What’s on your mind? The Haven version.

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Yeah, this.

It is a conflicting feeling sometimes, being honest/blunt.

I'm way too polite and lenient all the time, which is why I couldn't take a supervising job or any other job that requires an authoritative role. I think it's because I hate being told what to do, so I don't like telling others what to do.

Maestra Tamaya, I feel you in this post! I'm fully in the same position as you here. I hate having to be the one who tells adult peers what to do! (exceptions are made for the kids )

Yeah, I mean I thought AS meant we're supposed to be blunt and honest, but I'm not lol. Well, I'm honest enough to be loyal and gain trust from others, but I mean I'm not usually honest in the Aspie way. I know when it's appropriate to lie and I don't see all lies as deceiving. Like the other day at work the strict supervisor asked me where another worker was who should have been working with me. I knew she was having an unauthorised coffee break like she always did, but I didn't want her to get into trouble, so I just said I didn't know. If he found her then that was out of my control, but I knew I did right (well, according to unwritten social rules I mean) by not being honest there. Making up a lie like "I think she's doing a task elsewhere" would have been no good, as in these situations it is best to just pretend you don't know. It's a whiter lie than making up something, as that could get us both into trouble or seem less plausible.