My anxiety has hit the roof

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uhmmm....its sounding really difficult for you joe......... am sorry your situation has gone the way it has
And there is no way i can begin to think to dissgree...... just started lock down in my rather large midwestern city.. and just saw my income slashed to almost nothing and am one of those older people alone. With few people to call friend. And living relative that are very serious criminals! . be better off, as well have none .Have neighbors on both sides of me who are into doing minor crimes as a was of life , Fear and apphrehension have their very own ways of sneaking into your mind .
Hanging onto what is in your immediate proximity / area may be the very best you can do under these circumstances . Hang in there please.... people have gotten through worse, But cannot recall when socioeconomic conditions have been this rough . But it will be a event in time that it maybe impressive just to be able to say you got through it. sorry if this isnt more encouraging .
Best of wishes .

Appreciated. I will search these tomorrow.

I'm just worrying about my mental health right now. I've never gone crazy like that in front of my boyfriend before. He had enough of this behaviour in the past with his son (who has Bipolar, anger issues and depression). Now he's seeing his own girlfriend descending into madness.

My boyfriend has 3 different inhalers to help with his breathing, all due to smoking. But I can't see him giving up smoking, even if he says he will. He says that he is very stressed (like all of us, especially me, are) and if he didn't smoke he would end up having a meltdown like me. But little does he realise that his smoking is causing him more stress because of his constant coughing that keeps him up at night. I could make up a song similar to the old "Hole In My Bucket" song with this, to illustrate how we go round in circles whenever I try to educate him the stupidity of smoking.

I have similar symptoms of coronavirus due to stress and paranoia. I keep choking on my own saliva so it looks like I have an infectious cough, chest pains due to panic attacks, muscle pains due to tension, and headaches from the stress of it all. I seem to be worse in the mornings because I don't want to wake up.

Being so I'm always reassured how the media lies, I'm hanging on to a tiny bit of hope that the media has exaggerated the number of deaths of coronavirus worldwide just to scare everyone into keeping indoors.....but I can't be sure of that. I wish it (the exaggerating) was the case though.

Herd mentality has led the UK to go into lockdown now. Last week the media said that people can go for a walk in the park for fresh air and exercise as long as they stay X feet apart from each other. So everybody got the same idea and decided to take a walk in the park, which got very crowded.

So the herd mentality is making me feel distraught of trying anything. That's the problem.

Marriage and partnership will reveal the good, the bad, and the ugly of every couple. It's OK that your bf saw you have a meltdown, just as it's OK when he has his bad moments too. It's a good opportunity for you to talk about your autism and what it might look like when you are overburdened with stress. Let him know how he can help you. In a relationship it's your role to provide care and understanding for him, and his role to provide care and understanding for you. You are not his son. He loves you and it's OK to be more vulnerable about your emotions, so that you don't have to mask around him in the future, when you have a meltdown. Likewise he has learned to be himself around you. He's likely worried that he can't meet your needs, but if you help him to understand autism / your stressors and coping strategies, he should become a safe place to land.

My bf and I both have PTSD and there are many triggers capable of exposing our frailties. We keep open communication and learn to navigate. I explained my autism on Date 1 and I thought it might be too much for him, but so far so good. Trust that your bf is only looking for reassurance, so he'll know how to help you better next time.

Hugs and goodnight for now.

Hi Joe

Please register your partner on here ASAP so the government can get essential supplies like food delivered to you guys.

https://www.gov.uk/coronavirus-extremely-vulnerable

You could also contact your local Citizens Advice to have a food parcel delivered to you (will contain enough to last you a few days, plus you could ask for toiletries if needed)

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/about ... ns-advice/

Thank you everyone for giving me this helpful support, I couldn't have done it without you guys.

I have signed my boyfriend up for the extremely vulnerable thing and now we just wait.

This is the first meltdown I've had with my boyfriend because before I've never been triggered by anything this side. I don't mask with him. I just lost it yesterday, simply because I felt helpless.

My boyfriend should be self-isolating but nothing's stopping him from buying cigarettes on his way back from dropping me off at work.
I do wish they'd stop selling cigarettes at this point because a lot of desperate people who should be self-isolating are still going to want to have their fix. Just why are they selling cigarettes for?

I'm really glad you've taken these steps to get help. Yay, you!! I know it was hard for you to try new things or sign up for online shopping but look how good it feels! I think you need a "treat Joe to something special" day.

What would make you happy today, that you could do?

Drink coke, but I'm on a diet and I've had a drink of coke for the last few days so it might mess up my diet. I've lost weight by the way.

But I think my heightened depression and anxiety is making me slur or mumble more, because people keep saying "what?" when I speak and I have to repeat what I've just said in a louder tone, which is exhausting. So I think my speech is being affected (which can be a symptom of depression).

Do you drink coffee?

Just thinking coke has a fair bit of caffeine in: you might be suffering a withdrawal from that without realising...

Article in women’s health magazine about caffeine withdrawal: in NTs obviously, I’d expect different and possibly more extreme effects when you take ASD + ADHD into account.

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Congratulations on the weight loss btw.

(I assume that emoji is used to mean a general and sincere thumbs up... not sure why it’s red and winking though)

yaaaaaay joe......... hope you can stay in focus on stuff ... that helps you .coke has caffiene without caffiene dose you may get some of the minor withdrawel symptoms . but might of helped with your weight loss.... congradulation..

beware red winking emoji s

Does it have a meaning I’m not aware of then?

I'm in a panic now because today we received a parcel for another address and I went round to deliver the parcel. The girl who answered the door looked ill, she came downstairs in her pyjamas and this was 6 o'clock in the evening, and she looked pale and unwell. I'm worried in case she has the coronavirus and I will catch it just by making eye contact and passing a box. It wasn't possible to stand 6 feet away (as there were steps) but I stood about 3 or 4 feet away, down about 3 steps, and I reached over to pass the box. She wasn't coughing or sneezing or anything, but I'm not sure if it is still possible to catch it just by looking at an infected person and standing less than 6 feet away.

Also I had to go to the store to get some shopping and it was terrible. The shelves were empty and I was yelled at by a cashier to stand well away when I was paying. I know it's not personal but because of the way I'm feeling right now it feels like everything is a personal attack, even if I know it's not. It's called emotional frailty.
I don't really want to be responsible for essential errands like this. I haven't heard back from the thing I signed my boyfriend up for, and I have a feeling they're probably overbooked with millions of other vulnerable people. It just seems that everyone else is getting the services first and I'm unfortunate enough to be rejected. But I don't want to go out any more, only to work. I don't want to do any errands because I don't want to mix with people during this dangerous time.

If you came round to my house at that time of day you’d most likely find both me and Mrs K in our pyjamas. Ditto my cousin and her husband: if you don’t have to leave the building again, why not be maximally comfortable?

Sure she wasn’t stoned?
Reddening round the eyes, bloodshot? Faint smell of something that isn’t quite like wee?

You can’t catch any disease from looking in any case: eyes can’t transmit or receive bacteria or viruses.
6 feet is cough/sneeze radius.



I know what you mean about not wanting to go out: I had to go to the bank this morning and it gave me the jitters every time I had to walk past someone

I don’t know what to say about the food shops: have you managed to place an order yet?
Dominikee has a point about ordering what food you can from amazon: home delivery is their business, they’re more likely to be able to get it to you quick.

I’m told by my NTs that you have to keep ringing back with things like that so they get so fed up of you pestering them they have to help you... not sure how wise a strategy it is, but I’m proffering the tip for your consideration

I reckon that cashier is probably freaked out and on high anxiety too.
(Says captain obvious)

Same. I'm in pyjamas 24/7. I'm not wearing makeup or anything so I might look pale too.

I also have a doorbell phobia at the best of times. I've been known to hide and have panic attacks.

If someone were to ring now I'd be especially unprepared, and anxious.

Yeah, that too: I jump out of my skin every time the doorbell goes.
My wife does too if she’s concentrating on something, and she’s definitely NT.