My Aspie bf is obsessed with sex. Help!

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I am confused laura, is the problem his sex drive or you want to end this relationship? Or you want to be out of his relationship because of his sex drive?

The other use suggested ways to decrease his sex drive but do you really want the guy?

The guy harasses her for sex she doesn't want (for various reasons, though it doesn't matter; "stop" means "stop"), then manipulates her when she tries to leave. He's aggressive enough that she thinks he's going to molest/attack her. This is not a good guy. Laura's confused because she thinks she has to be loyal to him, because she has feelings for him and they've been an item for a long time. She doesn't have to be loyal to him, let him down easy, spare his feelings, etc. He's not a good guy and he treats her badly, and she doesn't owe him anything. She came looking for help, and the only help in a situation like that is to DTMFA, leave, goodbye, no forwarding address, block the calls and texts and emails.

Will it be painful, yes, but she'll get over that, and she won't have to worry about this dude jumping her and continuing to manipulate her and ignore her boundaries.

nope, that's his problem. He's also an adult and responsible for respecting other people's sexual boundaries. That part's not her responsibility to enforce, and she's looking for trouble if she tries it.

Do you have PTSD from a sexually abusive past? If so I strongly recommend breaking up with him it might be hard on him but if he cannot respect your boundaries due to his hypersexuality then he shouldn't be with you. I myself have a high sex drive but if the person im with doesn't want sex I back off I can always masturbate anyway the thing is self control and he doesn't seem to have any.

maybe she never refused him sex
she might be frustrated inside and writing it over here
but not telling him
just like my mom