Can I blame my mother?

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I see. Thanks for the clarification.

Makes me wonder if they choose to believe that depression/mental health are myths because they're denying they're afflicted by anything their families are. As a "body doctor," you'd think they might take a different approach to mental health and be all about the bodily connections to it - the gut-brain connection, in particular. But, then again, it does sound like they went to medical school sometime in the 1800's sooo.. However, my opinion of them is through what very little you've shared about them, and your views on virtually everything are through an incredibly depressed lens, so they may in fact be very different in real life than you describe.

Doesn't matter that they can't prescribe you medicine. You may or may not even need medicine. They should still be able to give you decent medical advice & guidance, as well as see to it that you receive the help you need whether in the form of counselling or therapy, dietary changes, exercise etc even though they can't write a 'srip for you. For one thing, they're parents, and even though you're an adult they should still have that parental instinct to want their child to be healthy and happy.. and for second, they're doctors, so they have the knowledge/financial and other resources necessary to see to it that you get these things. Have they tried? Do they try? Is it your reluctance to follow their guidance and recommendations?

Yes, doctors are human like everyone else. They're not infallible. They don't know everything. They don't all believe the same things. But adult children are adult children like everyone else, too, and at some point everyone has to take personal responsibility for themselves instead of blaming their parents for anything and everything they don't particularly like about themselves or their life and then take action themselves to correct it. An obese 30 year old can't just point the finger at their mom for overfeeding them when they were 2. There's been many, many, years of that person putting food on their own fork and putting it in their mouth and then not doing enough physical exercise to burn it off. Parents can be blamed for teaching bad habits, sure, but at some point you have to decide to unlearn them and learn & do things a better way for yourself because there's no point in spending the rest of your life blaming others as it will get you nowhere fast.

Marknis

Anyone "can" blame anyone for anything

For example, my uncle bled me that my precious lil "mom" dropped dead

Because I was a bad child

In that I disobeyed my precious lil "parents"

By not being cisgender, heterosexual, having children, being a medical doctor, being autistic, and clinically depressed

She was 66

Three years ago

He can choose his thoughts, emotions, statements

But he does not have the authority to convict me of murder or sentence me to jail


You can blame your mom

She can blame you

Assigning fault sometimes is a necessarily and beneficial course of action



However, based on your previous posts, it appears that, maybe, just maybe. In your situation, merely assigning fault is insufficient



Even if your mom caused all your problems, then what?


Maybe it would be better for you to put more energy toward moving forward


Yes I am a hypocrite

But you asked

Marknis



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