My life was a misfire

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AP, why don’t you buy a laptop?

They cost at least $200. And, should he wind up on the street, it would be gone in no time.

Probably not practical for ASS-P until he gets a secure place to live.

I think people should remember not to believe everything they read on the internet. And to be suspicious of those who are too extreme and manage to draw such a tremendous amount of attention to themselves (either positive or negative). One very astute person who messaged me brought up Munchausen syndrome and I think he's onto something, or at least something along those lines involving excessive attention seeking and drama addiction.

My honest opinion:

ASS-P is a guy who has fun on WP sometimes. And he communicates with people in various threads.

Sometimes, he feels like he wants to ask for help. He has a sort of "hippie" idea about this. He feels people should be generous enough to offer their help without any conditions, like the hippies used to do during the 60s.

Most people, in the 60s and today, aren't hippies. They don't want to take chances with a stranger. And they don't want to sacrifice their lives too much. And ASS-P gets upset with them, because he feels people should help each other out. And he feels he should be helped, unconditionally--like the hippies used to do. His expectations are probably too high.

I don't feel like ASS-P is a dangerous person, honestly. I just feel that he feels that he can't do certain things---and he knows others can do them---so he thinks: "why not ask for help?" It's the hippie thing. He has hope that somebody will say to his/herself: Here's a man who has trouble with technology----why not me try to help him out with it?

...Ezra, as far as accusing me of Munchausen Syndrome goes, I think I tend to under-report - or at least not talk them up that much here .





aS"]I think people should remember not to believe everything they read on the internet. And to be suspicious of those who are too extreme and manage to draw such a tremendous amount of attention to themselves (either positive or negative). One very astute person who messaged me brought up Munchausen syndrome and I think he's onto something, or at least something along those lines involving excessive attention seeking and drama addiction.[/quote]

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Renal kidney failure, congestive heart failure, COPD. Can't really get up from a floor position unhelped anymore:-(.
One of the walking wounded ~ SMASHED DOWN by life and age, now prevented from even expressing myself! SOB.
" Oh, no! First you have to PROVE you deserve to go away to college! " ~ My mother, 1978 (the heyday of Andy Gibb and Player). I would still like to go.
My life destroyed by Thorazine and Mellaril - and rape - and the Psychiatric/Industrial Complex. SOB:-(! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

I'm thinking he has some distrust of social workers, for whatever reason----so he'd rather ask "fellow travelers" like himself.

I don’t disagree with you.

I’m just saying that ASS-P might feel that way.

You seem to have had quite a bit of experience with this, and are of a relatively objective mindset.

I trust your judgment here.

I don't think ASS-P is lying about his circumstances, in terms of his housing and medical situation. The only thing he seems a bit evasive about, is whether he has access to a local social worker. Which I tend to think he does, and knows perfectly well how to get shelter and medical help, when he needs to.

I am against vilifying mental health issues, whatever the label might be. Bottom line, we're all struggling with something - whether it's just autism, or a combination of other issues as well. Human beings have a need for interaction and acceptance, and it's not wrong to reach out for support on the internet, particularly here in the Haven.

True, we're all guilty of less-than-perfect behavior at times. (If a person claiming to be autistic doesn't struggle with social interaction, that's when I'd be suspicious!) And it's important to have forum rules in place, to keep the requests for support within the bounds of what's reasonable and safe between strangers on the internet.

But when it comes to simply being frustrated by another person's behavior, that's when I think we need to exercise better forum etiquette. You can't control someone else's behavior, but you can control your own. There's a fine line where 'tough love' crosses over into unhelpful antagonism, and we've all crossed it at times.

Bottom line, people here in the Haven need compassion and support, and ASS-P is no exception. He's a human being who has faced tougher circumstances than most of us will ever know, and that's why the moderators cut him some slack. I for one am glad that he has a place to reach out for support, and I appreciate his first-hand account of life as a homeless autistic - something I myself am just one step away from, should something happen to my family.

Also, we've been asked not to talk about ASS-P in the third person, so... Sorry, ASS-P! Please know I appreciate your presence here, and while I agree it's important to stay within reasonable bounds of forum etiquette, I think the feelings you express are genuine, and I support your right to express them.

Ashariel, the Haven should also not be exploited.