Do you ever feel like an outcast on WP?

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I never look to see who posted the thread before I click on it. If the thread title catches my eye or if it's one I've posted in before, I'll take a look. Sometimes I read it and can understand the posters feelings or have a suggestion and I might post that, if I'm in a posting mood. If not, I'll just read it and go on. Other times I don't have a suggestion or answer and so I'll go on to another thread.

I don't respond based on who the OP is, but on the actual post itself. If it's very long or difficult to follow, I just give up by the middle of it and go on. It really depends on my mood as to what I respond to.

Many of my threads I've started have gotten few responses, but I don't take it personally. Even if a handfull of posters do dislike me and don't read my threads because of that, so what? It's just a forum online, I don't live with them or have to interact with them on a daily basis (or ever really), and so it doesn't matter to me. I also know that I can't please everyone, so I try to please myself and my immediate family and not worry so much about the rest.

It does help to get positive feedback, especially when you are in a tough situation and want to talk about it. The thing is, sometimes others really don't have anything to say, and the Haven is inundated with venting posts, so replying to all of them would be a full time job. I'd imagine that people just read and respond to the ones that catch their eye or are worded in ways they like.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

CaptainTrips222: if you want to commiserate or complain about feeling like an outcast, that is perfectly acceptable. considering the number of people who responded to your thread, i'd say that people here must be interested in interacting with you. they are not casting you out. i am sorry you feel like an outsider.

OneStepBeyond went out of her way to help you on more than one occasion. you misunderstood her intent on your suicide thread (and on this thread), so she (and another member) explained to you what she was trying to say. if you felt like she was out of line, you could even have asked a moderator to look into it. you had a chance to acknowledge the misunderstanding and move on, but you didn't - you kept attacking her.

and then you took out a couple of other members. not cool.

OneStepBeyond: when someone is attacking you i don't expect you to suffer in silence, but i do expect that you will talk to the moderators instead of lashing back.

everyone: keep it respectful please.

thank you.