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07 Sep 2016, 7:33 pm

In my opinion you are certainly not ugly. You look completely normal.

From reading your post it seems that you have some signs of Asperger's. Maybe someone has called you ugly because they didn't understand that. Well, just because you may be different than 'regular' people doesn't mean you are ugly. Your face gives off warmth and at face value you appear to be a nice person.

Hopefully, if you deem the quirkiness that you have to be faults, that you can work on them and improve them in time.



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07 Sep 2016, 8:07 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Keep the beard.

Beards = Make-up for men.


+1, My beard attracted my Fiance.



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08 Sep 2016, 2:33 am

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Here my picture of my face
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absolutely nothing wrong that I can discern, you don't look overweight, you seem healthy. :wtg:



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08 Sep 2016, 2:37 am

+2 on the beard, and nooooo you are not 'Ugly'! !! !! ! and am sorry that society has made you feel that way!! :( because from just the picture alone you seem a very friendly caring 'Good Looking' individual... Once you start removing that ideology from ones mind you will start to naturally exert confidence, and women LOVE confidence! ( amongst millions of other things, but not going to generalise! lol) But seems confidence is the main attractor no matter what you look like! :)



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08 Sep 2016, 3:12 am

Mate, you're quite dashing. Certainly a hell of a lot better looking than me.



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08 Sep 2016, 3:31 am

I guess at least some of us see the grass as being handsomer in somebody else's mirror.



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08 Sep 2016, 3:38 am

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I guess at least some of us see the grass as being handsomer in somebody else's mirror.


Eh?



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08 Sep 2016, 3:39 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
I guess at least some of us see the grass as being handsomer in somebody else's mirror.


Eh?

apologies for clumsy use of mixed "grass is greener" metaphor. :oops: I meant to say that it seems to me that a lot of us think of ourselves as uniquely grotesque while most everybody else looks better than us.



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08 Sep 2016, 3:45 am

auntblabby wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
I guess at least some of us see the grass as being handsomer in somebody else's mirror.


Eh?

apologies for clumsy use of mixed "grass is greener" metaphor. :oops: I meant to say that it seems to me that a lot of us think of ourselves as uniquely grotesque while most everybody else looks better than us.


Maybe some of us are uniquely grotesque. Not the OP though.

Although, assuming he's a heterosexual he'd probably rather get told he's handsome from women instead of men. I know if a bunch of men said I was handsome it'd be rather meaningless.



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08 Sep 2016, 3:54 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
I guess at least some of us see the grass as being handsomer in somebody else's mirror.


Eh?

apologies for clumsy use of mixed "grass is greener" metaphor. :oops: I meant to say that it seems to me that a lot of us think of ourselves as uniquely grotesque while most everybody else looks better than us.


Maybe some of us are uniquely grotesque. Not the OP though.

Although, assuming he's a heterosexual he'd probably rather get told he's handsome from women instead of men. I know if a bunch of men said I was handsome it'd be rather meaningless.

as long as they weren't big and hulking and tattooed, I wouldn't fear if another man called me handsome. but if they said "you have a purty mouth" I think I would make myself scarce at that point.



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08 Sep 2016, 4:09 am

auntblabby wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
I guess at least some of us see the grass as being handsomer in somebody else's mirror.


Eh?

apologies for clumsy use of mixed "grass is greener" metaphor. :oops: I meant to say that it seems to me that a lot of us think of ourselves as uniquely grotesque while most everybody else looks better than us.


Maybe some of us are uniquely grotesque. Not the OP though.

Although, assuming he's a heterosexual he'd probably rather get told he's handsome from women instead of men. I know if a bunch of men said I was handsome it'd be rather meaningless.

as long as they weren't big and hulking and tattooed, I wouldn't fear if another man called me handsome. but if they said "you have a purty mouth" I think I would make myself scarce at that point.


That's not really what I meant. Being attractive is only useful when it's to the people you want to attract.



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08 Sep 2016, 5:30 am

being attractive even helps you if you are not attracted to somebody, like if it is an employer, they have been known to go more for attractive people than unattractive ones, especially in high-status jobs. a case in point- the 1960 presidential debates where JFK opted for makeup while Nixon skipped it, and he was notorious for a thick growth of whiskers and under the harsh studio lights of the day his 5 o'clock shadow made him look less healthy and vigorous than JFK, who made up looked relatively good under the lights, and because of this, the studio TV audience [and by extension the national audience] judged his debate performance to be superior to nixon's [an unconscious carry-over from his better physical appearance] while radio audiences not influenced by appearances judged Nixon won the debate.



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08 Sep 2016, 6:07 am

it's all good, nearly exactly my last crush,
nice gentle eyes and mouth too
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08 Sep 2016, 8:00 am

In other words.....you're not ugly!



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08 Sep 2016, 9:24 am

auntblabby wrote:
being attractive even helps you if you are not attracted to somebody, like if it is an employer, they have been known to go more for attractive people than unattractive ones, especially in high-status jobs. a case in point- the 1960 presidential debates where JFK opted for makeup while Nixon skipped it, and he was notorious for a thick growth of whiskers and under the harsh studio lights of the day his 5 o'clock shadow made him look less healthy and vigorous than JFK, who made up looked relatively good under the lights, and because of this, the studio TV audience [and by extension the national audience] judged his debate performance to be superior to nixon's [an unconscious carry-over from his better physical appearance] while radio audiences not influenced by appearances judged Nixon won the debate.


What most people may not know is that JFK was the worst president in terms of health--he was afflicted with Addison's disease.

http://content.time.com/time/magazine/a ... 54,00.html



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08 Sep 2016, 10:25 am

Yep...and he had a bad back, too!

Yet....he absolutely exuded youth.