01 Apr 2014, 8:00 am
01 Apr 2014, 10:51 am
01 Apr 2014, 3:42 pm
01 Apr 2014, 9:54 pm
em_tsuj wrote:
Joe90 wrote:
If I do get noticed in that way, it's always either by a man who is married, or a man who is really not my type. I don't go for a certain physical feature, but there's still got to be something about them that draws me to them. I can't just date anyone if I don't like them in that way, because it's not fair on the man if the relationship is dishonest. But if somebody is interested in me who secretly makes me literally feel sick, I don't have the heart to tell them that I don't like them in that way, especially once we get talking and I can tell that they are feeling hopeful. That has happened before, and they got all upset and made me feel like a bad person, just because I told them they were very nice but weren't my type to date, and when I said I still wanted to be friends, I didn't hear from them any more.
I've been on a dating site, and I found I didn't really form any connections. Some men started talking to me and I replied an appropriate response each time, then I suddenly didn't hear from them any more. Then suddenly one did keep a conversation going, and we sent each other a few messages each day until I felt there was a connection, and then I added him on Skype. The trouble was he didn't have a profile picture, but the conversations were going so well that I wanted to give it a try, as it was the furthest I had got on a dating site. Then he videocalled me, and that was when I saw what he looked like for the first time, and he was not the type of guy I wanted. He was foreign, and no I am not racist, I just tend to be more sexually attracted to white people. Nothing to do with racism, before everybody creates an uproar about it all. My uncle is white but has always been sexually attracted to Asian girls, and he is dating one now. I don't call him racist, it's just what he likes I suppose. So now I have got this foreign guy on Skype who has become hopeful, I will feel awful if I told him that he's not my type. I didn't like to when I first saw his face on the Skype videocall because I just couldn't. I hate falling into this trap.
I've been on a dating site, and I found I didn't really form any connections. Some men started talking to me and I replied an appropriate response each time, then I suddenly didn't hear from them any more. Then suddenly one did keep a conversation going, and we sent each other a few messages each day until I felt there was a connection, and then I added him on Skype. The trouble was he didn't have a profile picture, but the conversations were going so well that I wanted to give it a try, as it was the furthest I had got on a dating site. Then he videocalled me, and that was when I saw what he looked like for the first time, and he was not the type of guy I wanted. He was foreign, and no I am not racist, I just tend to be more sexually attracted to white people. Nothing to do with racism, before everybody creates an uproar about it all. My uncle is white but has always been sexually attracted to Asian girls, and he is dating one now. I don't call him racist, it's just what he likes I suppose. So now I have got this foreign guy on Skype who has become hopeful, I will feel awful if I told him that he's not my type. I didn't like to when I first saw his face on the Skype videocall because I just couldn't. I hate falling into this trap.
The heart wants what the heart wants. You are not racist.
that that's nice to hear. I don't feel I'm racist either, but i do tend to be more attracted to whites, Asians, Latinos then African Americans. There are a few that I haven't been though, and I've had some as friends(as well they are just people) i worried maybe it meant i was a subconscious racist
I would totally date a AA if i found her attractive. Just like I couldn't date a white woman if i found her unattractive. I couldn't pic a top choice though. as if I found them all attractive and they all wanted me and met what i like in personality I'd probably just south destruct.
but they'll never happen. that said i have heard of AA's looking down on mix couples, is this true or just a small amount? i've seen it done with Latinos and Asians too. perhaps just a ethic extreme pride thing?
I really don't see the problem. everyone should be allowed to be with who makes them happy.
02 Apr 2014, 7:48 pm
02 Apr 2014, 8:50 pm
sly279 wrote:
em_tsuj wrote:
Joe90 wrote:
If I do get noticed in that way, it's always either by a man who is married, or a man who is really not my type. I don't go for a certain physical feature, but there's still got to be something about them that draws me to them. I can't just date anyone if I don't like them in that way, because it's not fair on the man if the relationship is dishonest. But if somebody is interested in me who secretly makes me literally feel sick, I don't have the heart to tell them that I don't like them in that way, especially once we get talking and I can tell that they are feeling hopeful. That has happened before, and they got all upset and made me feel like a bad person, just because I told them they were very nice but weren't my type to date, and when I said I still wanted to be friends, I didn't hear from them any more.
I've been on a dating site, and I found I didn't really form any connections. Some men started talking to me and I replied an appropriate response each time, then I suddenly didn't hear from them any more. Then suddenly one did keep a conversation going, and we sent each other a few messages each day until I felt there was a connection, and then I added him on Skype. The trouble was he didn't have a profile picture, but the conversations were going so well that I wanted to give it a try, as it was the furthest I had got on a dating site. Then he videocalled me, and that was when I saw what he looked like for the first time, and he was not the type of guy I wanted. He was foreign, and no I am not racist, I just tend to be more sexually attracted to white people. Nothing to do with racism, before everybody creates an uproar about it all. My uncle is white but has always been sexually attracted to Asian girls, and he is dating one now. I don't call him racist, it's just what he likes I suppose. So now I have got this foreign guy on Skype who has become hopeful, I will feel awful if I told him that he's not my type. I didn't like to when I first saw his face on the Skype videocall because I just couldn't. I hate falling into this trap.
I've been on a dating site, and I found I didn't really form any connections. Some men started talking to me and I replied an appropriate response each time, then I suddenly didn't hear from them any more. Then suddenly one did keep a conversation going, and we sent each other a few messages each day until I felt there was a connection, and then I added him on Skype. The trouble was he didn't have a profile picture, but the conversations were going so well that I wanted to give it a try, as it was the furthest I had got on a dating site. Then he videocalled me, and that was when I saw what he looked like for the first time, and he was not the type of guy I wanted. He was foreign, and no I am not racist, I just tend to be more sexually attracted to white people. Nothing to do with racism, before everybody creates an uproar about it all. My uncle is white but has always been sexually attracted to Asian girls, and he is dating one now. I don't call him racist, it's just what he likes I suppose. So now I have got this foreign guy on Skype who has become hopeful, I will feel awful if I told him that he's not my type. I didn't like to when I first saw his face on the Skype videocall because I just couldn't. I hate falling into this trap.
The heart wants what the heart wants. You are not racist.
that that's nice to hear. I don't feel I'm racist either, but i do tend to be more attracted to whites, Asians, Latinos then African Americans. There are a few that I haven't been though, and I've had some as friends(as well they are just people) i worried maybe it meant i was a subconscious racist
I would totally date a AA if i found her attractive. Just like I couldn't date a white woman if i found her unattractive. I couldn't pic a top choice though. as if I found them all attractive and they all wanted me and met what i like in personality I'd probably just south destruct. but they'll never happen. that said i have heard of AA's looking down on mix couples, is this true or just a small amount? i've seen it done with Latinos and Asians too. perhaps just a ethic extreme pride thing?
I really don't see the problem. everyone should be allowed to be with who makes them happy.
I don't know. I have never been part of the black community.
02 Apr 2014, 9:01 pm
06 Apr 2014, 11:19 am
sly279 wrote:
that that's nice to hear. I don't feel I'm racist either, but i do tend to be more attracted to whites, Asians, Latinos then African Americans. There are a few that I haven't been though, and I've had some as friends(as well they are just people) i worried maybe it meant i was a subconscious racist I would totally date a AA if i found her attractive. Just like I couldn't date a white woman if i found her unattractive. I couldn't pic a top choice though. as if I found them all attractive and they all wanted me and met what i like in personality I'd probably just south destruct.
but they'll never happen. that said i have heard of AA's looking down on mix couples, is this true or just a small amount? i've seen it done with Latinos and Asians too. perhaps just a ethic extreme pride thing?
I really don't see the problem. everyone should be allowed to be with who makes them happy.
I would totally date a AA if i found her attractive. Just like I couldn't date a white woman if i found her unattractive. I couldn't pic a top choice though. as if I found them all attractive and they all wanted me and met what i like in personality I'd probably just south destruct. but they'll never happen. that said i have heard of AA's looking down on mix couples, is this true or just a small amount? i've seen it done with Latinos and Asians too. perhaps just a ethic extreme pride thing?
I really don't see the problem. everyone should be allowed to be with who makes them happy.
African american guy here. I wouldn't look at something like that as a cultural thing, nor equate group thinking as a majority.
There is a small amount of ignorant thinking in any ethnicity. I've met African American's who've looked down on mixed relationships and white people as well who've done it. Just like i've met racists from both groups as well.
That being said--there's nothing racist in terms of preference of looks in an individual, a little shallow? Maybe but everyone in existence pretty much is. If you read studies people have preference in looks based on faces they were around a lot when they were babies, advertisements and tv, etc. Anyway, just my two cents.
09 Apr 2014, 9:48 am
alessi wrote:
I thought I wanted a boyfriend too but I had a partner who was abusive and nasty. He cheated and finally dumped me.
I don't think I can go through that again. I am still not over it.
All that glitters is not gold.
I don't think I can go through that again. I am still not over it.
All that glitters is not gold.
I know, yep, I agree but guess each of us has to experience on its own..
so manyy singlee people here
hohoho
maybe i'll search here when I decide to try a relationship again
but seriously, goood luck in finding a guy, you sure will one day or night, be carefull with your feelings, if he decides to leave you'll remain alone again
meetup.com sound great : o
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