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17 Sep 2019, 7:10 am

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funeralxempire wrote:

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Isn't this the forum where those addicted to drama and suffering come to refuse to accept anything that might resemble useful advice?

If you view it that way, the right thing for you would be to keep away from this forum.

I'm entitled to read and post where I'd like.

One thing is what is allowed, another thing is what is wise.

Especially in the Haven.

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17 Sep 2019, 7:33 am

I am not addicted to suffering. I wish I was better but I live a life where I don’t fit in because I always fail to meet the expectations others always have for me and they garner ill will for me. My attempts to change my life around always fail and I never see any supposed “options” anywhere.

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17 Sep 2019, 7:45 am

For the record I do not believe in this as much as just wondering about it.

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17 Sep 2019, 7:50 am

Marknis wrote:

I am not addicted to suffering.

As I have expressed before, I don't think many people are addicted to suffering but some are definitely stuck in it for various reasons - and, well, I think you are one.

Marknis wrote:

I wish I was better but I live a life where I don’t fit in

I read somewhere that right to move and live wherever one wishes is among the fundamental freedoms of the US citizens.

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because I always fail to meet the expectations others always have for me and they garner ill will for me.

A mantra to learn: "your expectations are not my promises". Do what you believe is right.

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17 Sep 2019, 8:01 am

magz wrote:

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I am not addicted to suffering.

As I have expressed before, I don't think many people are addicted to suffering but some are definitely stuck in it for various reasons - and, well, I think you are one.

Well, I live in a place that thinks Trump is a “good Christian man”, urinating on the ground is acceptable male behavior, women generally go for “bad boys” for intimate relationships, and country music is considered the ultimate form of artistic expression.

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17 Sep 2019, 9:46 am

Marknis wrote:

magz wrote:

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I am not addicted to suffering.

As I have expressed before, I don't think many people are addicted to suffering but some are definitely stuck in it for various reasons - and, well, I think you are one.

I know moving out and starting to live alone in an entirely new place is not an easy decision to make but based on what you write on WP, that may be the way out of where you got stuck.

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17 Sep 2019, 9:48 am

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I know moving out and starting to live alone ... may be the way out of where you got stuck.

It is the only way.

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17 Sep 2019, 10:20 am

magz wrote:

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magz wrote:

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I am not addicted to suffering.

As I have expressed before, I don't think many people are addicted to suffering but some are definitely stuck in it for various reasons - and, well, I think you are one.

I know moving out and starting to live alone in an entirely new place is not an easy decision to make but based on what you write on WP, that may be the way out of where you got stuck.

It would be much easier if my control freak mother didn’t sabotage me on a daily basis and my income didn’t get drained so quickly.

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17 Sep 2019, 10:26 am

Marknis wrote:

magz wrote:

Marknis wrote:

magz wrote:

Marknis wrote:

I am not addicted to suffering.

As I have expressed before, I don't think many people are addicted to suffering but some are definitely stuck in it for various reasons - and, well, I think you are one.

I know moving out and starting to live alone in an entirely new place is not an easy decision to make but based on what you write on WP, that may be the way out of where you got stuck.

It would be much easier if my control freak mother didn’t sabotage me on a daily basis and my income didn’t get drained so quickly.

Yes, it likely would be much easier but you as can't change your mother, getting away from her seems the only rational choice.

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17 Sep 2019, 11:20 am

magz wrote:

funeralxempire wrote:

magz wrote:

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Isn't this the forum where those addicted to drama and suffering come to refuse to accept anything that might resemble useful advice?

If you view it that way, the right thing for you would be to keep away from this forum.

I'm entitled to read and post where I'd like.

One thing is what is allowed, another thing is what is wise.

Are you suggesting it isn't wise to provide insight and advise in The Haven? :wink:

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17 Sep 2019, 11:23 am

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Are you suggesting it isn't wise to provide insight and advise in The Haven? :wink:

If the main outcome would be your frustration - yes.

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17 Sep 2019, 11:32 am

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Are you suggesting it isn't wise to provide insight and advise in The Haven? :wink:

If the main outcome would be your frustration - yes.

Who said anything about being frustrated? I posted something that agreed with the idea that Ezra was inviting discussion of. Seeing other people refuse to even consider potentially useful advice doesn't frustrate me, it just makes me thankful that I'm not that person or someone who's invested in helping that person. Other people's learned helplessness is more amusing than frustrating, it's only frustrating if you're invested in the outcome.

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17 Sep 2019, 11:42 am

Then I misread your post as a complaint. My mistake.

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17 Sep 2019, 11:52 am

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Isn't this the forum where those addicted to drama and suffering come to refuse to accept anything that might resemble useful advice?

That got a bark of laughter out of me because it is too true at times.

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17 Sep 2019, 12:01 pm

magz wrote:

Then I misread your post as a complaint. My mistake.

Nope, it existed for one purpose.

EzraS wrote:

funeralxempire wrote:

Isn't this the forum where those addicted to drama and suffering come to refuse to accept anything that might resemble useful advice?

That got a bark of laughter out of me because it is too true at times.

Mission accomplished. :nerdy:

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17 Sep 2019, 12:35 pm

magz wrote:

Marknis wrote:

magz wrote:

Marknis wrote:

magz wrote:

Marknis wrote:

I am not addicted to suffering.

As I have expressed before, I don't think many people are addicted to suffering but some are definitely stuck in it for various reasons - and, well, I think you are one.

I know moving out and starting to live alone in an entirely new place is not an easy decision to make but based on what you write on WP, that may be the way out of where you got stuck.

It would be much easier if my control freak mother didn’t sabotage me on a daily basis and my income didn’t get drained so quickly.

Yes, it likely would be much easier but you as can't change your mother, getting away from her seems the only rational choice.

She told me she wanted me to get a vasectomy because she thought I would have sex in college, even when it was clear I couldn’t even get a f*****g coffee date. She also told me she didn’t want me to have children. I hope she’s happy because that’s what she caused me to become.

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