Why do things never go my way?

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22 Jan 2020, 3:35 pm

Marknis wrote:

My text book brought up the term learned helplessness. I’ve had others apply the term to me but I always feel resistant to it.

Usually this means it's working. We get the most upset at others if they share qualities we secretly hate about ourselves.

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23 Jan 2020, 1:49 pm

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Marknis wrote:

My text book brought up the term learned helplessness. I’ve had others apply the term to me but I always feel resistant to it.

Usually this means it's working. We get the most upset at others if they share qualities we secretly hate about ourselves.

Whenever I read my text book, it makes me wonder why the knowledge isn’t helping me.

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23 Jan 2020, 4:16 pm

Good point--knowledge isn't what helps us, it's actions that do the trick. Otherwise it's really quite easy to end up wallowing in self-pity until we drown our personalities in it, identify with it, and become truly pathetic wretches with no life.

At least you admit there's a problem; you're halfway there. Blaming it on other people like some folks do will make it worse. I had a lot of problems growing up--I was the bad kid, the weird kid, and the quiet kid all at once. But eventually it just happened that I decided to quit waiting for life to happen to me. I went out and took life by the horns and did what I had to do.

It hasn't been easy but I'm loving the adventure.

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27 Jan 2020, 1:59 pm

Why was I even born? Was it just to be a punching bag for others?

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28 Jan 2020, 1:31 am

i seem to have been born for that reason, at least until i was able to escape the rat race and become a hermit.

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29 Jan 2020, 10:28 am

I was actually told joining the rat race would get me a girlfriend. How?

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29 Jan 2020, 2:43 pm

Marknis wrote:

I was actually told joining the rat race would get me a girlfriend. How?

Basically, it's just another way to tell you to suck-it-up and conform to society.

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29 Jan 2020, 3:10 pm

I don't know guys, I don't work and I am bored, lonely and broke most of the time. Maybe having a job is a good way to meet people. I've been living in this town for three years and haven't met anyone my own age. I've only met old people because that's mostly who goes to the soup kitchen. And I'm not freinds with any of them. All the people my age are working. I'm cut off from them. At least Mark has a job. And it is not a bad job....if that's what is meant by rat race. Having one's own apartment would be a self confidence boost....if you can afford it.

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30 Jan 2020, 9:26 am

XFilesGeek wrote:

Marknis wrote:

I was actually told joining the rat race would get me a girlfriend. How?

Basically, it's just another way to tell you to suck-it-up and conform to society.

My parents think if you aren’t working yourself to death, you aren’t truly working. I am glad I don’t share their worldview. Oddly, despite being doctors, my mother roots for Trump and my father is a redneck.

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31 Jan 2020, 4:41 pm

I’ve been thinking about this redneck problem you’ve been having. I actually think they are the reason I went crazy. Not saying rednecks are evil it’s just I have nothing in common with them and so went mad from loneliness. It’s too bad Mark, that you can’t move to a less redneck population. I know you said you can’t move so I’m sorry for that. I’m pretty bored and miserable where I am. Been thinking about moving, somehow.

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31 Jan 2020, 10:17 pm

oftimes, the only way out is the hardest way out possible, with just the shirt on one's back, a thumb, gritty determination, and lotsa luck.

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01 Feb 2020, 2:51 pm

I know people who have hitch hiked great distances to get out of the place they were in.

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01 Feb 2020, 10:33 pm

Sarahsmith wrote:

I know people who have hitch hiked great distances to get out of the place they were in.

an alternate way out is to sign up with the armed forces. or the peace corps - talk about opposites.

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