Why couldn't I have been born a boy?

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09 Jun 2011, 5:44 pm

I hear you. I don't think you're being whiny as I said I get you're venting and that you're trying to get stuff off your chest.

Was also saying I think he was simply trying to give advice, in his own way. You're definitely not wasting anyone's time, well my time anyway or I wouldn't reply.

Anyway, sorry you're feeling down.

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09 Jun 2011, 5:44 pm

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If women were paid the wages that men are, I would be able to move out sooner. *sigh*

if you had a job you'd be able to move out sooner. not being down on you, i'm looking for a new job too D:

I know that. I just meant if I got a full time job what wasn't on an hourly wage, I know I'd be getting shortchanged. Hell, I got 158 views on my blog last month. Wanna know how much that earned me? 99 cents. Not even a whole US dollar. So I'm making less than foreign labor. D:

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09 Jun 2011, 5:46 pm

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Thanks.

It's okay. I'll get over it. Or at least I'll know not to post about it anymore until it is resolved so I don't get crap for posting about my problems anymore. >.<

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09 Jun 2011, 5:47 pm

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And I've always asked the guys out and I'm tired of it. The only ones who ask me out are the ones that are online and live too far away to pursue anything. It sucks. But my prime concern is independence. If women were paid the wages that men are, I would be able to move out sooner. *sigh*

My friend who works in IT gets paid less than most of the women that work in his office. Women don't get paid less than men, they just don't get promoted as much as men do. (On that note, who in their right mind would want to be a supervisor? Part of the job description is to be an aggressive a**hole, and somehow, women are inferior to men in that department)

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09 Jun 2011, 5:48 pm

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If women were paid the wages that men are, I would be able to move out sooner. *sigh*

You know there are company's that don't have sex based wage discrimination.

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09 Jun 2011, 5:50 pm

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cdfox7 wrote:

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i think that's quite a rude response to pezars advice

If you had any training in counselling skills

but i don't

it wasn't what she said, it was all the 'mkay's which i thought was rude and if someone replied to me like that it would just make me feel stupid. he had good intentions i'm sure
being upset does not give you the right to make other people upset too

NO its the choice and respond of comments is the key here, you can choice to feel upset about or choice to feel something else that it. plus be mindful hear that you have no idea that going on is someone life & in there head you only know and make judgements from there communication based on your own life experiences.

Please walk a mile in another person's shoes!!

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09 Jun 2011, 5:52 pm

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How long has your friend worked there in comparison to the women? Do they have a degree (as that adds to your paycheck)? My mom was a supervisor and she was very good at it. She was able to be just as firm with her workers as a man was. Then she got a better job where she could work from home and make more money. So that's a sh***y reason for women not getting a promotion. :/

USMcBNSFdude - Really? Where? I'm serious, I've never heard of a position that wasn't minimum wage that didn't have wage discrimination. Apparently enough companies do it for my internship employers to talk about it, hell it was even part of one of the speeches at my college graduation. So it is a big deal and still happens.

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09 Jun 2011, 6:03 pm

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If I was a woman, I would be complaining about how all guys want is sex, and how all guys are the same, and how guys are always allowed to say what they want, and how guys get to choose whoever they want, and how everyone is discriminating against me because I'm a woman, and how I can't be a doctor, and how I can't play sports, and how I can't be myself, and how I can't do this, and how I can't do that, and how I can't do anything because people tell me that I can't.

OMG It's like you read my mind!! !! !

Do it again. Now what am I thinking?

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09 Jun 2011, 6:28 pm

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My friend who works in IT gets paid less than most of the women that work in his office. Women don't get paid less than men, they just don't get promoted as much as men do.

Women do get paid less than men on average. There are exceptions to this, as there are exceptions to everything, and I'm pleased on behalf of your friend's female co-workers that their skills, experience and education have escalated their earnings beyond that of your friend's. It is nice to hear about that kind of recognition and I hope such situations increase to make the exceptions into the standard and your statement true, except for the not promoted as much bit.

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09 Jun 2011, 6:57 pm

Erisad wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Erisad wrote:

If women were paid the wages that men are, I would be able to move out sooner. *sigh*

if you had a job you'd be able to move out sooner. not being down on you, i'm looking for a new job too D:

Are you allowed to advertise your blog posts, putting a url in your sig here at WP, promoting it on Facebook, etc? You might get more views.

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09 Jun 2011, 7:05 pm

pezar wrote:

Erisad wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Erisad wrote:

If women were paid the wages that men are, I would be able to move out sooner. *sigh*

if you had a job you'd be able to move out sooner. not being down on you, i'm looking for a new job too D:

Are you allowed to advertise your blog posts, putting a url in your sig here at WP, promoting it on Facebook, etc? You might get more views.

What's the point? Unless I get a million views I won't get anything decent. D:

Got back from driving (apparently mom changed her mind and wanted to teach me). I kept getting freaked out with how many people were nearby and almost hit the curb several times. God, I don't think I'll ever get the hang of this. I really am a failure on every level. :cry:

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09 Jun 2011, 7:56 pm

All I can say is stay away from more meds if you can help it. I really regret taking SSRIs, I wish I had found another way to deal with things.

I think our bodies have their own brand of wisdom, only society trains us not to listen to it.

I think there are some people who do benefit from meds but they are generally overprescribed.

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09 Jun 2011, 8:03 pm

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I wish I could get off my Adderall but I can't focus worth s**t without it. If I didn't take them, I would have flunked out of college and killed myself behind the wheel by now. Ugh. >.<

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09 Jun 2011, 8:04 pm

I'm completely useless without my meds, which is saying something since I'm pretty useless and worthless even when I am medicated.

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09 Jun 2011, 8:36 pm

pezar wrote:

But seriously, what men DON'T find attractive is the poor-me whining you do.

So what are people supposed to do if they have extreme depression and meltdowns? I know what you mean and it's very true. I have no friends because of the fact I'm depressed all the time, and I really do try.

It just seems to me like there's no hope for people who have no outlet to cry.

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09 Jun 2011, 8:38 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

pezar wrote:

But seriously, what men DON'T find attractive is the poor-me whining you do.

Yup. If I cry at home, everyone yells at me. I have to wait until everyone goes to bed to cry and I gotta make sure I don't cry too loudly to wake them up either. I guess I can't cry or rant here either. I have nowhere to go. :cry:

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