Left ball game because girl I like was there

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Take advantage of how?

And how would they know?

Sometimes older guys like to take advantage of younger women because they are "easy" and naive. Younger women want to,experience life and learn from older people. Sometimes, older people like younger "meat." They don't have good intentions. They might make a young girl pregnant, then skip out on them.

People can tell these things. It's based on life experience, both good and bad.

They can tell because they have had experiences with these sorts of people themselves when they were younger.

I would say that people will trust you, because you don't seem like a "player." You seem sincere, not like someone who likes to get slick with people.

I see .i don't see women as meat. Maybe that's why I connect more with younger women,me cause I'm quite naive. I'd never willing skip out on my child or woman I love.

I don't get how people could tell those things, I can't

I think you going out with an 18-year-old would be good.

You can teach her a little about life. You'd be a good guy for her, provided you don't get all negative about things.

Have you asked her out yet?

sly279 you goofed a bit, BUT HERE IS THE DEAL- truth is the only way out of this, in my personal experience. If you pull her aside at work some day and explain that you're embarrassed about getting nervous at the game and dipping out on her and sister.. HONESTLY EXPLAIN that you're not exactly the 'smoothest' and that you didn't want to do/say anything embarrassing. (don't come off too strong- just apologize for making things weird and explain to her that you don't want things to be weird between you guys in the future, because you think she's really nice/sweet/awesome/etc *and you want to be friends*.. baby steps for now, bro- like I said, don't come off too strong yet.. **once you are friends,** SLOWLY explain that you can't always tell if/when girls are flirting with you- she will then either help you figure out the subtle nuances, as a good friend would, or, if she likes you, she'll say something like "they are flirting if they talk to you like I do.."

once you finally tell her you like her in a non-creepy, non-cringey/threatening way, DON'T FRET ABOUT HER REJECTING YOU IN SOME ESPECIALLY CRUEL WAY- here's why....

EITHER A- she actually has a crush on you as well, and possibly even pulled some strings and purposely set up the baseball double date to hang out with you. This would actually make sense, especially being a double date- group dating is less pressure and less awkward than 1 on 1. If she DOES like you back, she will be flattered by you tellin her you dig her style/whatever...

B- she will be understanding and, although the crush may not be reciprocated, at least she won't judge you any more for getting nervous and "abandoning" her and her cousin at the game (even though you DID goof, and should NEVER do this to anyone again- male OR female.)

or C- Being 2016, she will get fired for being even the SLIGHTEST BIT insensitive to some one with a disability- you'd get buku bucks for any emotional distress she caused you- even if you telling her that you had a crush on her would 'technically' be fraternization, you're on the spectrum.. we get away with a bit more than the average Joe because society realizes that, despite being skilled in many different areas in life, we as aspies/autists don't have much of a "filter" on what comes out of our mouths..


either way, doesn't hurt to just be honest and straight forward about it, right?? As long as you don't come off as desperate or creepy, you're fine- you can only make things *better* from here. cheers, bro. good luck.

I disagree. The OP wants to be more than friends. So he should not friendzone himself. That would be self-sabotage.

He should be honest, and say to the girl "I would like to hang out with you, because I really like you".

Saying "I really like you" is suitably ambiguous because it could mean he likes her in a romantic way, or it could just mean he likes her in a platonic way. "Liking" someone is a very vague expression so he is not committing to anything or giving too much away by stating that he likes her.

On the other hand, if he says to her "I want to be friends" he is friendzoning himself.

Men are always complaining about women friendzoning them, and complaining about how much it hurts when that happens. But here you are dishing out advice to the OP telling him to friendzone himself.

I do not agree that that is a good tactic. Either don't admit to her yet that you like her (if you don't have the courage) or admit to her that you like her, and see how she responds. But do not lie to her and say you only want to be friends, because that would be the coward's approach.

Who knows -- she may secretly like you. If you tell her you just want to be friends, you will be sabotaging it all and might be disappointing her because she might actually return your feelings.

This is my opinion because I like to be straightforward and honest and tell the truth, and I detest mind games.

No and I may have messed up any chance if there was in

She came up and said hi to me but I was nice but not engaging because at time thought it was as going work out with lady on Craigslist

Other lady at work thinks she might have a bf but doesn't know for sure and there's no guy in any of her fb photos.

Why would she want an ugly worthless guy anyways

It's not too late! You can still ask her out You're not ugly. We've seen your picture and you're a normal looking guy. Also you're really tall. Girls like tall guys.

I've heard tons of other posts from short guys bemoning the fact that girls don't like to date guys shorter than them but you don't have that problem.

It sounds like you really like her so ask her out. If you don't ask her out, she'll be sad.

Never had a woman truthfully find me attractive.

Sure but they don't like ugly poor guys.
They like attractive well off tall guys.

Like the comic strip where two women are like bald guys are hot then a fat ugly bald guy walks up and they'll like "ugh attractive bald guys are hot "

I asked another female coworker to try to find out if she likes me.

That's not necessarily true. Maybe this one already finds you acttractive. She said you were like a big teddy bear. Remember that women are into that hugging and snuggling stuff.Good idea  

Yeah, I second that. Seems like you're making the right steps and hopefully things work out. If not, that's alright. You're building up the confidence in the friendship and relationship area.

As far as looks, true love (IMO) is not based on looks. There's a great quote from a Futurama episode where a ball of energy says:

"One day you will evolve beyond your physical body. And on that day, I hope you will pick up the phone."

The one who said that is engaged not the girl I like

Then you'll have to convince the girl you like to feel the same way about you. Show her all your good qualities

I hope so. It's the girl I tried to befriend but ignored me on facebook until she needed Rosen wrap shifts but is talkative in person. So don't know where I stand with her, hopefully she'll help

Wish that was true, but true love is based slot on physical attraction aka chemistry.
The lady from cl liked most things about me but in the end couldn't ignore I'm ugly so ended it.

How?

I'm guessing the one said that because she was leaving the company and I said I'd miss her.