Appearance's impact on life...

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Lovely one, I happily withdrew my sexism accusation.

anyway, your boss sucks, I dont know what you could do to resolve the situation. I think the worst thing is that they were patronising you by asking you to interview people to improve your social skills.

Dont forget, there is nothing wrong with you, other peoples reactions are a reflection of their issues not yours!

I am not quite sure about this anymore...

Ah, ok. Let me elaborate then. I used a sarcastic pun as a quick and amusing retort to the implied claim that heterosexual marriage is "proof" that someone is not gay. I tried to cleverly highlight the irony of similar forms of "proof" but relating it to the numerous republican anti-gay politicians who have been "outed" as gay, or whose homosexual behavior was publicized.

Here's a short quick list of a few, http://www.badmouth.net/top-five-republican-gay-sex-scandals/ . Ted Haggard is an amusing example, though not a republican politician. He's merely a married and (formerly) famous pastor in an evangelical mega church known for his strong anti-gay views.


I should stress that my initial comment too was somewhat facetious. However it brings up an interesting point about who exactly it is that considers good looks to be so important. Is it guys judging girls, or girls judging guys, or is it oddly men judging other men in a male dominated world?

I know of some straight people who will freely judge one man as more attractive than another, and they can often agree with gays. However, almost always, they are very open and secure in their sexuality, and can clearly distinguish between beauty and sexuality from experience. These sort of people are rare, and always carry around with them, a sense of "maturity" and "enlightenment".

I somehow doubt that most seemingly straight men who make innapropiate decisions based on the attractiveness of other men are like the above people I have met. I suspect there is an underlying unexamined sexuality that is at the root of the same sex appearance discrimination by straights.

Now, how does this compare to gays in their hiring practices and what-not? What of opposite sex hiring practices? I suspect those two situations are a little different because of the tendency of men to look down on women.

As a bi guy, I would certainly give an attractive guy a lot of attention in an interview or something, or treat him well. But if I really wanted what I wanted, I would not hire him. That's just moronic. Where's the "sexual harassment panda" when you need him! (reference to the south park parody of "smokey the bear"). However, if you are not in touch with your desires, and what you want, you will tend to act irrationally.

^ he might be a bi as well but in denial, I can't tell. =P But yea ....this is not the first time I heard him saying "this guy is handsome" .

As to your stature, people sometimes use the phrase 'small, but perfectly formed'.

Update:
I realized more that guy is a good person and very friendly, he's becoming a good friend of mine.

Maybe I was wrong...

Either way, I won't do Fnord's plan ,not only because it's unethical, but it won't work anyways. It would do more harm to me than benefit.

While in a perfect world we would be judged on our abilities, in this world one's appearance and interaction is one of those abilities being examined. Their priorities in hiring were obviously different than yours; that doesn't make your criteria invalid, just that you need to get into a position where you can have a productive influence. Glad you kept an open mind, and that you're getting along with your new coworker.


M.

It's not that easy.

I would be accused as insecure if I bring up something like this, some very hidden taboos can't be brought openly without being accused with names and being backfired because society is not aware of it yet, things would become worse for me. For example, where I live , I can't defend homosexuals without being seen as one and treated as one.

The only thing I can do is to object about the salary issue but I won't bring the looks issue.

Macho, macho man! Do you long to be a macho man? topic

That is what Greentea wrote. Why surprised?

Sounds true.

It's true. I was surprised at how quickly I was hired for three jobs these holidays. And how all of the responses came from the second version of my resume, which included a small ID photo of myself (but to be fair, also was an improved version of my resume).

It could have been because of any number of reasons, but my strongest suspicion is that I was hired so quickly because of my appearance and manner. I have a very normal, sort of neutral mildly attractive appearance, which I suspect people go for when hiring employees.

Should I have to attach your photo to my resume when I apply for another job?

What the hell you are talking about? Stay on topic or say something with sense or just don't post.

LPP - this is the Haven.

The post was on topic, added a little humor, and it is not up to you to determine who should post.


M.

^ alright.