22 Feb 2012, 7:49 pm
Erisad wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
You don't suck, Erisad. You're 22 years old and your life is just starting.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
Right but I was a moron and blew the opportunity because I had a f***ing meltdown at the office and hung up on a caller.
Let me guess.. you live in a right to work state?
No, actually. I'm in Pennsylvania. I don't really know what it is but after a quick google search, I know I'm not in one.
Oh, then I'm kind of surprised, seeing as you have an official diagnosis, you didn't fight that dismissal. In a right to work state, they would simply ignore your diagnosis and say they did it because they didn't have any work for you.. In non right to work states there are frequently more avenues for a dismissed employee to fight back.. I'm guessing it wasn't Union? (not that that helped me, but I live in a state that undermines unions every chance they get).
22 Feb 2012, 7:49 pm
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
You don't suck, Erisad. You're 22 years old and your life is just starting.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
Right but I was a moron and blew the opportunity because I had a f***ing meltdown at the office and hung up on a caller.
You are speaking to the master of work place melt downs here.
I was thrown out of the building with force in one instance.
Don't be so hard on yourself. YOU HAVE ASPERGERS. We have meltdowns, and yes, they happen in the work place. I have been shamed many, MANY times in a work place.
You have to hold your head high and keep going.
I feel maybe I could have been helped if I told my employer about my AS but I was so worried that they would discriminate against me and treat me like a bigger idiot than they already were... *sigh* I can't really use them as a reference now because I'm known as the girl who cried at her desk and had the highest rate of transferring calls to a supervisor than they have ever seen.
I'm sure its nothing to worry about. Telling employers about aspergers often does not help.
Is there no-one from there you got along okay with? Surely they can talk about the good work you did?
Tequila - That's the point. There isn't a day she doesn't feel disgusting about her body. It's not going to happen. She needs to lose the weight. And not because she looks bad (She doesn't) but for her own self esteem. That's why I offered to help.
22 Feb 2012, 7:52 pm
22 Feb 2012, 7:55 pm
22 Feb 2012, 7:59 pm
rabbittss wrote:
Erisad wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
You don't suck, Erisad. You're 22 years old and your life is just starting.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
You have a BF who cares about you very much, you have a university degree. The fact you were even able to get a job so quickly is success in my book, whether you kept it or not.
Right but I was a moron and blew the opportunity because I had a f***ing meltdown at the office and hung up on a caller.
Let me guess.. you live in a right to work state?
No, actually. I'm in Pennsylvania. I don't really know what it is but after a quick google search, I know I'm not in one.
Oh, then I'm kind of surprised, seeing as you have an official diagnosis, you didn't fight that dismissal. In a right to work state, they would simply ignore your diagnosis and say they did it because they didn't have any work for you.. In non right to work states there are frequently more avenues for a dismissed employee to fight back.. I'm guessing it wasn't Union? (not that that helped me, but I live in a state that undermines unions every chance they get).
I couldn't. The decision was already made. They have a contract with the state to provide optimum service and if someone doesn't perform up to their standards, they dismiss them. I was a temp, so I was easily disposable. I hated the job so much I didn't argue anything, just packed up my desk and left.
22 Feb 2012, 8:00 pm
22 Feb 2012, 8:03 pm
hale_bopp wrote:
I'm sure its nothing to worry about. Telling employers about aspergers often does not help.
Is there no-one from there you got along okay with? Surely they can talk about the good work you did?
Tequila - That's the point. There isn't a day she doesn't feel disgusting about her body. It's not going to happen. She needs to lose the weight. And not because she looks bad (She doesn't) but for her own self esteem. That's why I offered to help.
Is there no-one from there you got along okay with? Surely they can talk about the good work you did?
Tequila - That's the point. There isn't a day she doesn't feel disgusting about her body. It's not going to happen. She needs to lose the weight. And not because she looks bad (She doesn't) but for her own self esteem. That's why I offered to help.
Right. That's why I need to lose the weight. If I won the lottery, I would pay off my debt, get a car, move out, and promptly get cosmetic surgery on my stomach and thighs. Or at least get the stretchmarks removed. *sigh* I probably wouldn't get surgery, I would however hire a personal trainer to help me work out and buy the expensive super healthy food.
22 Feb 2012, 8:11 pm
22 Feb 2012, 8:16 pm
kg4fxg wrote:
Here are some of the books that might help.
Business for Aspies 42 Best practices for Using Asperger Syndrom Traits at Work Successfully by Ashley Stanford
Asperger Syndrome & Employment by Genevieve Edmonds and Luke Beardon
Pretending to be Normal by Liane Holiday
Aspergers On The Job by Rudy Simone
The Journal of Best Practices By David Finch
I have not started the book Look Me In the Eye by John Elder Robison and another by him. I also order several by Temple Grandin.
I get them used of Amazon but I am sure they would be in the library for free.
I used to cycle quite a bit. There are books out there about spinning yourself thin if you are dead set to lose weight. I don't think you need to but a person has do what they are compelled to do. I bought a stand and use my outside bike in the house for spinning watching You Tube spinning videos sometimes. Odd, sometimes I feel I could just sit for hours and watch the wheel turn...
Bill
Business for Aspies 42 Best practices for Using Asperger Syndrom Traits at Work Successfully by Ashley Stanford
Asperger Syndrome & Employment by Genevieve Edmonds and Luke Beardon
Pretending to be Normal by Liane Holiday
Aspergers On The Job by Rudy Simone
The Journal of Best Practices By David Finch
I have not started the book Look Me In the Eye by John Elder Robison and another by him. I also order several by Temple Grandin.
I get them used of Amazon but I am sure they would be in the library for free.
I used to cycle quite a bit. There are books out there about spinning yourself thin if you are dead set to lose weight. I don't think you need to but a person has do what they are compelled to do. I bought a stand and use my outside bike in the house for spinning watching You Tube spinning videos sometimes. Odd, sometimes I feel I could just sit for hours and watch the wheel turn...
Bill
Hmmm...if I took my anime dvd's downstairs and watched them while spinning on my bike, that would take up a lot of time and can help me lose the weight. Hmmmm...
22 Feb 2012, 8:26 pm
22 Feb 2012, 8:27 pm
22 Feb 2012, 8:38 pm
22 Feb 2012, 8:59 pm
22 Feb 2012, 9:12 pm
kg4fxg wrote:
Yes,
The videos have you work through some gears and different paces. Such as 5 minutes hard and five minutes soft peddle. It is good exercise as no impact on the knees like running. And if one is a bit over weight it is really good. One set of videos I have are called for Clydesdales which are riders that are over 200 to 400 pounds. I am at 185 but older. I can keep up though.
If you really want to loose weight check it out, google the blogs and avoid those who ear the skin tight outfits.
Another thing that I do is Roller Skate. It is real cheap to rent and skate. $2 to rent and skate session is $5 all afternoon. Check out the Roller Derby girls, really. Many are way over 200 pounds and skate great but skating will burn MAJOR calories. And it is fun.
Bill
The videos have you work through some gears and different paces. Such as 5 minutes hard and five minutes soft peddle. It is good exercise as no impact on the knees like running. And if one is a bit over weight it is really good. One set of videos I have are called for Clydesdales which are riders that are over 200 to 400 pounds. I am at 185 but older. I can keep up though.
If you really want to loose weight check it out, google the blogs and avoid those who ear the skin tight outfits.
Another thing that I do is Roller Skate. It is real cheap to rent and skate. $2 to rent and skate session is $5 all afternoon. Check out the Roller Derby girls, really. Many are way over 200 pounds and skate great but skating will burn MAJOR calories. And it is fun.
Bill
Hmmm, I was just gonna watch TV on the bike and just mindlessly peddle at moderate-fast speeds and see how that works for me.
22 Feb 2012, 9:17 pm
22 Feb 2012, 9:25 pm
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