Got accused of stealing from a shop

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I think I'm going to become agoraphobic soon anyway. I am highly sensitive and have social phobia, and each time some nasty f**ktard disrespects me, it sets me back a little. I get stared at, laughed at, turfed off benches, walked into, honked at by car drivers, sarcasm thrown at me, jostled, and anything else you can think of.

I've had enough. It makes me not want to ever go out in public again, unless I'm with somebody. I ain't f*****g putting up with this s**t from people any more. It has conditioned me to think I'm some worthless, ret*d freak. Yes some of it is probably my imagination but my social anxiety makes it difficult to decipher what is my imagination and what is real. Plus going on autism sites talking about social anxiety doesn't help because people here seem to think all Aspies are walking around flapping their hands, dressed eccentrically, talking to themselves and oblivious to other people's "body language" and s**t. That isn't the case for all Aspies. I just have a stupid expression what makes people express their a**hole side because I suppose my feelings don't matter.

I know you're pissed off. I know life is dealing you some blows right now.

But being an agoraphobic person limits you in lots of ways. I would try not to go on that path, if I were you.

I'm sure others who are agoraphobic would agree with me.

Your fiancé wouldn't like it too much if you can't go to the cinema with him, for example.

Public humiliation is one of the worst fears for a person with social anxiety.

And being made to feel unprivileged when out in public is no fun either. I'd be better off hiding away. At least then I won't be judged by strangers.

You have to know, IN YOURSELF, that you don't DESERVE the public humiliation.

It's a reflection of the other people, not you.

I won't pretend to understand what it's like to have crippling social anxiety. I emerged from my troubled youth being pretty OK with being different, ostracized, and judged. I was in many ways the scapegoat in my family, and while that has at times led to my being scapegoated in other settings, it did teach me to be free from worrying about being different.

Joe, you are dealing with some pretty big issues right now. Your mother's health, your coming change of status (marriage). If you choose not to deal with social anxiety and upsetting situations right now, that could be an entirely valid choice. You can always open that chapter later, when you feel a little more settled.

It does make me feel paranoid now when being in shops.

If it happened to me, and it occurred to me to show them the receipt, I'd expect them to snatch it from my hand, tear it into pieces and throw it away with a fed-up gesture, and then to keep going back to the shop with the item I allegedly stole, without losing their angry countenance or the certainty that they're doing the right thing.

Oh, and I'd also expect them to enforce the ban fiercely if I dared to go back to the shop, too, calling the police if I insisted---with no proof anymore at this point---that they're the ones who robbed me. I guess I'd end up processed for slandering them, in addition to beaten up by them when I pestered them too much with my useless complaint.