Thanks for the useful responses so far, it's all good food for thought.
I've been talking about this stuff with her, and I feel that what she did seems insensitive but mostly fine in reality. She has foregone her entire career for many years and as we separate she will be significantly worse off for a long time.
I am not at all keen to go to solicitors yet, and neither is she. Whilst there seems no prospect of getting back together we are still good friends, and want to keep it this way. With some luck and some more hard work we both hope we can come to a long term agreement to look after our kids responsibly and unselfishly. I know that not laywering up leaves lots of grey areas in the future should one of us make an about face, but I believe this won't happen on either side, and believe she thinks this too.
16 Feb 2012, 8:37 am
