being ugly

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You think looks matter the most? There are people who are decent-looking and still have death wishes (like me). I've had people tell me that I'm too good looking to be single and guess what? No girlfriend and may never have a GF. My loneliness is the reason I am dying to get brain cancer.

This is crazy. I lost my head once over a guy who thought he looked like a moose. He thought he was hideous, but I would have given up on everything that was dear to me if I could have been with him. Heck I would even had given my life if there was a way to be with him even if only for an hour.

Appearance DOES NOT matter - if someone loves you they will love you even if you have two sets of arms and legs and really look like a moose.

I slept for a few hours. I think on average I get three or four hours of sleep each night.


It really is just a fantasy to imagine my own death, but it seems like such a sweet prospect. Everything just fading out, and then nothing and not even experiencing the nothing. It's not as if I'm imagining something better or different.

I'm embarassed I made this thread.

In my experience there's a low correlation between how good-looking someone says they are and how good-looking others find them. Usually this is with people saying they're ugly, but it also sometimes happens that person thinks they're good looking and I think they're ugly. (I'm willing to be there's research to back this up, but I haven't looked.)

meems, you certainly look above-average to me (I like your hair!) and others in this thread seem to agree. Of course it's possible that everyone, including me, is just saying so to make you feel better, but that seems unlikely given that we aspies tend to value the truth so highly. I know at least that I'm being truthful. (If I agreed that you were ugly I would have simply avoided replying.) So, whatever the problem is, I don't think it's your looks. It sounds like there is a problem, though, and I hope you talk to a good psychologist about it, who can help you to understand what's going on and get through it.

My psychiatrist already has his hands full, I can't pile this on. I have no idea why this feels like such a huge problem, it's not like I have a lack of real issues to cope with. This shouldn't be such a huge issue but I can't seem to get beyond it lately.

But what is there to do after death, its probably dark, cold and lonely.

Some people make ugly work for them - take Clint Howard, Phyllis Diller or Marty Feldman, for instance. Courtney Love, Lyle Lovett, Steven Tyler, Iggy Pop, Donatella Versace, Kelly Osbourne, Ozzy Osbourne, Tory Spelling??? How about Margaret Thatcher, Dianne Feinstein or Henry Kissinger. Lots of ugly politicians. I could go on all day.

Personally, I'm not impressed by beautiful people unless they have something of substance to them, but since attraction is initially based on visual presentation, I can see your point.

Whatever. If you're ugly, you don't have to deal with people just liking you for something that doesn't matter. Don't let yourself get hung up on it. That will stunt your success more than simply being ugly.

Why would you put your picture on the internet? Especially if you think you're ugly. People get a hold of a picture of someone and they'll do horrible, horrible things with it. Not only that, if you get away from those people. You've give them a tool to track you down and pile on more grief. Putting your picture on the internet is probably the second dumbest thing a person can do short of jumping out of an airplane @ 20,000 ft w/o a parachute.

Not sure why this needed a thread of its own. It just seems like a big attention seeking extravaganza opposed to discussing appearances in general. Like anything else, physical attraction is subjective. You may seem ugly to others or even to yourself, but there will always be people that will at least find you some what attractive. Plus, it is the person you are that counts, not how easy you are on the eyes.