^ That is the one thing that keeps him busy. Writing letters(when he's smart he lets me edit them), city council meetings, diversity board meetings(i hope he's remembering to be sensitive...
), chamber of commerce, rotary. He has trouble seeing outside his needs. I am the 'parallel play' type, even in adulthood. My need for connection is met by doing different or similar, non-conflicting activities in the same general area as another person. Direct interaction is better kept to a minimum, or I sort of forget which person I am. He's somewhat the same really, but he's trying to be me vicariously. He's afraid of getting old and frail too, which is inevitable. I think he's jealous of my youth and physical fitness as well. He tries to lift heavy things in front of me that common sense says I ought to lift for his safety, or that I would not lift alone, cause I know better(I did a lot of labor jobs for years: Use lifting technique!).
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One eye opened slowly, green and gold as sunlight in the woods. The cat said,"I am what I am. I would tell you what you want to know if I could, for you have been kind to me. But I am a cat, and no cat anywhere ever gave anyone a straight answer."