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It sucks that they didnt acknowledge you, I have distanced myself from Facebook

I posted something in one of your other threads...you've seemed to have "forgotten" me

In other words, most of the time when you feel that people are ignoring you on purpose, or forgetting about you, it just isn't true. It's just that people have a lot of things on their mind.

I've had to learn that. I used to feel rejected all the time. I still feel rejected sometimes----but then I realize that people are people, and you're not going to change them. So I just move on with my life.

I think it's hard to explain things like this on an online forum, but I know people and if they use Facebook a lot and bother to wish other people a happy birthday but just ignore me when it's mine then I feel hurt by it. If you open your phone, see a notification saying "it's so-and-so's birthday today, wish him/her a happy birthday", it doesn't take 2 seconds to just be polite. Nobody likes being ignored on their birthday by people who are supposed to be your friends.

Yes I know people aren't obliged to think about me all the time and wish me a happy birthday but it's one of those social niceties that can mean a lot when you feel lonely as it is. I have been through a lot, I recently lost my mum, I have ADHD but I do usually remember my friends especially that I have Facebook it helps remind me of people and what they're doing.

Like the woman I mentioned in my OP, my cousin even said that she seemed to 'forget' my birthday on purpose, because she's literally always on Facebook and she's been my friend for years. If she doesn't like me when why don't she just unfriend me instead of ignoring me.

Just as I knew would happen.

A girl I used to work with who knew the same people I know at work but doesn't keep in touch with them really (I know this because she talks to me on Facebook messenger and told me herself) got happy birthday messages on her birthday yesterday from everyone we both knew who didn't wish me a happy birthday on my birthday.

So yeah, it's hard not to take these things personally. Turns out they're not "too busy", they just don't want to waste 2 seconds of their precious time sending me a polite message when they open their Facebook app. It costs nothing. Why do people just suddenly dislike me? All I want is friends, and I always wish them a happy birthday on their birthdays and like their posts and so on. What is it about me that people just don't like? Is it my name? Do I have the wrong name? Is it because I own pet rats and people don't like rats? Is it because my boyfriend is 20+ years older than me and people are against large age gaps? Is it because I don't drink?
My dandruff is getting worse because I'm always scratching my head trying to figure this mystery out.

chalk it up to "hell is other people." don't take it personally. other people are not to be put up on pedestals and venerated as paragons of moral virtue or as having gravitas or charisma or whatever. in the end it only matters that you have done right by yourself.

There are reasons that I understand why people wouldn't acknowledge me:-

1. If they don't visit Facebook that much (I don't expect people to remember my birthday like that)
2. If they're not really the sort to wish anyone a happy birthday, not just me
3. If I don't acknowledge them

There are reasons why I get upset if people don't acknowledge me:-

1. If they're on Facebook all the time and wish other people a happy birthday on their timelines, so it's obvious they have the birthday reminders activated but just CBA when it comes to me
2. If I acknowledge them (I don't mean bombarding them with messages, I just mean casual interest, like commenting that they look nice in a picture they posted of themselves or something)

I just dislike being treated differently from others. The answer I always get is always "maybe they're busy". Ah, but they're not "busy" when it comes to other people. Just when Joe90's birthday comes they're all suddenly abducted by aliens or performing an exorcism or having brain surgery or something and so can't log on to Facebook. (I'm talking about people who are always posting on Facebook and always have their iPhone in their hand whenever I see them, scrolling and receiving Facebook notifications with that familiar beep sound).

I have about 500 "friends" on Facebook. I don't think five people wished me a Happy Birthday. The ones who did were family members.

I did receive about 3 more from friends who might be on Facebook, but who didn't wish me a Happy Birthday in Facebook.

i tend to be given the cold shoulder on FB also.