Do aspies never grow up or mature?

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The concept of "adult" and "grown up" doesn't apply here.
Aspies are different. we grow up differently i suppose. Let's suppose an aspie is actually grown up an all, how are you going to tell? he is not going to be like the other NT-adults and grown ups but something different on his own.
You are applying NT standards to aspies and making yourself unhappy.
on the other hand I believe a huge problem is aspies don't like changes (or hate changes to the max) and growing up and puberty and those damn hormones and all that crap suck big time.
but again, you are comparing aspies to NT adults. An aspie is never going to be an NT adult. and an aspie adult remains to be defined.

They do mature, but it's different from the maturity of neurotypicals.

Growing up is not so bad as long as you work on yourself.

Everyone wants to enjoy things like kids do, which is why adults still play game consoles or watch Disney films.
I played with toys till I was ten as a kid, back then I got a report saying it was inappropriate after one of my assessments for education, I never felt so humiliated as I did that day, I was slightly young in my ways but I was made to feel stupid. Even now I think about it from time to time. When you act like a kid whilst you're still a kid, if you're not "grown up" by age 8, apparently according to society it's wrong. I'm an adult and even now I like childlike humour, wearing clothing that teens do, like " tie dye fairy tops and sometimes gothic clothes " play game consoles.
Yet if you're a pregnant teenager or you try to "grow up" too quickly apparently that's ok. Aspie or Neurotypical, everyone matures at their own pace and some people prefer to think young and that's ok.

I don’t know about others, but I still consider myself a kid in many ways. The following terms - “mister”, “sir”, “adult”, “man” – seem to apply to those who are older, more socially aware and more mature than me. Which is altogether fine with me.

I am gonna be 32 soon but I still feel like a kid, and that is still my nick name at work. I am not bothered by it in the least.

Im 32 and I still feel pretty much the same when I was in highschool and my 20s I still act the same too so Ill probably remain immature till old age. Throw in the possibility of ADHD being mature is probably impossible I get hyper I get curious and I get into mischief and pull pranks online. The mods dont always like it though as they dont share the same sense of humor. What I don't understand is that NTs use sarcasm as an attempt to be funny but whenever I try it out I am all of a sudden an a**hole.

I stopped maturing. People always tell me I act like a little girl. There was this stage I was going through when I was twenty years old where I was trying really hard to act older -- it didn't work out. I would give second thought to every little thing I did and ask myself, "Is this immature?" I tried and tried, but people would comment on the childish way I ate my food, sat down, laughed, and reacted to things.

Funny part is I dress older: knee length skirts, formal shoes, sweaters. I only wear dull colors. But I put bows and ribbons on my hair still so I guess it sort of balances things?