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29 Aug 2022, 5:54 pm

Caz72 wrote:
he said to not let anyone from work know we are on a break otherwise i will get a queue of men wanting to take me out :roll:

That sounds pretty damn controlling. It’s entirely up to you whom you choose to tell or not tell. You are an adult.


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29 Aug 2022, 5:55 pm

What did your husband say or do?

Did he actually "leave" you?



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29 Aug 2022, 5:56 pm

If he actually "left" you, he doesn't have the right to care if "a queue of men" go after you.



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29 Aug 2022, 5:57 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
What did your husband say or do?

Did he actually "leave" you?

Read the comment towards the bottom (but not the very bottom) of the last page.


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29 Aug 2022, 6:02 pm

I'm not sure what a "break" means. It could means they "separated," but share the same residence. Or it could mean he left her physically, to live somewhere else.



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29 Aug 2022, 6:06 pm

It’s stated here. It’s in bold.

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im just heartbroken

my husband is obsessed with this friend of his and now that the friend is single my husband wants to be single as well

but i know he will come running back sooner or later to me because im his soulmate
i think my autism embarrasses him sometimes but he will be back

but im still heartbroken..he is staying with that guy for a few days just to give ourselves time apart but i do feel a bit sad

my son is sad too because his real dads in prison so my husband was a good father figure to him

but i promised my son that i will never let him down and that he is everything to me..im glad to have him really and if my husband does decide to leave me for good i will never get another boyfriend again

i love my son more than anyone else in this cruel world


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29 Aug 2022, 6:09 pm

not wanting to tell anyone means he hasnt left me for good we are just on a break meaning staying in separate houses for a few days

but i still feel sad..

we have been married for 9 years and we have had breaks before

im not the easiest person to live with


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29 Aug 2022, 6:10 pm

I see. Now I understand.

If the guy has another place, why does he want to live with your husband?

I understand you love him, and want to do right by him.

But if the guy has his own place, to me it doesn't make sense that he wants to stay with you and your husband.

I was under the impression that your husband's friend is homeless.

I can understand the friend not wanting to be alone. Breakups are hard. But I don't feel he should impose upon you and your husband.



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29 Aug 2022, 6:22 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I see. Now I understand.

If the guy has another place, why does he want to live with your husband?


because he doesnt like the thought of living alone i guess

but his daughters will still want to stay with him sometimes so he needs to stay in his own place for them

i dont think he will live with us now

im just going to enjoy being by myself for the time being

at least you can break wind without him reacting every time


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29 Aug 2022, 6:24 pm

That clinches it!

It's ridiculous, to me, that he wants to stay with you and your husband when he has daughters who want to stay with HIM.

The fact is: it's hard to adjust to having another person live with you. I don't like it when I have guests!

I feel like he's picking this guy over you.

I'm sorry it had to come to this----that you two had to take a "break." It really didn't have to happen.



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29 Aug 2022, 6:33 pm

You’ve just gone through a difficult time. He should be here for you right now.

From various things you’ve said, he doesn’t seem that supportive or that caring about your personal comfort.

He’s being selfish.


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29 Aug 2022, 6:34 pm

Yep....you could "break wind" with nary a worry in the world! :)



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29 Aug 2022, 7:13 pm

Sometimes there’s a double standard here. My ex didn’t want me to burp or fart but he did those things regularly.


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