done just done could really use a hug.

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I just like talking ... most of the time. I get into feeling like I shouldn't and then I won't speak and then other times I am shy or unsure at parties. conversations are enjoyable for the most part. If we met in person i would try to get you to say stuff back. I for some reason enjoy and get happy from socializing with people. When I am in my no talking mood people get upset at me.

What I'm saying is: you have just as much right to present your opinion as the other posters. You're not "hurting" anybody by expressing an opinion. It might be an opposing opinion to somebody else's--but hey, that's what makes the world go round. This is not 16th Century England under Henry VIII, where you had to sign something which stated that HE is head of the Church.

There's also areas of the Forum where you might obtain more pleasure--where they don't argue so much. You should explore those as well. Like "Autism Discussions," or "Random Discussions," or "Writing & Literature," etc.

Of course, you know that I have nothing against any religion, unless is something like Nazism.

I had to find a little niche in this Forum. We all do.

When I say "see the forest for the trees," I mean that one should not become obsessed by things. One should, instead, just have a clear head so one could take in all kinds of ideas.

ah well I don't like to write and suck at it too.
isn't Autism Discussions just for talking about autism?

You don't have to talk directly about autism. You could talk about how your autism affects your relationships. Like maybe it has something to do with your shyness? Or maybe your Asperger's has something to do with your fear that you'll offend somebody--perhaps because you might have spoke about your "special interest" too much to girls? (don't take this literally LOL...I'm just putting out hypotheticals).

You could also have fun doing things like answering questions about, say do you like Coke or Pepsi? It doesn't hurt to try, right?

Don't like you like music? There's a music section as well. Not everybody is some erudite genius there.

Do you now? I'm quite a harsh critic, and I would beg to differ.

Are you worried about posting over all of that sexism stuff that happened a few weeks ago? If so, please don't...I have yet to see a remotely offensive post by you. Keep in mind that motive matters just as much if not more than what is said, and you appear to have no ill motives towards anyone.

Come join us in the music forum! You know you want to!

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I don't have relationships.

I do worry about hurting people or saying the wrong thing. I love working and being social, saying one wrong thing could end both :S I don't like being alone in my room all the time. I don't want to go back to doing that 24/7 I can't remember how I survived back in the day before I talked to people online, but probably had to do with the fact I had at least 10+ friends when in high school. due to my inability to make friends in rl I guess I try to fill it with online friends, but such a thing is impossible.

one reason the closet to a gf I got said she broke up wth me was politics. I can get stuck on stuff(who'd guessed.) well I really didn't use to care much about politics, I vote and get upset when the one i voted for loses. but after the attacks on the gun rights started in 2013(one reason I joined here) I got sucked into politics. They want to take my rights and special interest away seemed to be the point, we gun owners are almost always on the attack and being aware of it became a obsession. I actually google gun control and read about it, its depressing, however I don't want it to be snuck pass me so we must fight it. so, to a pro obama person and me mostly anti him( i am in favor of some things he does, education, welfare etc, but I am against his international policies, gun policies, immigration polices.) so I sometimes( after hearing about one or reading one) get stuck on it aka maybe rant. I have fears and panic over it, and it helps to get it out. we had one disagreement over giving illegals driving licenses and about Obama care. anyways she said that was the reason and it probably part of its, the other part is she seems to seek person who could provide her a home. I couldn't. reason i think this is the guys she went after could and she knew about my political beliefs for months before the tiny fight(lasted 20 mins, no yelling, but i repeat myself sometimes) I guess this is why I don't thin I can be with a left leaning person. I need a middle right leaning democrat, or a middle right leaning republican I guess

I'll try , but I am a bit ski dish now to be honest. A concern for relationships, I am a "drama queen" people say, I can get hurt easier then others and when it happens my instinct is to withdraw and hide. don't speak. or conceal don't feel. it can be irritating to some until I recover. I won't speak or answer people as I am too afraid to, so even if part of me wants to answer I cant. a good gf would need to be able to deal with this. What I need is to be held and loved. such actions would speed up my recovery. I don't mean to be rude, I just literally can't speak when like that. I hide in my room and cuddle with blankets to feel safe and comfort.
I worry this will cause problems in a relationship as it does with my family . They feel I am ignoring them and say this would piss a gf off and she'd leave me. that I can't do that. I don't think they understand what it's like.

I've been told by a people here my grammar and spelling is bad. and every post I make on my gaming forum is attacked and picked on about it like I misdid weather instead of whether. I know the difference. I don't even know why I made such a silly mistake. :'( i have been rather upset and been forced to take over leadership of a failing alliance when I really didn't want to add that to how I've felt here. I sometimes make word mistakes or say the wrong word in person, I am suppper worried about it. I think my brain thinks to fast sometimes and makes the mistakes, maybe I have another disorder I don't know about and it will only get worse. It terrifies me. I try really hard to spell correctly and use proper grammar. What you see here is the result of spell check and googling words. I will sometimes spell the word right but it looks spelled wrong to me, then google it and find out I was right. with out technology my writing would be worse, as to look a word up in a dictionary requires at least a general idea of how it's spelled.

idea vs ideal is something I do tend to mix up sometimes. they sound the same, mean somewhat similar things, I have learned and relearned the difference, yet I will still mix them up I hardly use either.


yes it is part of the problem. I fear I will soon be banned under the idea I am a sexist. I feel by what some have said that I am and they see me as a sexist. I have made some comments when I was upset about how the women in my area seem to be like. they say its generalizing or claiming all women are that way there for I am sexist. It seems using words like some or the ones here, or in my area would still be sexist. It makes me feel horrible, as what I say is how a large amount of women in my area online dating behave, yet it seems to say any woman could be that way is take as sexist or rather that I must ignore how a woman I've interacted with has acted and assume all women are fantastic. As I can not ignore what I see in front of me, I am therefore sexist :'( as I hate sexism and abuse and other such things, it is only logical that I should die. yet part of me doesn't think I'm sexist. I believe in women's rights, they can do anything they want and are equal if not the more powerful sex. I know not all women are superficial yet that does seem to be how most are where I live. at least the ones online and the ones I've met.
how can one be sexist and yet anti sexism. I don't know what to make of it and it's tearing me apart. Makes me feel like I should die at times.

In all honestly I believe women should be in charge, I am mostly submissive and growing up this is how it was women were the ones in charge. I have always known I would meet a woman and she would be the decision maker. I would have a say and somethings we would decide together, but a lot of things would be her choice. it was quite a shock to learn that a lot of women want the guy to decide things. I can be dominate in bedroom things some of the times. Doesn't seem to be a place for me. A guy who is submissive and loves to cuddle and be romantic. been told by guys and few girls that it is bad . this one says cuddling is bad and girls want sex, not friends with sex. then there's the views of the women here, then my own views.

oh bummer I was having quite a good day today too :'( now i'm crying.

*checks PPR section to see what Sly's talking about*
*regrets it*

I posted in it again :S now i just gotta try really hard not to check that thread again or I withdraw again.

nice to meet you ReticentJaeger


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Sly: I definitely don't think either men or women should "be in charge." I think the person most qualified to "be in charge" should be in charge--whether it be man, woman, intersex, furry, horse, whatever.

The problem, in many cases, revolves around generalizations pertaining to both genders/sexes. I, myself, take people as individuals, rather than generalized entities.

If they haven't banned you yet, they most definitely won't ban you now. You haven't expressed any extremist views pertaining to the "Gender Wars." You expressed your discontent and frustration about not being able to get a girlfriend. I am certain they won't ban you. If they ban you, they might as well ban me as well Then this will become the Forum of the Ridiculous.

Also: I'm glad you're posting again, and being brave, taking risks. This is healthy. Most people on the Forum will respect you for it. If someone attacks you again, just write back that you are "a person, and that you must be treated with respect. I treat people the way I want to be treated. You should do the same. Thank you."

Also "relationships" mean anything kind of friendship or acquaintanceship, not just romantic relationships. You have a relationship with your parents, for example.

People who correct other's spelling only embarrass themselves.

how does one decide who is qualified though. I would prefer a partnership with slight leaning to her being in charge. I am not a door mate there are things I am not going budge on, but idk like I said always been around women being in charge.

we they haven't gotten the rules changed to how they want yet. I suspect once they do me and other males will get banned
I think they seem like nice people but they also seem to have a bit of a unfair grudge against men and people who say anything remotely bad about women. Just how it feels to me.

well I don't feel like it. I keep to my room 90% of the time. I see my family during the times I pop out get get food or use the restroom. If i had fridge,stove, sink, tolite, in here I would see them far less.

tends to come down to the same base as other issues.
they want to either change or destroy those not like them. people who don't write to their level annoy them and they want them gone.

not so much the ones on here, they've just pointed it out for the most part, but on other forums grammar nazis as they are called seek to bully and troll those who make mistakes to the point they will stop posting, there fore they won't have to see their posts anymore.

I know a few people that are really bad at writing, I sometimes have to ask them to clearify what they meant, but for the most part I can simi read it and so I don't make a fuss

They do it to boost their egos. Frankly I think it's a sign of insecurity.

Forget about them, Sly.

Just post your views. Don't let them intimidate you.

feeling sad and confused.

I don't understand women.