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27 Jan 2008, 5:00 pm

Forget it! I need another Aspie!! !! !


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27 Jan 2008, 5:01 pm

I live in a world full of welfare cheats, drug users, and homeless people.

You are somewhat right. In order to attract a nice girl, and keep her, Tim should be able to provide for her, or at least earn his keep. But I seriously have no idea where he is getting his assumptions from. Sure, there might be some women who require "anyone they date make at least $50,000 a year." But that can't be true of "most women." Do you know what it's called when someone makes sweeping, negative generalizations like that about an entire group? The word you're looking for is prejudice.

If you ask me, Tim has a pretty good situation. He has the desire and the capability to make money and to further his education. But instead of being happy about that and trying to enjoy life, he is making himself miserable by worrying about what some nonexistent woman thinks of his salary. He has been pussy-whipped, and the poor guy hasn't even gotten the p****.


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27 Jan 2008, 5:12 pm

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I live in a world full of welfare cheats, drug users, and homeless people.

You are somewhat right. In order to attract a nice girl, and keep her, Tim should be able to provide for her, or at least earn his keep. But I seriously have no idea where he is getting his assumptions from. Sure, there might be some women who require "anyone they date make at least $50,000 a year." But that can't be true of "most women." Do you know what it's called when someone makes sweeping, negative generalizations like that about an entire group? The word you're looking for is prejudice.

If you ask me, Tim has a pretty good situation. He has the desire and the capability to make money and to further his education. But instead of being happy about that and trying to enjoy life, he is making himself miserable by worrying about what some nonexistent woman thinks of his salary. He has been pussy-whipped, and the poor guy hasn't even gotten the p****.


The only type of person who will go out with me is somebody who is so desperate, she'll go out with *anybody*.

I have tried to be myself, but that hasn't attracted anyone. I tried pretending to be someone else, and that didn't work, either. There's nothing else I can do.


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27 Jan 2008, 5:18 pm

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You need to propagate the species, Tim!



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27 Jan 2008, 5:22 pm

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The only type of person who will go out with me is somebody who is so desperate, she'll go out with *anybody*.
But don't you see? You are acting just as desperate. This is a huge problem. You are going about this dating thing the wrong way. You are willing to change majors, change cities, and change god knows what else just to get a woman. But you won't get a woman by offering to rearrange your entire life before you even go out on a first date. You have to be more secure, and more stable. Your grades last semester weren't bad, so you obviously have some talent for this geology thing. Maybe you should tough it out.

And you are absolutely never going to attract any woman, aspie or not, if you don't learn how to listen to other people. You are too self-centered, and it shows.


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27 Jan 2008, 5:27 pm

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The only type of person who will go out with me is somebody who is so desperate, she'll go out with *anybody*.
But don't you see? You are acting just as desperate. This is a huge problem. You are going about this dating thing the wrong way. You are willing to change majors, change cities, and change god knows what else just to get a woman. But you won't get a woman by offering to rearrange your entire life before you even go out on a first date. You have to be more secure, and more stable. Your grades last semester weren't bad, so you obviously have some talent for this geology thing. Maybe you should tough it out.

And you are absolutely never going to attract any woman, aspie or not, if you don't learn how to listen to other people. You are too self-centered, and it shows.


Well, how do I attract other Aspies then? What good was being myself doing when female Aspies were turning me down simply because of my geographical location--despite the fact that I am 100 miles from the nearest major city and the nearest AS support group? And the only female Aspie who was single who did live in the Dallas-Ft. Worth area was conservative and didn't like South Park.


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27 Jan 2008, 5:27 pm

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I have tried to be myself, but that hasn't attracted anyone. I tried pretending to be someone else, and that didn't work, either. There's nothing else I can do.
Don't say that. There is always something else you can do. You shouldn't try to be something you're not, but you can try to improve on the qualities you already have.


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27 Jan 2008, 5:33 pm

There is only one female Aspie in the entire United States who is single, and likes South Park. And she's not willing to do a long-distance relationship, so I would have to move to where she is for a relationship to occur, even if it means giving up my hopes and dreams.


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27 Jan 2008, 5:36 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
Well, how do I attract other Aspies then? What good was being myself doing when female Aspies were turning me down simply because of my geographical location--despite the fact that I am 100 miles from the nearest major city and the nearest AS support group? And the only female Aspie who was single who did live in the Dallas-Ft. Worth area was conservative and didn't like South Park.
That is definitely a problem that I don't think I can help you with. Your standards are way too strict for the area you are in. Add to this the fact that aspies are reclusive and shy anyway, and you have a big problem.

The only thing I can suggest is to widen your net. I mean, you're not looking for a political candidate, and I doubt you are starting a South Park viewing club. You are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, and that means the most important thing is that you should be able to get along with a woman you want to date. If you hit it off, and don't drive each other crazy, and you love her, then it won't matter whether she is liberal or conservative, watches South Park or not, or is aspie or NT.


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27 Jan 2008, 5:42 pm

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Well, how do I attract other Aspies then? What good was being myself doing when female Aspies were turning me down simply because of my geographical location--despite the fact that I am 100 miles from the nearest major city and the nearest AS support group? And the only female Aspie who was single who did live in the Dallas-Ft. Worth area was conservative and didn't like South Park.
That is definitely a problem that I don't think I can help you with. Your standards are way too strict for the area you are in. Add to this the fact that aspies are reclusive and shy anyway, and you have a big problem.

The only thing I can suggest is to widen your net. I mean, you're not looking for a political candidate, and I doubt you are starting a South Park viewing club. You are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, and that means the most important thing is that you should be able to get along with a woman you want to date. If you hit it off, and don't drive each other crazy, and you love her, then it won't matter whether she is liberal or conservative, watches South Park or not, or is aspie or NT.


And South Park and liberalism are connected. Social conservatives aren't going to watch a show with a bunch of dirty words, and a talking piece of crap--even though South Park is supposed to be a social commentary. If you tell the conservatives that, they'll reply with "Well, the 700 Club is a social commentary, too".


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27 Jan 2008, 5:44 pm

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Well, how do I attract other Aspies then? What good was being myself doing when female Aspies were turning me down simply because of my geographical location--despite the fact that I am 100 miles from the nearest major city and the nearest AS support group? And the only female Aspie who was single who did live in the Dallas-Ft. Worth area was conservative and didn't like South Park.
Here's another question: was this woman willing to go on a date with you?


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27 Jan 2008, 5:46 pm

I've never met her.


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27 Jan 2008, 5:51 pm

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And South Park and liberalism are connected. Social conservatives aren't going to watch a show with a bunch of dirty words, and a talking piece of crap--even though South Park is supposed to be a social commentary. If you tell the conservatives that, they'll reply with "Well, the 700 Club is a social commentary, too".
Well, obviously, if a woman thought of South Park in that way, then the two of you probably aren't going to get along.

But not all conservatives are like that. You are still making sweeping generalizations about an entire group of people. Not all conservatives are evil, South Park-hating monsters, and not all liberals are fun to be around.


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27 Jan 2008, 5:53 pm

If South Park is not a factor, and I describe myself as liberal, then people will think I'm just looking for sex, and not an actual relationship.

South Park is meant to be proof that I'm not just looking for sex.


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27 Jan 2008, 5:57 pm

Did you just give up on any potential relationship simply because she was conservative and didn't like South Park.

It seems to me that your desire that any woman you might date be a liberal, South park-loving aspie makes you sound insecure. It makes you sound controlling. I can understand how that might put some women off.

Maybe, instead of saying, "Any woman I date has to be a liberal, South Park-loving aspie," you should say, "I am a liberal, South Park-loving aspie." That would make you sound more approachable and easier to get along with.

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If South Park is not a factor, and I describe myself as liberal, then people will think I'm just looking for sex, and not an actual relationship.

South Park is meant to be proof that I'm not just looking for sex.

Well, it's okay that you like South Park, and it's okay to mention that. What's not good is when you require that a potential mate like it, too. Like I said, it makes you sound like a controlling, arrogant jerk.

Your requirement that a woman like South Park is no different than when NT women "require" that their dates make at least $50,000 a year. Is that really what you want to be like?


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27 Jan 2008, 6:01 pm

If I do that, people will think I'm just wanting to get laid.


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