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I am worried that I will have to marry a woman for her money in order to afford the type of car and residence I want.

And even though I like the Simpsons and South Park, the reason I have them as criteria for a potential girlfriend is to weed out the right-wing fundamentalists. I assume that if one doesn't like those shows, they are right-wing Christian fundamentalists. I worry that someone will put V-chips on my four favorite TV channels: Comedy Central, Adult Swim, IFC, and Sundance.

I also require that anyone I date be an Aspie. I do want to start a family as well, and I have noticed that many Aspies don't want kids. But I don't think I can handle another relationship with an NT. If someone doesn't want kids, I assume that it is because she is asexual.

Hi Tim!
Was that a joke? the one about marrying a woman with stacks of money so that you can have the type of house and car you want!



What is more important? THE PERSON or the COMMODITY?

I agree GIVE UP!


GIVE UP.....LET GO..... of all the DEMANDS of the SHOPPING LIST!


Isn't it a relationship you want or is it a house and car that is of primary importance?

Regarding the RELIGION thing..... you are prepared to want a bet each way.... a SOLID CHRISTIAN..... who wants to tailor it to his own preferences... that is regarding SEX.

I'd be frightened to be involved with someone who was controlling.

As one poster said life/relaionships are about the JOURNEY ...... the process of living and discovering. Not the end result per se.

If one sees the destination more important than the journey what happens when you achieve it? ( the destination) Cease to grow as a person!

THe Wicca woman aspie sounds like the better option, she might be able to show you new ways to view your Christianity and therefore find a spiritual solution to your dilemma!

Best of LUCK!

LET GO and LET LIVE!

My reasons for wanting to live in a certain neighborhood involves having friends who are like-minded.

It was a joke. I would never want to use someone for that purpose.

I like people who like the Simpsons and South Park, and artsy independent films/music. These people tend to live in urban lofts near the city center. But said lofts are out of the price range that a typical GIS professional/urban planner can afford. And although I am libertarian/independent in my political beliefs and a Christian, many like-minded people tend to be liberal and atheist/agnostic/pagan. And assuming they don't think I am some sort of bigot, they would prefer people within bicycling distance. If I live outside of such a neighborhood, I have no chance of having like-minded friends.

OK!

Urban planner shouldn't translate to POLICY and MISSION STATEMENT regarding RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE!

Let's be practical! At present how many of these friends do you have ?
The one's you want to hang out with.

Religion is a private matter in that you could find the person of your dreams who might just not happen to be Christian and might have no intention of becoming one.

Now!
If that person was happy with you but did not want to convert you or be converted and, you were happy with that person ( and kept your religious views to yourself) what would be the problem?
You could still go to church.

No friends that I would want to befriend. The nearest neighborhood that they might congregate in is 30 miles away.

So it is a desire to mix with this sort of person!

How do you know you'll find them good company and vice versa?


If you are not mixing, and have not done so, then it is a wish that might not live up to expectations.


The only thing you can be sure of is where you are right now,

Projecting into the future is a little futile is it not?

Where is that stated in the bible exactly?



have you tried the "StraightEdge" people yet?



Apparently many 'Hipsters' (to use that term....) do have college degrees so we can't say that's a difference. Also Hipsters or 'artsy' people evolve into Yuppies (sometimes).

also don't Yuppies have a reputation in the cities as well....messing things up

OP, haave you posted this on craigslist or a 'meet-up' site? Try those places

Where is that stated in the bible exactly?



have you tried the "StraightEdge" people yet?



Apparently many 'Hipsters' (to use that term....) do have college degrees so we can't say that's a difference. Also Hipsters or 'artsy' people evolve into Yuppies (sometimes).

also don't Yuppies have a reputation in the cities as well....messing things up



Aren't those two cities full of autistic people (At least nerds - Texas Instruments and other such IT companies there? And isn't Texas A&M in theat area?)



good idea

stay away from the 'hard' drugs



I'm guessing for the cons of the girl who likes 'cartoons' she might be 'annoying' to you in some way or another (hardcore anime fans could do that to some 'normal' people - and some of the things they like to do may contradict your 'christian' lifestyle - Yaoi and Yuri fangirls and all)

After what happened to those women in Boston and Rhode Island earlier this year, I am trying to avoid Craigslist.

In short, I would like a lifestyle similar to those I see in some of the indie films I watch, that feature quirky couples who hang out in artsy scenarios, and live in lofts, and listen to some of the music I like, and decorate with ultra-contemporary furniture, similar to what one could find at Ikea or similar places.

Hi Tim!



You no doubt realise your dreams are based on fantasy.


Fantasy is just that FANTASY!

This leads me to another question:

How is it that in Europe, people with menial or non-professional jobs are able to afford lofts, yet for similar living arrangements in the U.S., one has to be either a doctor, lawyer, or engineer?

Don't know about people in Europe and lofts.


USA I guess it is Trendy and Trendy becomes expensive by nature. FASHIONABLE = creates a market , supply and demand =higher prices.


In Melbourne a about 3-4 decades ago there were area that were inhabited by the lower socio-economic strata, immigrants and students, particularly students of the arts. Old and affordable houses, later seen to be "with character" and an interesting place to live by lawyers, doctors and other reasonably well heeled ( financially well off), professionals.

RESULT:
Those of low socio-economic strata who were renting were forced out by the demand of the professionals wanting to buy and live in "characterful " houses in an area where the "interesting arty people lived" = STATUS SYMBOL = increased cost of buying or renting accomodation in these areas.

Immigrants, Students in communal houses, artists and the "poor" no longer live in these areas. The professionals , who like to think that they "live in the place to be seen" usually don't frequent the ARTS, but do frequent the many restaurants, cafes etc that have replaced the cheaper, diverse , ethnic eateries. All is now expensive.
This TREND continues, following the migration of those peoples forced out. to "less desirable locations"... the subsequent areas to be targeted as "desirable" by the upwardly socially mobile once again forces the poorer people out and the cost of housing rises. THE MERRY GO ROUND ( carousel) CONTINUES.

Do YOU as a CARING person want to force the poorer out of their affordable housing?
NO!
Once these areas, LOFTS ( in your case), become Trendy, prices increase and the original substance of the area disappears to be replaced by an ILLUSION.

PURELY FASHION > ALL SHOW and NO SUBSTANCE.... that is regarding the original appeal and nature of the area. All becomes market driven.


MORAL of the STORY:

He/she who is gullible to the Image of Appearances will be RIPPED OFF!

He/she/ who is true to INNER SELF will preserve INTEGRITY and Bank Balance!

If the artsy people are priced out of the lofts, then where do they live?

Here the people who MAKE art usually need cheap accomodation as they can't live well on the earnings from MAKING ART.

Hence, they look for cheap accomodation in an area that is not too far from their studio. Studio in OZ, is usually a shared space rented by artists ( I'm talking now only of visual artists) in which they Make their art. So the choice is on the whole purely economic. Access to art supply stores, public transport and affordable rent of studio space are significant criteria. Housing for many in younger years has been communal ... that is a house is rented and a number of people, could be a mix ( students, artists, working people, unemployed ), share the cost of rental and utilities expense. Often they combine in sharing communal duties such as cooking, shopping, cleaning the house etc.

Choice of where is determined by economics in regard to these practical necessities of life. NOT BY IMAGE or being in the IN GROUP!

As I said previously those forced out have to find another cheap location. This location will at the time NOT have any of the ARTSY attributes, it will be a poor working class ( hate that word) area that offers the possibility of affordable studio space and/or housing. NOTHING TRENDY ABOUT IT... just hard yakka ( OZ for work)

Tim, I really enjoy reading what you write. It makes me laugh. I don't mean that in any negative way whatsoever. It's also interesting reading how people respond to you. I don't really have a way of describing it, it just all kind of makes me giggle, and I'm really not a giggling kind of girl. It's like a bunch of rocks meeting together at a hard place or something like that. I can see it playing out in my head. All the rocks keep hitting at you, the center rock, saying things like "change who you are" or "you'll never get what you want" and you're just looking at them (this is an animated mental picture, so all the rocks have eyes) saying "no, you're wrong".

Don't let anybody tell you that what you are looking for is not attainable. It is. Of course, when you discuss relationships, you are talking about another person, and you can't create another person. I know. I've tried. You're never going to find someone who meets 100% of your criteria, you will have to compromise. But you can find Christian girls who like to watch South Park and are fine with having sex in a committed relationship, are not terrifyingly right-wing or left-wing politically, who want to live in a city with outdoor opportunities, who aren't against IKEA, who want to have a family someday, and who hang out on the spectrum. From all I've read, that seems to hit the big ones (please correct me if I am wrong). Heck, throw in a Labrador Retreiver, a dog park, a couple of cats, a recliner (IKEA's couches aren't that comfortable) and a bookshelf, and it sounds a lot like the kind of life I'd like someday. Well, and change all the "she" stuff to "he".

You obviously know what you want, and kudos to you for knowing it. Just make sure that you're not being so stringent in your standards that you're going to overlook possibilities. And I don't mean exes or wiccans, either.

I'll shut up now.

Laney

I don't let people tell me that what I am looking for is unattainable. I may be right myself about that.