I think revenge can be healthy

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I wonder how Aspie views of revenge differ from NT views. i wanna say NTs tend to be more pro-revenge, but then again a lot of aspies claim to be vengeful so idk.

In my experience, neuro-typical individuals find it easier to resolve conflict peacefully and let go of situations where they were wronged. I consider revengeful behavior one of many manifestations of an impaired ability to process information in a healthy way.

I've never been one to seek revenge, yet a lot of the time that meant I got it

I understand this.
My abusive alcoholic ex-husband lives to seek revenge against me in any way he can manage it. We are all very concerned about when our kids turn 18 and there's no longer visitation (that I have to pay 100% of the travel expenses) and child support is no longer relevant (so it won't matter if he pays it or not) because what will he do to get at me then? There'll be no reason to write, no reason to call, no reason to make threats, no bogus petitions to put into court... what will be next? But, even though he's not autistic, he's also not NT. There's something about him that needs diagnosis and treatment, that's about more than the alcoholism.

So this is why I believe revenge is not really a NT thing.

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Of course letting it go isn't easy, I for one stay mad at s**t for weeks, if not months, but it's the best thing to do. There are times when people screw you over and you walk away from it feeling like a chastised child, but seeking revenge on those bastards (or b*****s, whatever the case may be) isn't the way to go. Letting it go, in most cases, shows that you're the adult in the situation, you're several steps above those people in your decision to not seek out even more conflict. Plus, your attempts at revenge can always backfire.

Also, another way to look at it, is that the sweetest revenge is forgiveness. The a**holes that are the type of people who just continually mess with others will never see it coming. They don't expect forgiveness, they only expect to inflict misery on people. When they can't inflict misery, they lose.

Of course letting it go isn't easy, I for one stay mad at s**t for weeks, if not months, but it's the best thing to do. There are times when people screw you over and you walk away from it feeling like a chastised child, but seeking revenge on those bastards (or b*****s, whatever the case may be) isn't the way to go. Letting it go, in most cases, shows that you're the adult in the situation, you're several steps above those people in your decision to not seek out even more conflict. Plus, your attempts at revenge can always backfire.

Also, another way to look at it, is that the sweetest revenge is forgiveness. The a**holes that are the type of people who just continually mess with others will never see it coming. They don't expect forgiveness, they only expect to inflict misery on people. When they can't inflict misery, they lose.

I have an extreme anger if I don't do something I could have an explosively violent meltdown which could land me in jail. Here of some of the things I have done to people who have tormented me or tried to get me fired.

While at Army Basic Training for 2 Months 1988:

1) Threw out all of kid's underware
2) Drill sargeants gave the same kid 5 pairs of new underware he left them on his bunk so I stole them I had 5 new pairs of underware when the drill sargeants found out he got those stolen they laughed in his face.
3) I dared another soldier to put the head of his penis into another kid's canteen we all almost wet our pants when we were on a road march and we saw him drink from the canteen he could figure out why 50 guys were hooting and holloring
4) I put a 8 LBS rock in a kid's rucksack before a 16 mile road march.

At a suppermarket I worked at for 3 months 1989:

1) I took a swollen jug of sour milk and coverd it with a wet paper bag that I spil up along the sides. I put in the card board compactor next to the control pannel when the compactor came down to squash the card board it splattered a guy who told everyone I was ret*d.
2) There was a girl was learning to decorate cakes in the bakery so I got her to write a**hole on a cake and splattered on an a**hole's front windshield so he could read a**hole.
3) I superglued toothpicks in a guy's car door lock for stealing my brother's leather coat Depew police got the coat back. He was on video in the store carrying it.
4) My brother and I surran wrapped a kid to some boxes in the back room for squirting us with hose.

At a resteraunt I worked at for 9 years 1991-2000:

1) I spit in a many people's drinks and unattended food. I never did to customers
2) Urinated on coats in the emploee changing room
3) Smeared feces in the coat sleeves of people's jackets
4) Put a runny stinking rancid potato in a woman's purse
5) I dipped a coat in water than froze it in the walk in freezer then put it back before they punched out.
6) Touched a guy's pepsi bottle to my exposed anus in the bathroom then let him drink from it.
7) Coated a guys car once an hour with chicken grease from a 50 gallon drum of chicken grease by the end of my shift his car looked like a glaze donut.
8 ) Serran wrapped a toilet before a break causing an idiot to pee on his own knees.
9) Told people what others said about them behind their backs I did this so much people believed me even when I told a lie or two or exagerated what was said. Anything to start a fight or fued between two a**holes
10) Threw people's unattended car keys in a pond or on the resteraunt's roof
11) Put Nair on the hat band of a guy's baseball cap he wore it home
12) Put dog crap in a ziplock bag then smeared it on guys car door handle so he could not know it was there until he touched it
13) Sprayed skunk scent in a guy's car heater then went to his house and sprayed it on his airconditioner
14) I put a wire basket on an extension cord because I knew if I put the other end on the side of the fryer it will heat and short everything out when it melted thre the cord.
15) Serverd a co-worker slimey smelly rancid chicken wings while I was frying them he was calling me his b***h slave he could not taste how bad they were because of the spicey wing sauce I put on them.

At a machine shop I worked at for 9 years 2000-2009:

1) Some guy spent an hour putting a new cord on an industrial grinder he went for lunch so I went back readjusted his splice to expose a 1/4 inch of expose wire. When the boss plugged it in it exploded the outlet and set of the fire alarm. The guy pretended to be my friend but when i was not there he was calling me a ret*d he did not know I worked there for 9 years and the guys liked me better so they recorded him talking about me on cellphones
2) Filled a guy's entire tool box with expanding foam.
3) I would take an engraving tool and hold it to my metal table so it would sound like a CNC lathe was tearing itself apart. I would wait for the guy to walk to the bathroom or when he taking a drink of coffee then I would activate the engraver. The sound would make a machinist;s heartstop. Everyone was yelling at the guy he got fired because he kept checking his machine. This guy was shooting me with my homemade aircompressor dartgun so I got rid of him we used it for target shooting on breaks it hurt like hell.
4) I two-way taped all of a guy's money together he did not find out until he went to the suppermarket and he was paying the cashier
5) I had a guy who said he hoped I needed kidney dialisis so he could get over time when I was getting my kidneys cleaned. So I took some cardboard and wrote cops suck c@cks and put over his license plate. A cop pulled him over and made him pull it off. When he complained to the bosses I told the bosses I would quit if they did not fire him I was the only metal finisher so they got rid of him I was very suprised at that one.

Revenge is never the answer. Unless you can sue the bastards you don't take revenge.

Revenge is good!! !! !!

for the little things - no. i usually ignore it. but if someone assaults you physically without a reason just for sadism and you don't fight back, you'll feel bad for a long long time. and i can speak for myself, i'll feel much better if i hit back very hard. makes me feel lighter like a wieght has been lifted.
i look back on times when i was harrassed and threatened for no reason at all and regret not hurting those individuals. i'd feel better if i did and won't go on to think about it for so long afterward.

I know for me, I often get revenge on unjust authority figures (i, e. my parents and in the past my teachers) after I have tried and exhausted all the noble means of conflict resolution on them.

I'd also like to put in that punishment of a child is, when you think about it, a type of revenge. We kids are taught to "use words" (which never work) but it's okay for parents and teachers to get revenge? It usually gets these power-hungry adults the result that they want--a child who is too broken and fearful to do whetever they were punished for. So at a deep level revenge is is all I believe in as a young adult. (Please no lectures about how I should just to forgive my parents/teachers and let go.)

No, it's not okay for parents or teachers to take their anger out on children under their care. Disciplining a kid is one thing, physically venting on a kid is another.