Just something I need to say

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Sweetleaf, have you thought about using the blogging feature on here? You are a highly visible target (because you make a new thread every day, it seems like, often with largely the same content) and it draws criticism to you. If you posted into your own blog instead, the people who want to be supportive of you could follow your posts but you wouldn't attract the attention of those who have less patience with you.

Well I do tend to post on this web site most days, but I don't start my own threads every day. Also I don't believe this website is the appropriate place for people to look for targets especially this section of the web-site. So thanks for the suggestion but its really much easier to post here and this is what this section of the web-site is for.

If I start a blog it's not like anyones going to read it anyways.

Makes sense. I need to write to get things out of my head sometimes, but I don't care to attract attention to myself that way, so I keep a blog on another site.

Certainly it is not appropriate for people to target anybody via the Haven, but once you put it out there you can't control people's responses to your writing.

Well that's kinda the thing, I was kind of posting this for people to see, not just to type. Also I know you and the other poster who suggested the blog thing are trying to help. But you're kinda telling me to just go start a blog and stop posting on this site or whatever when this thread was sort of about not feeling welcome here.

Sorry. I was just trying to think of a safe space where you could get your thoughts out and only those who are supportive would read them.

Honestly, you have a pretty enviable experience if you have over 6000 posts and only a few negative remarks have been made to you--that's almost unheard-of on the Internet.

OliveOilMom wrote:
I like you Sweetleaf

Same

Same

and, when I see your name I like to read what you are saying because even if you are complaining, I can see that you are thinking about stuff a lot and that's always interesting and sometimes really enlightening for me even though I'm a lot older than you.

It's alright...I know you were trying to help...I just like posting on this website. Also there could certainly be more negative remarks.

From my perspective it may be that your postings often seem to be more so directed towards drama and attention seeking, rather than problem solving and soul seeking.
I don't know if you are under the care of a therapist, but it is something that you might want to look into. I find it very helpful myself. It would certainly help you to move forward from your bad place to get a professional diagnosis, some real answers and some precise aid.

Yeah so I hear and have heard my entire life any time I express any frustration. I guess for whatever reason people get mad at me because I feel so burnt out I just don't have the energy to try and overcome it with everything I have but it's still frustrating so I don't exactly pretend it never bothers me. I can't expect them to understand, but I don't feel anyone should go out of their way to try and make me feel worse about it.

Also I've already said I cannot afford a diagnoses, and I cannot seem to find any resources for people in my financial situation to pursue a diagnoses....also at this point I am not sure what good it would do, its not like I would be willing to take a bunch of psych meds and spend a bunch of time and money I don't have on therapy.

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