust what emlion said much.
she seemed to play people like violins. she was definitely the boss of most peoples minds, but she is gone now according to her.

What's interesting about the comment above is that it's discussing emlion but really reveals an ugly truth about b9.

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11 Mar 2011, 10:23 am

wefunction wrote:

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i did not trust what emlion said much.
she seemed to play people like violins. she was definitely the boss of most peoples minds, but she is gone now according to her.

What's interesting about the comment above is that it's discussing emlion but really reveals an ugly truth about b9.

what ugly truth would that be?
i just want her to read what i said and be unable to resist to reply to it.

no need to bother to tell me how i am ugly in your eyes because i will not really benefit from reading your description i believe.

emlion was certainly very powerful, and you did not prevail in her wake and i have nothing further to think about this matter that you created.

i still think she played many people like instruments (not me). you can call me ugly for saying what i say, but ugliness is in the eye of the person who pronounces "ugliness" to what they see.

i will shrink much because i know i will be banned if i say what i think, and people like you have the moderated floor.

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11 Mar 2011, 10:37 am

What in the hell are you on about? This is an internet forum.

I've been on the internet since 1992/93 and I swear to God I am so sick of this "this website/bbb/listserv/irc channel/chatroom/forum/community/group is the mightiest social structure in the world that all of us only exist within and the likeable people are powerful warlocks who control minds but i am smarter and more cunning because I escape the manipulative mind rays that penetrate everyone's souls."

It's really a tired delusion. This isn't high school. If this was anything like high school, you and your comments would be the jock bully beating up the ones weaker than you. This isn't surprising because this is really the only venue where you're actually able to accomplish that kind of power dynamic.

Anyway, I apologize to everyone for going off-topic to focus on the people who drive others away instead of focusing on those who have been driven away. I just reached my fill of the most worn out internet delusion since the internet began.

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11 Mar 2011, 10:41 am

b9 wrote:

i did not trust what emlion said much.
she seemed to play people like violins. she was definitely the boss of most peoples minds, but she is gone now according to her.

She was just really sociable and fun to talk to, many of us don't get to do that sort of thing IRL - especially with women - so that made her popular.

Why are so many people threatened by that? I don't get it...

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11 Mar 2011, 10:50 am

Here's an idea, stop making stupid threads about her to get yourself liked. Threads like this only end up in the person being attacked, people have made them about me and I don't condone them at all. The same happened in the "flirt with Emlion" thread someone made to kiss arse.

Just let it rest she'll come back when she's ready. She didn't ask for this.

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11 Mar 2011, 10:54 am

And just to remind everybody, making threads about another member without their consent is against the rules.

So maybe everybody should chill and let emlion establish her own priorities, she can speak for herself.

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11 Mar 2011, 11:07 am

wefunction wrote:

what you said makes no sense. warlocks indeed. mind rays? nothing penetrates me

wefunction wrote:

It's really a tired delusion. This isn't high school. If this was anything like high school, you and your comments would be the jock bully beating up the ones weaker than you. This isn't surprising because this is really the only venue where you're actually able to accomplish that kind of power dynamic.

i am not a bully. i have only care for those who struggle. you have a palsied perspective.

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Anyway, I apologize to everyone for going off-topic to focus on the people who drive others away instead of focusing on those who have been driven away. I just reached my fill of the most worn out internet delusion since the internet began.

how memorable. i like emlion ok? i am off to sleep so it is not necessary to formulate your next post to me with any haste.

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11 Mar 2011, 2:56 pm

lol i wish i could play people like a violin.
it'd make my life so much easier.
if i could control people i'd have stopped many things happening to me in the past.

anyway; either way - i'm not going to be pushed away by what people think.
i am what i am, if you don't like it - ignore me - but going out of your way to make negative comments is silly.

well i guess actually if it makes people happy they can go ahead; but if i've got nothing nice to say about a person
i won't say anything at all. ^.^

also - thank you guys who actually think i am an okay person.

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