Tired of being alive

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I should have started a new topic with this, I feel that I'm hijacking IceKitty's thread, which wasn't my intention. I simply wanted to relate that there is an additional dimension to divorce in being an Aspie. It's obviously bad enough for anybody, but for people who have difficulty understanding and dealing with relationships there are further problems and disadvantages.

Thank you anyway for the replies, but I'm not sure that I want to pour all of the details out on a public forum, suffice to say that I do feel a terrible sense of injustice. I was only diagnosed recently, so I thought this would be a way forward in understanding my problems together, but I've been left to deal with it on my own. She's left me when I needed her most.

Wish I could say I was perfectly OK, but I can't. I'm still horribly depressed. A lot of his complaints with my have to do with my being an Aspie...he says I'm cold, didn't want sex enough (well what happened is the "honeymoon period' was over and instead of trying to fix things and be more romantic, he acted entitled (to my body) and pissy with me, which made me feel like having sex less, and so on). He thinks I don't appreciate gifts I was given because I don't "ooh and aah" enough. I can't do that. It feels fake. I always thank people but that never seems to be enough with him. Nothing I've done has ever been good enough. I think to be good enough I'd have to be NT, and I'm not and will not be. He always wanted to have lots of friends, have people over, etc, and I wanted home to be a retreat from people. I'm coming to the conclusion he never loved ME. He loved some fictional person I could be if I were NT *cry*

Icekitty and lostproperty

At least you have each other

It's not nice to be made to feel that Aspegers is impossible to live with because I have to live as an Aspie 24/7. My wife can run away from it, but I can't. I worry too what kind of message this action of her leaving me sends out to my children, it's basically saying to them that Asperger's is a bad thing that nobody should have to put up with apart from the Aspies themselves. It certainly doesn't encourage my children to understand and accept me for who I am. Instead it's now something they chould potentially feel angry about as the reason for mum and dad separating. So I'll be the one to blame.

I could accept it if I'd had an affair, been abusive or prevented her from doing her own things, but I haven't, she had total freedom to come and go as she pleased because I was always there to look after the children while she was out or away. I was always there for her too when she needed me. So how does she justify what she's done to my children? I guess I'm going to be painted as a miserable bore who doesn't like eating out, going to fun-fairs and having lots of people visit, whilst her and her future partner will show them a good time and how great and exciting life could have been if only she'd left me sooner.

That's going to be a great adventure for you!

For those of us who will never go on that great adventure...
your'e our surrogate son!

bittersweet love and kisses
to you and all your own