People who have a "social magnet"

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So you're not mad because she's popular and you're not, but because she's popular despite the fact that you think she doesn't deserve it? Did I get it right?

If I did then I sort of get the feeling; while I was still in school, it was very common for irresponsible rule breakers to be popular, even among the teachers, and that still pisses me off. However, what can be done about it? Not much, or at least I never found a way to solve it. Just think about it positively: she's just working in the same place as you; you don't need to spend your freetime with her if you don't want to so you're not stuck with her all the time.

Kind of. I thought my analogy using the Simpsons episode would help explain what I mean, but some people here took it too literally.

I'm not saying she is a nasty person or anything, but she does break a lot of hidden social rules that are often essential when it comes to being popular. Most NTs dislike being around people who are awkward and difficult to get along with, but this girl is not Aspie but has other issues that make her difficult to be with, and she says that the friends she has outside of work all have the same issues as her (depressive disorders, been in and out of mental health units, has self-harm and anger issues, etc). But the people I work with are mentally stable, and are just average NTs, and while I understand that they have to be civil because they work with her, to me it seems more than civilness, it's more like popularity.

I figure it's because she's loud and ain't shy to think out loud, but she often expresses her emotions inappropriately, like whinging all the time and getting too highly strung over nothing. I have an anxiety disorder but even I know when to keep quiet, and I've learnt to whinge less to people to earn better social approval. Most people don't like whingers. That's what I was always told when I was younger, because I used to whinge a lot to people and that was why I had no friends.