A glued-together vase is never the same

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He didn't attack you. He gave you advice based on what had worked for him.

This sounds pretty passive-aggressive to me, actually.

I humbly ask you to read what was actually said. Especially his second reply, where he told me to stop "harping", in clear reference to my original post.

Getting advice along the lines of "Hey, I had your troubles but I got over it and so should you", combined with a good amount of dismissive condescension, is not something a person comes to "The Haven" for.



I'm trying to draw your attention to what is true, without aggravating you directly. Because you're a mod.

Here is what he said:

I really think that he was speaking in generalities and not attacking you specifically.



Relax. I'm not power-hungry enough to ban people just for arguing their case.

From the ongoing context of his tone, motive, word choice and persistence, I cannot agree. However I am done with this person and added them to ignore list. I do not take joy in "attacking people", and in the future will simply immediately block people like this, who stick pins in your back so you'd turn around and punch them in full view.

So, no more trouble coming from me.

I would also suggest that asking them to explain what they meant might be another good way of approaching things.

This is a forum full of people with pathologically poor social skills. Sometimes things come out the wrong way.

Thank you, I will keep that in mind. I appreciate your patience.

Thank you. I appreciate how reasonable you've been in this discussion.

Kraftie is a forum favourite, everyone will rush to his defence. I prefer the old days when people would offer an ear rather than empty words, but the forum is full of vapid pleasantries lately.
Kraftie, I'm not sure what you mean about getting a new vase. If I could I would, but I'm stuck with these broken pieces. Sometimes you have to do the best with what you have. And it's hard.
I take antidepressants and they keep me going, but something that most people aren't aware of - its not always possible to be happy. And that's not a choice, its just the way it is for some of us.

Is it possible to be a broken vase and for that to be ok, its just who you are now?
Not wasting energy fighting reality, accepting it and moving forward with altered expectations.

Altering expectations is a hard one for me. I forget that I'm not capable of doing what I imagine. But reality always steps in and failure. If I don't keep this in mind I wont try the little things where success is possible. Baby steps, lol.

Fair point, adjusting basic but significant life expectations without having a choice about it, is just difficult. Sometimes life circumstances are crap and there aren’t any positives, the op has had a tough time so far in life, I’m glad he posted this thread. I hope Monsterland, that you found responses from people that can identify with your experiences. I can.
In an image search I found some original works of art in the form of 'broken tile mosaic vases', I might make one.