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Tim,

Sorry for the late response - different time zone etc..

Oh, I can understand how the woman would affect you because it takes a lot of courage to ask someone out but takes not much to knock someone back.

Did she give you a reason - hopefully it's just her being involved with someone else.

It that's it, then you don't have to feel bad, after all, it's difficult to research whether someone is available before you ask.

If she gave you another reason, then that's much harder - particularly if you take it personally. Some people can be especially cowardly and cruel.

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What's the problem with structural geology - you're good at Geology right? and you like the subject material - is it the class, lecturer, workload etc?

If it's not the teacher/lecturer that's the problem, you can often visit them in their rooms - the best ones are usually quite happy to discuss the work.

[quote="Tim_Tex]No, she said that she wasn't in the right position to be with anyone and may not be for quite a while, and even if she were, she couldn't do anything long-distance (we're 300 miles away from each other).[/quote]

That's actually really good news Tim.

Sure, it's sad that you don't get the girl, but on the bright side, she didn't say that you were the problem.... and she didn't say "it's not you, it's me" - which actually means "it's you".

She cited distance - 300 miles is a fair way.

Are you currently a long way from Civilization (big towns) - you're not are you? Does your uni have an arts degree course? You could hang around them, though half the girls would probably end up being goths.

RE: The class - a poor professor can screw up everything. You're within your rights to ask for the dates of the tests and just not turn up. I did that for a couple of my uni subjects because the teachers were useless.

Course content is a little more annoying. I can relate to that one too. You should be able to find a bit of freedom when you write papers but yes, the course content will tend to get you down. Are you going to do follow-up degrees or go into the workforce - (and if so, where - mining?). You'll find that once you're in the workforce, you'll be able to study what you want - and things will get better.

Calculus is good - weird, because my friends all had lots of trouble with it but I enjoyed it;
1. because I loved turning the 'old math rules" on their head
2. because my father provided real world examples - eg 3D Spinning Graphs - he explained how he used them to determine the volume of boat keels for displacement.

I am over 100 miles from the nearest city. As for types of people, there's no variety because nearly everyone in my town is extremely conservative. In Wichita Falls, one is an outsider simply if they are not Southern Baptist.

The nearest AS support group is in Fort Worth, 100 miles away, and because of homework, I would be unable to go. And there are no Aspie women in Wichita Falls. And the woman I mentioned was the only female Aspie who liked South Park who was also single. All other Aspie women in the U.S. who like South Park are already in relationships.

Yikes, I didn't think you were that far away ... wow.

and in a town overrun by baptists - that would make anyone very lonely.

My wife is an NT but she's always had a few problems fitting in. In her case, she's a bit overweight and that tends to upset the social scales.

I've found that aspies communicate very well with other aspies.

We also communicate very well with other people who have communication problems, eg: Ethnic, Shy, Socially rejected etc..

You don't need to limit your search to aspie women - anyone with problematic social skills will do

And she was goal-oriented. She wasn't one of these people who sits and home and plays video games all day.

Goal orientated is ok - but a little scary.

I'm depressed right now... I can't draw a Berserker.

Copy your avatar...

You're good at copying things, so find a male or female figure to copy, but draw lightly in pencil.

Then add armor one piece at a time.

Tim,

Communication is key.

When we left school, my girlfriend and I split up because I needed to concentrate on uni. We still saw each other and I just "assumed" we'd pick up where we left off after uni.

By the time I got into 5th year, I'd realized that she had found someone else, even though she still called me and visited me (just didn't get romantic with me). I saw that she was having problems with her boyfriend and told her to dump him and go out with me.

She was really reluctant at first, so I promised to rearrange my life around her.

I did my last two (hardest) years of uni with her being around and motivating me and we got engaged the year after I left uni.

She told me that she wished I'd explained my plans in detail to her years ago because then she wouldn't have gone out with anyone else.

If you or this girl are "waiting" - why not talk about a few longer term plans?

You don't have to be together now, but if you have a long term plan, you know that you're only a phone call away.

She won't agree to it.

Bovine droppings...

You're dared to draw one now and you have to upload it.