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Antidepressants are all different. Prozac never did anything at all for me. I've tried many of them and it takes trial and error to find which ones work for you. When you find the right one it's like finding a key for a lock. It's amazing the difference that you feel.

As for therapy, I would think doing that along with the right antidepressants may be a better help to you. It's hard to become motivated for change and for all the work that it entails when you are in the midst of a major depression.

Motivation follows action it seems for some people. I know it does for me. I've been so depressed that I felt like it wasn't any use to try the antidepressants again, even after I had good results with them in the past. It's the depression itself that makes everything seem hopeless when it's not. It's not really possible to see the hope that is there and the possibilities when you are depressed simply because of the nature of depression. Depression causes faulty thinking. That faulty thinking is also very believable when you are depressed.

If you could get to a doctor and try different antidepressants until you find one that starts to work for you, I truly think you will begin to feel better. Once you start feeling better is when the therapy works well. You have the energy to put into it then, and the meds actually give you back your will to get better and not simply survive from day to day.

It takes anywhere from two to four weeks to feel the full effects of antidepressants, and you may have to go through several to find the right one or combination of them. I know that sounds like a long time, but look at it like this. If you don't go to the dr and try the meds then at the end of that time you are still going to be depressed. If you try the meds and they don't work you are still going to be depressed but you are one step closer to getting better because you have eliminated one med already. It can't hurt to try them.

I have tried some that did make me suicidal, so you have to always be on the lookout for that at first, and if you start feeling that way, KNOW that it's the meds making you feel like that and those are NOT your real thoughts or emotions, only side effects of the meds. The dr will change them to something else if you feel suicidal on them.

I can't suggest the meds enough. They have literally saved my life before, and the lives of countless other people. Depression is a medical problem. It's an imbalance in the brain chemicals. It needs to be treated medically. Clinical depression like that is very different from situational depression where you are just down over something and know you can get over it, you just don't have the motivation right then and are very sad about it. Situational depression can be helped by therapy alone many times. When it's clinical you need something medical to fix it. There's no shame in it.

Hope you feel better, and please reconsider meds. Putting it off won't do anything except keep you in the state you are in for longer.

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Well thanks for the advice but I still have not recovered from the prozac so I really am uncomfortable, with trying any other anti-depressants. It only took the prozac 3 1/2 weeks to really screw me up so I ended up throwing the rest away. Luckily the worst of the effects only lasted for like a day but it was pretty horrible.

Also, even if I was more willing to maybe try that again(maybe that will occur), it would be difficult/impossible for me to afford so that kinda also would get in the way.

I see nothing wrong with being a victim or having self-pity.

Society and people that lack empathy see victims as weak. that does not give them the right to exploit the weak.
If a person has not lived they same exact life as sweetleaf than they have no reason to criticize her.

I know that depression can be hell. I sometimes make myself a victim and feel sorry for myself too.
Unless you have PTSD and clinical depression then you can not understand everything sweetleaf is going through.

Perhaps people should not come on the haven and insult other people. It should be for support and sympathy.
The only time I ever come to the haven is when I am suicidal. You could indirectly cause a suicide.

I understand Tequila's point, but I don't think the Haven was the proper venue for it to be made. I don't post often in the Haven myself precisely because I'm not great at sugarcoating things and tend to call things as I see them.
That being said, I do think there is a tendency within the Haven as a forum to unwittingly reinforce some maladaptive behaviors, specifically by insulating posters from their own culpability in certain situations and being supportive when a reality check really would be more helpful. Note that I'm not saying that this is the case in this specific thread, just making a general observation about this forum.

Sweetleaf, being called "a victim" could be an insult or an observation, depending on how its said; but it is a rather dismissive thing to say to someone.

Everyone is victimized by someone at some point in their lives, but it's not good to identify yourself with these experiences by labeling yourself. You are lots of things. To a certain extent (and I know how depression works against this) you can choose which experiences you want to identify yourself with - choose the good ones.