Is this right?

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Well, the way I see it, it was rather inconsiderate and mindless of the woman to invade my space when needn't be. If the bus had been full, and the seat next to me was the only and nearest available seat, then yes I would accept and understand why she would want to sit there or sit her baby there. But because there was an empty double seat, like, 3 inches away from her, it would have made sense for her to just take that seat and sit with her baby. That is what riders generally do on the bus. It is usually considered weird to sit next to someone when the majority of seats are empty. That's what I'm talking about. So the reason why I got up and moved was because I wanted to non-verbally communicate that I didn't fancy my privacy taken up, and anyway, what if I had been saving the seat next to me for a friend? If the lady had asked "excuse me, do you mind if we sit here?", I probably would have stayed there and been more laid-back. But she seemed rather rude and just assumed that I would happily let her inconsiderably plonk her baby there. People in this thread say I don't know what's going on in her head and all of that, but she didn't know what was going on in my head either. And most people who are travelling solo prefer to sit alone on public transport unless there is a valid reason why someone should take up the seat next to them. So it would have just been easier to have just sat in the seat behind me and be done with it, like most riders would have done.

Also I thought it was one of those social taboos passengers just subconsciously know when boarding a bus or a train. I know I shouldn't take it personally when strangers disrespect me but I can't help it. I think it's part of my social anxiety, feeling like people are out to get me, like everyone's against me, like I'm a bad person or something.

I think you had the right to the seat and the mother should have had her child sitting with her. It seems strange that someone would want their 1 year old sitting next to a stranger.

Okie, time for a clean up.

MOD EDIT.

The feeling of the actual incident is fading. What is bothering me the most now is how something tells me that if I announced on here that I done the same as what the woman had done to a random passenger on a bus, it would be a big deal; the posters in this thread would be like "you was so rude to take someone's personal space when you could have sat in an empty seat, that is socially unacceptable, you had no idea how intruded that person will feel, blah blah blah". But because it's me it happened to, I still feel in the wrong and the rude woman's behaviour is no big deal. That is what's bothering me now.
(Some posters in this thread WERE supportive by the way, like kraftie and smudge).
Moderator, I request this thread to be locked now, before someone says something to upset someone.
Thanks.

No problem.