22 Feb 2012, 7:27 pm
Erisad wrote:
Tequila wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Hence why I don't own a full length mirror and spend most of my shower with my eyes closed, otherwise I'll see what I don't like and get sad. 
You're blowing it out of proportion. Yes, you may be a little overweight but it's not life-threatening. It's just a little tub. And it makes you look feminine.
Pudgy bellies and ginormous thighs are NOT feminine. You're only allowed to have fat in your breasts, ass and hips. Anywhere else and it's seen as disgusting.
I know you hate your weight, and although I think you're attractive I'm not even going to bother to try and convince you otherwise, as it would be patronising.
You have to remember although it seems impossible, weight can be lost. You aren't completely screwed. Imagine if you were losing your hair instead?
If the weight loss is the main thing that is getting you down, I can try to help you. But it will involve some embarassing questions.
22 Feb 2012, 7:28 pm
22 Feb 2012, 7:34 pm
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Tequila wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Hence why I don't own a full length mirror and spend most of my shower with my eyes closed, otherwise I'll see what I don't like and get sad.
You're blowing it out of proportion. Yes, you may be a little overweight but it's not life-threatening. It's just a little tub. And it makes you look feminine.
Pudgy bellies and ginormous thighs are NOT feminine. You're only allowed to have fat in your breasts, ass and hips. Anywhere else and it's seen as disgusting.
I know you hate your weight, and although I think you're attractive I'm not even going to bother to try and convince you otherwise, as it would be patronising.
You have to remember although it seems impossible, weight can be lost. You aren't completely screwed. Imagine if you were losing your hair instead?
If the weight loss is the main thing that is getting you down, I can try to help you. But it will involve some embarassing questions.
I know. I'm just frustrated and I needed to vent, basically. Weight loss is one of the main things getting me down. The others being the job search and not having a car. :/
22 Feb 2012, 7:36 pm
22 Feb 2012, 7:39 pm
hale_bopp wrote:
You don't suck, Erisad. You're 22 years old and your life is just starting.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
This. You're clearly a very bright young woman. You've got it made. As long as you keep faith and your confidence, your life will be beautiful. Just watch.
22 Feb 2012, 7:41 pm
hale_bopp wrote:
You don't suck, Erisad. You're 22 years old and your life is just starting.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
Right but I was a moron and blew the opportunity because I had a f*****g meltdown at the office and hung up on a caller.
22 Feb 2012, 7:41 pm
22 Feb 2012, 7:42 pm
Tequila wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Anywhere else and it's seen as disgusting.
Who sees it as disgusting? I don't and neither does your boyfriend. He sounds like a very satisfied customer to me. If I was him I'd want to feel it, touch it, cuddle up next to it.
ME. I see it as disgusting and it keeps me from being able to wear cute clothes. He likes my belly but I hate it when he feels it as it reminds me of how jiggly it is.
22 Feb 2012, 7:43 pm
22 Feb 2012, 7:43 pm
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
You don't suck, Erisad. You're 22 years old and your life is just starting.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
Right but I was a moron and blew the opportunity because I had a f***ing meltdown at the office and hung up on a caller.
You are speaking to the master of work place melt downs here.
I was thrown out of the building with force in one instance.
Don't be so hard on yourself. YOU HAVE ASPERGERS. We have meltdowns, and yes, they happen in the work place. I have been shamed many, MANY times in a work place.
You have to hold your head high and keep going.
22 Feb 2012, 7:44 pm
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
You don't suck, Erisad. You're 22 years old and your life is just starting.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
Right but I was a moron and blew the opportunity because I had a f***ing meltdown at the office and hung up on a caller.
Let me guess.. you live in a right to work state?
22 Feb 2012, 7:46 pm
22 Feb 2012, 7:46 pm
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
You don't suck, Erisad. You're 22 years old and your life is just starting.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
Right but I was a moron and blew the opportunity because I had a f***ing meltdown at the office and hung up on a caller.
You are speaking to the master of work place melt downs here.
I was thrown out of the building with force in one instance.
Don't be so hard on yourself. YOU HAVE ASPERGERS. We have meltdowns, and yes, they happen in the work place. I have been shamed many, MANY times in a work place.
You have to hold your head high and keep going.
I feel maybe I could have been helped if I told my employer about my AS but I was so worried that they would discriminate against me and treat me like a bigger idiot than they already were... *sigh* I can't really use them as a reference now because I'm known as the girl who cried at her desk and had the highest rate of transferring calls to a supervisor than they have ever seen.
22 Feb 2012, 7:47 pm
rabbittss wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
You don't suck, Erisad. You're 22 years old and your life is just starting.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
Right but I was a moron and blew the opportunity because I had a f***ing meltdown at the office and hung up on a caller.
Let me guess.. you live in a right to work state?
No, actually. I'm in Pennsylvania. I don't really know what it is but after a quick google search, I know I'm not in one.
22 Feb 2012, 7:48 pm
22 Feb 2012, 7:49 pm
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