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Ditto.

But now that there is a thread, someone might as well call it as they see it instead of kissing ass. I'm sure there are plenty of attractive females here and on other boards, but not all of them need constant validation. I can understand why she might seem like an egomaniac to some people. In reality, she probably has a fragile ego. That's even more reason not to single her out and attack her. Fragile people get upset over any feedback that can be perceived as negative and take it out on themselves and/or others.

If you have a problem with someone, just ignore them and focus on giving something of yourself instead. That's the mature thing to do.

Can I add, I didn't ask for this thread.
I don't need anyones validation on here, thank you.

I really don't get why people seem to think that just because someone is popular on here it is all brought about by them themselves. I've seen it before as well. What is she supposed to do, apologise for the fact that people like her?

I agre though about people making threads like this - there was already a thread (the one emlion started) for people to post that they wish her well and hope she returns etc, making another one just invites imbeciles in to post stupid s**t

Actions have consequences. We may not always be able to predict them, some people aren't able to moderate their actions to avoid unwanted consequences, but B still follows A by design.

Being popular isn't the same thing as being liked. It's a general rule of thumb, I'm not talking about anyone in particular. Okay, fine: I'm talking about you, Gaddafi! What a fun guy. I mean, just look at him! Doesn't he make you laugh?

I think it's important to remember that Emlion never endorsed this thread. In fact, she's been pretty open about that starting from around the first or second page of posts. Any "consequences" that occur as a result of this thread shouldn't fall on her shoulders. It's not her fault that she's liked, and she didn't request that this thread be made, so it's not like she's looking for validation, or attention from other WP posters.

Honestly, she's just a girl who happens to be well-liked in an internet forum.

You're back? Good. I don't think anyone should let idiots drive them out of here.

~Kate

I was talking about consequences and validation in general, not (in) this thread. Aspies, where are you logical reasoning skills? Someone says something funny to someone, they threaten with suicide, make a dramatic exit and then it's "Hai guise, I'm back!! !". This happens all the time on other forums, but I'd have never thought there'd be a drama queen on an autism forum... I'm just a little baffled, that's all.

if you don't like me, go away.
i'm not a drama queen - i just happen to flip emotions quickly - it's not my choice.
and something actually good happened to me for a change so i felt i should tell the people who supported me.
please grow up and leave me alone, thanks.

It happens all the time on WP too. How come you don't attack those posters? I fail to see why any of the actions you describe warrant 'consequences' anyway.



So unlike the rest of the human race, we're not supposed to have personalities? And it's a bit rich picking on Em as a 'drama queen'; she actually had a reason to be upset. Let's face it, most posts here on the Haven (mine included) are a lot of 'drama' about pretty normal stuff.

And now people are bitching because she didn't stay depressed for the rest of her life

right? heaven forbid we use the forum as an outlet for our troubles?!

i am really not sure how this became so inflamed.

i will say the reason why i said what i said.

there was a thread that was something like "post an unflattering picture of yourself". you posted a picture of yourself that was not unflattering, and you captioned it with a self deprecating comment, and i thought to myself "there soon will be many people drawn to the opportunity to tell emlion that she is very pretty without looking like a creep", and i was right.

it has happened on a few occasions (as far as i can interpret), and each time, there was a choral response.

i wondered if you were actually "externally composing " the sentiments of your replies with the words you said. every time i read the (almost) "love song" replies to your captions that you are just plain, it reinforced my idea that you were playing your audience like one would conduct an orchestra. i thought you had a sense of the resonances of peoples reactivity to your lead, and i thought you were playing them like instruments in a way.

anyway, i will concede i was wrong, because anything in the world of humanity is poorly resolved by me. even though i think i am pondering what is important, i mostly have no idea how to perceive the distinction between what is important and what is not important.

but i am just plain.
i'm suprised you wouldn't think people are allowed different opinions of themselves.
i've spent my whole life being told i'm fat and ugly - what else am i supposed to think?
people here have a very different opinion of me than anyone i've met in real life.

I agreee with what Lene said. Can't be arsed saying anything else as the whole discussion seems kinda pointless tbh

shall we post pictures of kitties instead?

I think you misunderstood me. If one jumps in a lake, one gets wet. That's the kind of inbuilt consequence that usually can't be explained or willed away (-"Well maybe they were inside a plastic bag? What do you say to THAT?!" -No, they weren't inside a plastic bag. Sheesh...) It's not something you impose on someone, like a 'punishment'. If you create drama, people are going to react to it. The mature thing is to take responsibility of your actions instead of acting like a victim and pointing fingers.

I'm here to stay.

i said i'd leave it but i can't.
are you saying i'm 'acting like a victim' because i think under my circumstances - yes, i AM the victim.
unless of course it's my fault some guy raped me and i reacted badly. if thats the case, my mistake.